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[miracleofasingleflower]

i just miscarried 5 days ago. no one around me including my husband seems to understand why i feel so sad still. and now everyone is bringing all of their problems with me up now. i am not sure why they feel it is the right time to do this now.
my mother in law and my husband have decided that my time of mourning is over and it is time to get back to their problems now.
i am still so depressed about the loss of my little angel but today i felt so cold. i felt so ANGRY.
any advise?

[BabyJ83]

Hi There!
I am sorry for your loss.  I too had a miscarraige and know what you are going through.  Mine was about 2yrs ago, but it still hurts when I think about it.  It is different for us woman, cause I believe you have already created a bond with your unborn child.  You should mourn at your own pace and don't listen to what others tell you.  But if I can give you some advice, don't stay off work or just lie in bed, cause then that sadness can turn into a depression.  It is better to keep busy.  And know that your baby is smiling down on you from heavan.  We will hold them in our arms one day.  

Keep well

[beanie485]

I agree you don't have to mourn on your families timetable they are not the ones that lost their baby, you are the only one to know how you are feeling right now. If you need to take a month, then take a month or if you need longer then take longer.  And they are all suppose to be adults let them deal with thier problems all on their own, I mean really what did they do before you came along they got through things somehow I'm sure they will again.
This is a sad time for you and you need to take the time for you to heal not only physically but emotionally and don't let any one derail you from that.
If you feel like you may need some help or someone to talk to to help you with this loss then do it. Because you lost your child no matter whether the baby had been born yet or not that was still your child and people should recognize that.
Will say prayers for you  

[aowens]

I am so sorry for you loss....You will definately go through phases...Of saddness and anger...

Your family simply does not understand, when I had my miscarriage in April my husband even made the statement " you have 3 other children, this is the first child I have lost" believe YES he had to duck on several occassions....NO ONE and I mean NO ONE can tell you how long to mourn your baby...You take as much time as you need...You scream and cry all you need to...and let them be the grown ups that they are and deal with their own problems while you take the time you need...

You have lots of support here...
HUGS and PRAYERS