Aa
Aa
A
A
A
Close
Avatar universal

Why me

i just had a miscarriage after 4 weeks along and I couldn't feel more of a horrible person, maybe I could've did something to prevent this?
12 Responses
Sort by: Helpful Oldest Newest
5098230 tn?1430974779
Sorry for your loss there really isn't any prevention for miscarriages :/ it's nothing you did don't beat yourself up.
Helpful - 0
Avatar universal
Im sorry for your loss, i had a miscarriage at 6 weeks a couple years ago and the doctors said with miscarriages especially this early on there was nothing you could have done differently, nothing would have been able to change the situation. Its takes time to cope even though of course you will always feel the loss. I pray for you and your family and just believe there has to be a plan
Helpful - 0
Avatar universal
I am so sorry for your loss but no there is nothing that could be done to prevent a miscarriage in the first trimester most doctor's believe it's a genetic defect that causes a miscarriage to happen within the first trimester I've been through a miscarriage at 20 weeks then a missed miscarriage at 8 weeks I know the pain you are feeling build a strong support team behind you it takes time to heal it won't always hurt so bad you will always feel the pain from losing your child but it won't always be so crippling give your body time to heal if you are going to try to conceive again soon have at least a normal menstrual cycle before trying again once again I am so very sorry for your loss
Helpful - 0
Avatar universal
Because at 4 weeks you haven't even missed a period. A very high precent of pregnancies end in miscarriage before the women even know she's pregnant.  It's not harsh,  It's facts, and the fact of life.
Helpful - 0
Avatar universal
I'm so sorry for your loss. It doesn't matter how early I know your pain. I miscarried last September and am now 6 weeks pregnant after 6 months of trying don't lose hope. There's nothing you did wrong. And as for @hrsnow, what exactly is your problem? Because I'm not sure how to take your statement because quite frankly it kind of pisses me off. No shed your negativity and hatred somewhere else :)
Helpful - 0
11605009 tn?1422318427
I def agree with there's nothing you could have done to prevent it! I miscarried early on also last June and again in September. Was definitely hard to deal with emotionally at first :/ Found out we were pregnant again in December & we've made it to 6 months this time. Don't get down on yourself, when it's meant to be it WILL be :) Just gotta try again ;)
Helpful - 0
Avatar universal
If someone doesn't have something positive to say about this situation they should not be responding at all
Helpful - 0
Avatar universal
I recently went through the same thing. I was 11 weeks but my baby was measuring 9w 3d. Its tough but I promiseit was nothing u did. It was just meant to happen. As time ggoes on you'll realize. This happened to me in February.. Time makes things more clear but definitely doesn't heal the hurt.
Helpful - 0
Avatar universal
Hrsnow what does that have to do with ANYTHING that the poster is talking about?
Helpful - 0
Avatar universal
That actually was rude it doesn't matter when you test a miscarriage can happen at anytime
Helpful - 0
Avatar universal
Hrsnow that's a bit harsh doesn't matter how far along you are when you find out if you have a miscarraige it's still a loss! Alaysia I'm sorry for your loss :( what your feeling is normal every woman who has a miscarraige feels the same that they could have done something I know I felt that way when I lost my baby but sometimes these things happen and there is never an explanation! And just because it happened this time it doesn't mean that you won't have a healthy pregnancy in future! Thinking of you hunny x
Helpful - 0
973741 tn?1342342773
Sweetie, one in every FOUR pregnancies ends in miscarriage before the first trimester.  NOTHING can prevent it usually as it starts out as a weak pregnancy.  Most women go on to have healthy full term pregnancies after a miscarriage.  There most likely was no reason or ANYTHING at all you could have done to change things.  Peace
Helpful - 0
Have an Answer?

You are reading content posted in the Miscarriages Community

Didn't find the answer you were looking for?
Ask a question
Popular Resources
Get information and tips on how to help you choose the right place to deliver your baby.
Get the facts on how twins and multiples are formed and your chance of carrying more than one baby at a time.
Learn about the risks and benefits of circumcision.
What to expect during the first hours after delivery.
Learn about early screening and test options for your pregnancy.
Learn about testing and treatment for GBS bacterium.