What do I do to make sure I don't have a 3rd miscarriage?

[rootsandwings]

Just last week I had my second miscarriage at 9 weeks.  (My first one was in Oct. '09 at 6 weeks) I went in for my regular appointment and nothing was there.  I had been in at 6 weeks and saw the heart beat on the monitor and then NOTHING at the 9 week appt.  It was like the baby had just disappeared! I wasn't bleeding or cramping or anything.  They scheduled me for a D & C the next morning.  Since then I have just been sitting on the couch and crying.  I just keep wondering what happened.  Where did they baby go?  All the doctors were very confused.  That scared me the most.  I just really want to have a baby but even more then that, I just REALLY dont want to have another miscarriage!  The doctor says they wait until after the 3rd miscarriage to do test and stuff.  Do I really have to wait to have a 3rd?  Has anyone been through this and had a baby?  What can I do to make sure I don't have another miscarriage?  I just don't think my heart could handle breaking again!

[tarrah87]

i am very very sorry for your loss i know what it's like i lost a baby at 6 wks and twins at 21 wks back to back and it was devastating. during the twins they found out i had an incompatent cervix and this time to ensure all went well until 13wks i was put on premetrium idk how to spell it lol and it helped out alot. after 13 wks i had a cerclage put in to assist me to full term but even wo an incompatent cervix ask them about premetrium it can be used in cases like  yours froom what my doctor has told me. good luck and i hope all goes well sorry agian for your loss.

[rootsandwings]

I am so sorry!  I FULLY understand how you are feeling!  I have had 2 miscarriages and they didn't even give me ANY support or information or anything with my first one.  You need to be pushy!  I just kept bugging the doctor and he finally agreed to give me a referral to see a reproductive endocrinologist!  I told them that I WILL NOT wait for a 3rd M.C.  I am going on Monday.  Hopefully I can figure out what is going on so I can have a baby next time and no more miscarriages.  I also scheduled an appointment with a chiropractor and am going to start taking Maca pills.  They are supposed to balance hormone levels and help with fertility!  I hope this all works!  Good luck to you!

[gemtreacle]

Hi, i have had 2mc's and they wont do tests till after my third which i find really bad. Depends on which hospital you are at. My hospital is very bad for following up on appointments. its been 10 weeks since my mc and i've had reatined products and an infection. Its been a nightmare. They tested my HCG last tuesday and it was 25, so Im nearly nearly there, but i still have to wait 4 weeks for period.

Ive taken it in to my own hands and i am having acupuncture to get my body to optimum condition, eating healthy etc.

[bernie40]

I'm so sorry for both your losses.  It's annoying that they won't test till you've had 3 miscarriages.  The only advice I can offer you is to take pre-natal vitamins, folic acid, eat a healthy diet, avoid caffeine and obviously don't smoke.  

Best of luck and lots sticky baby dust.