What pain did you feel when you miscarried?

[rccresswell]

Hi all

I guess I am asking this question because in a sense I feel blessed.  On April 13th I miscarried a little boy.  I was suppose to be 14 weeks but my son had stopped growing at 11 weeks.  My miscarriage was pretty straight forward.  I had no knowledge prior to this that there were any problems.

On Monday 12th I started spotting, my midwife couldn't find a hearthbeat which didn't bother me.   I spotted all day.  The next day I had I saw nothing and then I saw brown blood.  I went to the doctor and at 11am my cervix was closed.  At 3pm I noticed red blood and went to hospital.  We got there at 5pm the bleeding wasn't bad.  At 6pm I was literally gushing with golf ball clots.  At 9pm my waters broke and my son and placenta came away.

I do remember a few days prior my back was uncomfortable but not painful.  I didn't have any pain what so ever during the miscarriage or spotting except for a sore back.  After my son came out we did get to see him as a whole and we took a photo of him.  A few hours after my miscarriage I was in intense pain from my uterus contracting back down to size.

Has anyone else had a painfree miscarriage or was I very lucky???

[rccresswell]

Thank you so much for all of your comments.  I am almost 15 weeks pregnant and I am still struggling with the loss of my son.  I guess I do feel blessed to have been through a painfree miscarriage because I was starting to think there was something wrong with me.  I do remember a few hours after my son passed I was in intense pain and could only lie down while the last of the clots came out.

I am so sorry for all of your losses and I do hope I really start to heal before my new baby is born

[needhelp24121]

I miscarried at 8 weeks. Before I started bleeding I noticed that my lower back hurt. After I started bleeding, my lower back still hurt, and I had "cramps" really bad in my lower abdomen. The pain was intense, but I didn't take any medication for it. After a few days the pain got less intense, and after about a week, I only had mild period like cramps, even after I stopped bleeding. Those lasted for about 2 weeks.

[Moonflower09]

I mc'd at 9-10 weeks and stared similar to yours. Wednesday started light brown spotting. Thursday a little more light brown spotting. No pain yet but I became deeply depressed and knew something didn't feel right. Friday came and I stared seeing blood but only when I went to the bathroom and had to "pee". By Friday evening, I just didn't feel good, still no pain. Saturday morning the cramps started. They would come and go about every hour or so. Bleeding became bright red and I started passing clots, clots got bigger, bleeding increased, very painful cramping. Then I passed grey tissue and "knew".

It wasn't over for a LONG time. I continued to bleed for over 8 weeks with occasional cramping that would hit me so hard it would bring me to my knees. It really messed me up, physically, mentally, and emotionally. Worst experience of my life.

[marymoonu]

My miscarriage was between 7 and 8 weeks and caught me totally off guard.  The cramping starting the night before, about 24 hours in advance.  So I knew it was coming, but I didn't know WHAT was coming.  By the time the m/c actually happened, I was having what essentially felt like a milder form of labor contractions.  Still very painful, but not nearly as painful as real labor.  But they were very rhythmic and painful.  The pain continued on for the next 2-3 days while my body continued to pass the huge clots.  After that, it tapered down to more like a normal period and the cramping and pain subsided.  

[Kierajoel]

I am sorry for your loss. I have had a total of 10 miscarriages and not all of them have been painful. I have had some very painful and gory miscarriages and others which have just been like light periods. Every woman and every pregnancy is different.
I have never before felt sick whilst miscarrying but was with my last. It never suprises me when I develop or lack a certain symptom. My body is strange and mysterious and I dont think I or any doctor for that matter will ever understand it completely.

[ArmyPrincess819]

I'm sorry for your loss. I have had 6 losses 2 later term and the rest first trimester and I have always had very painful and very gruesome losses. My last m/c I couldn't even get out of bed everytime I did I was dizzy and losing a ton of blood. I think everyone has different experiences and the common denominator is the grief. I don't want to say your lucky for having a easy m/c more like I'm glad it wasn't harder than it was. Have you fully recovered? I'm always here if you need to talk! Best wishes to you.

AP