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I'm in the office can't leave the room I'm crying so hard. My levels were not good enough and the ultrasound shows no growth. They want to give me pills miscarry at home or DC at the hospital. Im a mess. I dont want to loose the baby.
Oh no, so sorry for your loss. I went thru the same thing last year and shocked to hear how common miscarriage actually is. Went for our 12 wks scan and found baby only grew to 9 wks. No pains, no bleeding, we thought everything was fine. We were shocked, my body still looked and felt pregnant but baby didnt make it. They gave me the same 3 options and i opted to wait out the miscarriage. I didnt like the idea of dnc since it sounded too invasive. I miscarried 3 days after the news. It was very difficult but i can tell you, you will get thru it. Hubby and I were able to conceive again soon afterwards and im now 22 wks. We are watching everything closely this time and so far all going well. God is good. Your time will come. Maybe this time just wasnt meant for you. Ive come to terms with natures way of selecting healthy offspring as harsh as it may seem. Take good care of your recovery, it will hapoen for you at the right time and under right circumstances, just believe. Grieve as much as you need, you are going through a lot, so take it easy. Keeping you in my prayers.
Anyone with levels still going up a lil but not much? And was there and growth with ultrasound? Because they said there is no change
Get a second opinion if your levels are going up there is still hope. I was in the same situation a few months ago but I waited and now I am 27 weeks with my baby girl
I took the pills, but only because my levels were dropping and there was a heartbeat at first but the next time there wasn't. Your story isn't as bleak as mine was yet. Stay hopeful. Maybe the new doctor will have better news.
I went through the same thing last may. No fetal pull no heart beat no growth I went home to let it happen natural but couldn't wait I knew there was something wrong so I called back and had a DNC within a few days there was nothing else I could do but the DNC was not bad it was easy and just got it over with so I could focus on healing my body and mind! Its very hard going through something like that but good things will happen I'm currently 26 weeks with a healthy baby! Good luck and try to relax
Im so confused idk if I can go thru with the DNC. Because I'm afraid of it happing while at work while I had a few days off next week is why I considered it. But I honestly and so confused and hurting so badly. And listening to your stories is helping me so much. With out you guys I would be so lost. The way you guys are helping me and each other is more than I can ever express.
Yes I'm going to call for a second opinion tomorrow with a completely different group. The numbers are going up but she said not enough and no growth on the ultrasound. I just keep feeling like what if. I know they are over confirming as the doctor says. But I kept asking so it won't grow to a baby??? She keeps saying no.
I had a misscarage last year and the hcg levels can sometimes stay the same in a normal pregnancy but they shouldn't go down. Yours have not gone down so there is still a chance the baby is fine. I would not have a dnc. You are not far enough along to make it medically necessary. It would be better for your body to take the pills or to do it naturally. I would get a second opinion.
I'm so sorry :( this happened to me last February. My baby never developed. As hard as it is, it happens 1 in 4 pregnancies, it isn't anything you did wrong. I decided not to get a D&C and ended up in ER getting one anyway, so listen to your docs. I got pregnant 6 weeks after my D&C and am expecting a little girl in March. Hubby and I still talk about our baby that didn't make it, you don't forget or love them any less, but with time it does get easier...thinking positive thoughts for you today
Sorry you're going through this. I'm praying for you and baby. Hopefully a second opinion tells you theres a chance. Perhaps not scheduling it would give you more peace of mind in the future and doesn't leave you thinking "what if.." And maybe its a good thing you found out what the babys dad is really like in a difficult situation in your life. You deserve someone that will be there for you no matter what.
So the levels came back and they didn't go up any more. So right now they are scheduling a d/c for wednesday. In the mean time i will try to get a second opinion.
So the levels came back and they didn't go up any more. So right now they are scheduling a d/c for wednesday. In the mean time i will try to get a second opinion.
I've had 2 miscarriages before this one it's really hard to lose something you love so much I get it . I'm so sorry for your lose
I'm so sorry your going through this. I dont have advice because I haven't miscarried or been in similar situation. I'm ftm, so I don't know much. But about the baby daddy, he is so immature & selfish. Please don't focus any of your energy of him, I wouldn't even talk to him. Focus your health & see another doctor about the baby's growth, sometimes doctors make mistakes and 2nd opinion might change.
What's really hurting is the father was trying to force me to have an abortion and i refused so he abandoned me. So now hes happy he gets what he wants. I can never be around him again after this. He wanted something to happen.
I have to work a lot the next few days so at first I said I guess go have it done so I don't miscarry at work. But what if some how they are wrong? I can't bring myself to do it. If there is something wrong I will still love the baby I just want it to live I don't care. But she said its going to miscarry.
I'm going to just let it happen I'm confused she kept saying it wont be healthy. So i kept asking so does this mean the baby wont live is there no way???? She said no
Thank everyone. To Jessica0323 because I didn't remember my first day of my last period they tried to do an ultrasound to date the pregnancy. Well I have an retroverted uterus and it was hard to see the baby but the sac measured 7 weeks. I did 2 sets of hcg. First set on the 16th level was 16,700 on Monday they were 21,500 and the ultrasound today she said is still measuring 7 weeks. So the doctor said its not growing and the numbers should have more than doubled. But the girls at the desk told me Monday that they were good so I'm more upset they told me then it was good and it wasn't. So the doctor said it will no grow and I will miscarry so I can let it happen, take the pills and miscarry at home or go to the hospital to get a d/c. She needed to know my blood type so she said we will do one more hcg to prove to me its not going to happen. She wanted to call in the pills I said no.
Definitely get a second opinion and don't take that pill yet!!! I know of a case where the Dr was wrong and you want to be absolutely sure before putting an end to the baby! So sorry for what you are dealing with and praying for a miracle!
My heart goes out to you hun :-( same thing happenend to Me early last year and I had D&C hospital . So heart breaking hun can feel your pain . Sending hugs to you. Get a second opinion tho x
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