What should I expect?

[sammantharn]

I am 35 years old.  My husband and I discovered we were pregnant this past Valentines Day after trying for one year.  I am high risk for multiple reasons but all of my ultrasounds and bloodwork has come back perfect.  I am 15 weeks and was told today that my baby had died.  I see my doctor at 9am tomorrow.  Will they induce me meaning literally going to L&D to deliver?  Will I do this at home?  Any information would be appreciated.  My husband and I are heartbroken.  We have spent the entire day just crying.  Thank-you for listening.

[sammantharn]

Thank-you for your sympathy and words of encouragement.  They are very kind.  As I write, I am lying in a hospital bed having had my second dose of medicine.  The D&C was not an option for us.  We elected medical management.  I want this over as soon as possible.  The nurses, doctors, and the rest of the staff have been wonderful.  Our night nurse sat in here with me and talked, gave some advice, and even cried with me.  They said they will bathe our baby and prepare a memory box for us.  We can spend as much time with our baby as we want.  Our hearts are broken but we feel good about the decisions we have made.  Again, thank-you for the support.  It is truely appreciated.

[Ellenhall85]

I'm so sorry for your loss, it is heartbreaking! I'm Still grieving myself. I'm from the UK and I was giving three options:
1) naturally 2) medical management 3) d&c ( surgery .
I opted for the medical option because the natural one could take weeks and I didn't want to prolong the upset and pain I was going through. However I ended up doing it naturally. Although I actually started the first part of the.medical option I never completed it because my body did it itself. Take your time thinking of your options don't rush , I changed my mind twice.  

[mommyanddaddyd]

First off I would like to say I'm so sorry for your loss... What they will talk about with you is setting an appointment for a D and C. This is a surgery to clean out your uterus to prevent infection. I do believe its outpatient so you'll be able to go home that day. They may talk to you about allowing your body to expel the tissue etc. on your own but I think it may be to late in your pregnancy for that.

Don't lose hope on having another baby. I know its tough to think about right now. Allow yourself grieving time and consider trying again. You did get this far. My mother had a miscarriage before my sister and I. Then along came twins at 36.