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first miscarriage
I had a miscarriage while I was carrying my second child. I had a D&C done about a month ago. I just got my monthly visit yesterday & was just curious about some things. I've never been through this before. Some days are good & others I can't stop thinking about it or just start crying over little things. I'm not really sure how to get past this. I will never forget the baby but I do want to move on & try again with my fiance to have another child. We do have a son who is 2 years old. I have been having nightmares the last few weeks, also been sweating at night, haven't been sleeping well, my appetite hasn't been the best, been getting dizzy, & kinda spacing out sometimes since my thoughts are a mess. I'm just looking for advice on if all this is normal & how to get through this.
I am sorry for your loss. I still get chocked up just thinking about talking about it & it's even worse when I actually talk about it.
I've read a few questions that people have & tried to answer them but other than that I think I've read 2 or 3 stories so far.
The waves of emotions are normal because your hormones are still going crazy. I had my m/c June 5th. I still get down thinking about it, and when i see other pregnant girls i think...that should be me. But I know in my heart that there must have been something wrong and thats why I mc'd. So we will try again in 6 months. We are waiting that long to give ourselves some time to grieve and recover emotionally. It can be tough, My husband took is especially hard.
I hope that helped. I just wanted to let you know that I know what you are going through. It took me about 6 weeks before I could even talk about it without breaking down into tears. It just takes time.
I hope that helped. I just wanted to let you know that I know what you are going through. It took me about 6 weeks before I could even talk about it without breaking down into tears. It just takes time.
Yeah there is never a dull moment!! Have you gotten a chance to navigate the site and read some stories? If not you should..there are truely some amazing women on here :)
Wow girl! Everything seemed to happen to you all at once, huh? I wish you luck on going back to school. It helps me when I'm busy so I'm trying to stay busy but right now not having much luck with that. lol.
Lol that's funny.. I quit my job. At the time I didn't know I was pregnant and work was driving me crazy. I quit and found out I was prego then miscarried all in the same week. So I was looking for a job. But I decided to do school full time. I'm actually waiting at the school to see some one to go over my classes. Having something to keep my mind occupied is great :)
I feel the same way. Like my friends & family expect me to be the same person that I was before but I'm not that person anymore. Things happen that change who you are & this is definitely one of them. I'm sorry about your baby & your grandpa. That must have been hard especially being the week of mothers' day. I'm trying to get a job & also going to start back to school in August after taking the summer off so that I can stay a little busy.
Well you will never forget..me and my BFF are kinda at odds I think she expects me to be back to the old me..but this really changed me and how I look at things. I loss my first family member (since I can remember)Grandfather and my first baby the same day. And on top of it all the week of mothers day!! So I know how rough it is, and how hard it is to get back to normal.
Thank you. It is nice to be able to talk to people who actually understand how I feel & where I'm coming from. I'm sorry for your loss as well.
I'm sorry for your loss. The thing about this forum is that we've all been through the same thing, whether it was an early loss or a later loss it's still a loss and it hurts. I was just 5 months when I lost my son, that was in October and I still have bad days and probably always will. Being able to talk to people who really understand is what has gotten me to where i'm at today. If you feel physically and emotionally ready, and have the ok from your Dr. then there is no reason you can't move forward, you'll always hold a special place in your heart for the baby you lost. Good luck to you and remember, we're always here to talk and listen..................Lori
Thank you! I am sorry for yours as well. I was actually just looking up what the symptoms that I was having were from & I found this site. You're right though, it does make you feel better when you can openly talk about how you feel & people listen. I just feel like everyone expects me to have forgot about it already, but I haven't.
Sorry for your loss. I had a mc May 6th that was my first time ever being pregnant..The first month was VERY hard. I was really emotional especially when AF came...made feel like I was going through mc all over again. It definately takes time but this site was a big help to me. Its nice to be able to get out how you really feel without people thinking you should be over it already or any of that. It is very normal what you are going through. I hope you feel better soon. If you need to talk I am here.
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