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help!!
Im struggling so bad to get over my miscarriage that i had in december i used to be such a fun bubbly person i used to party till 4am with friends n i used to be out all day everyday jus goin to see friends shoppin n so on wen i had my miscarriage i bled for 5 weeks i was in agony the first 2weeks i cudnt eat a thing cos of the pain i was sooo weak i jus laid all day now im fine kind of my bodys still really week am takin vitamins n eatin well i jus cant do anything im so run down my hair is fallin out i cant sleep i cant stay up past 7pm its drivine insane n to top it off my big sis is preg she came over with the scan n i didnt kno what to do im happy for her but it jis breaks my heart to think of how big my baby wud be i shud be 26 weeks now why isnt it gettin better :'(
GemGem
I just needed to get this off my chest, as i remember one of ur earlier posts, but forgot to mention this to you :-)
You not being dramatic, and i feel that ur family should be supporting u more, if ur still feeling this way, ur a women who has gone through an awful experience and i feel for you so much.
The Ex boyfriend, very heartless to blame you (easy to blame someone eles), that's out of order, don't ever think this was ur fault it's not. I did nothing wrong and it happened to me and am sure u did everything perfectly too.
Always here for you if u wanna talk more :-)
I just needed to get this off my chest, as i remember one of ur earlier posts, but forgot to mention this to you :-)
You not being dramatic, and i feel that ur family should be supporting u more, if ur still feeling this way, ur a women who has gone through an awful experience and i feel for you so much.
The Ex boyfriend, very heartless to blame you (easy to blame someone eles), that's out of order, don't ever think this was ur fault it's not. I did nothing wrong and it happened to me and am sure u did everything perfectly too.
Always here for you if u wanna talk more :-)
I understand your feelings completly.
There are some mothers out there who have treated there children in the most shocking and evil way. The News in the past has shown us that some people should never be allowed to have children, that makes me sick. Yes there are plently of great mum out there and most do a good job, but there is a good amount that i feel don't appreciate having a child at all.
A woman who has not experienced a miscarriage will never totally understand how heart breaking and painful it is. Just 1 baby would do me and I would be happy, even if i had miscarriages afterwards, I would always have my 1 child and that would be a good enough blessing to me. Ok I was be abit upset, but would be grateful just to have A Child.
I am 30 yrs old and have no kids, very upset about this too, had my miscarriage in Jan 2012, 1st and only miscarriage, might be 2nd time luck, maybe, lets see.
I know it's hard gemgem, but do keep as busy as possible. Staying in will makes u think about it non stop until u feel ur going mad. I know it's been hard for you and I admire ur strenght, but there is still time, women have kids in there mid 40's, there is still time for us.
In regards to ur sister, maybe try and talk to her and tell her how u feel, maybe she does not realise what she is doing.
Miscarriage does change you in more ways than one, but in time u learn to cope better, but some people take it worse than others, so depends on the person. I am here anytime u want to rant and rave, as i get what ur saying.
Rach
There are some mothers out there who have treated there children in the most shocking and evil way. The News in the past has shown us that some people should never be allowed to have children, that makes me sick. Yes there are plently of great mum out there and most do a good job, but there is a good amount that i feel don't appreciate having a child at all.
A woman who has not experienced a miscarriage will never totally understand how heart breaking and painful it is. Just 1 baby would do me and I would be happy, even if i had miscarriages afterwards, I would always have my 1 child and that would be a good enough blessing to me. Ok I was be abit upset, but would be grateful just to have A Child.
I am 30 yrs old and have no kids, very upset about this too, had my miscarriage in Jan 2012, 1st and only miscarriage, might be 2nd time luck, maybe, lets see.
I know it's hard gemgem, but do keep as busy as possible. Staying in will makes u think about it non stop until u feel ur going mad. I know it's been hard for you and I admire ur strenght, but there is still time, women have kids in there mid 40's, there is still time for us.
In regards to ur sister, maybe try and talk to her and tell her how u feel, maybe she does not realise what she is doing.
Miscarriage does change you in more ways than one, but in time u learn to cope better, but some people take it worse than others, so depends on the person. I am here anytime u want to rant and rave, as i get what ur saying.
Rach
I kno it frustrates me wen ppl say it was meant to be it doesnt stop my pain n it doesnt make it any easier thing is i jus got ready to be a mother now its been taken away from me my pregnancy was not planned n im now single so dont see myself becomin pregnant in the near future
i am happy for my sister but i get frustrated with her for example she bought the cot and nappys n so on before she was 12 weeks after seein what i went thro i thought she wud realise it does happen
also i get frustrated with ppl who seem to pop kids out and not give a damn about them i mean why should they get to keeps there babys n mine got took away i was ready to give up everything it not fair!!
and lately ive become a different person i cant leave the house anymore unless i have to n if i do i get all lightheaded n naseous its horrible i jus cant do anything anymore i dont for one second regret my baby but i want my life back i dont want to be scared to leave the house i wana go out and see my friends :(
i am happy for my sister but i get frustrated with her for example she bought the cot and nappys n so on before she was 12 weeks after seein what i went thro i thought she wud realise it does happen
also i get frustrated with ppl who seem to pop kids out and not give a damn about them i mean why should they get to keeps there babys n mine got took away i was ready to give up everything it not fair!!
and lately ive become a different person i cant leave the house anymore unless i have to n if i do i get all lightheaded n naseous its horrible i jus cant do anything anymore i dont for one second regret my baby but i want my life back i dont want to be scared to leave the house i wana go out and see my friends :(
Hi GemGem
I feel your pain and I would have been 6 months on the 19th April... It breaks me heart and what makes it worse it when someone close in your family especially if there older gets pregant. It's so hard to be happy when your in so much pain & then you have the pain of feeling bad about the way you feel too, this makes ur pain even harder to deal with.
My older sister was lucky not to have experienced a miscarriage, and on my 1st attempt at age 29 I had one, I was angry with the world and did not wanna be around anyone especially children or babies. This makes it worse cos it reminds you what you lost.
Must be hard with everyone talking about ur sister being pregant and dealing with this, am happy that my sister already has her kids, and I don't have to be around that, because how can i be happy when my baby is gone, am sorry but the pain is too raw at this point, and am unhappy in myself so how can i expect to show or feel happiness for anyone eles, it's not that am selfish, but my energy needs to go into myself and healing myself, not into anything eles.
I am pissed annoyed and am having bad days too, some very bad days, sometimes am soo scared, thinking am too old and i feel it just might never happen, but whatever will be will be, I can't control my destiny and it's not in my hands, it ***** but that's life.
At the end of the day I will have a baby or a wont. No matter how I feel if it's not meant to be then nothing I do or don't do will never change that, so I have come to accept that now, that's hard to accept too.
I feel there is still a chance for me, as that was my 1st miscarriage, so maybe i will get lucky, maybe, but let's see ......
I know ur in a bad place, but try and remain calm and keep busy. Many woman go through this and still have kids, i know there are few women who can't have children, but u and I still have a very good chance. Lets stay focused and heal our hearts.
Rachel
I feel your pain and I would have been 6 months on the 19th April... It breaks me heart and what makes it worse it when someone close in your family especially if there older gets pregant. It's so hard to be happy when your in so much pain & then you have the pain of feeling bad about the way you feel too, this makes ur pain even harder to deal with.
My older sister was lucky not to have experienced a miscarriage, and on my 1st attempt at age 29 I had one, I was angry with the world and did not wanna be around anyone especially children or babies. This makes it worse cos it reminds you what you lost.
Must be hard with everyone talking about ur sister being pregant and dealing with this, am happy that my sister already has her kids, and I don't have to be around that, because how can i be happy when my baby is gone, am sorry but the pain is too raw at this point, and am unhappy in myself so how can i expect to show or feel happiness for anyone eles, it's not that am selfish, but my energy needs to go into myself and healing myself, not into anything eles.
I am pissed annoyed and am having bad days too, some very bad days, sometimes am soo scared, thinking am too old and i feel it just might never happen, but whatever will be will be, I can't control my destiny and it's not in my hands, it ***** but that's life.
At the end of the day I will have a baby or a wont. No matter how I feel if it's not meant to be then nothing I do or don't do will never change that, so I have come to accept that now, that's hard to accept too.
I feel there is still a chance for me, as that was my 1st miscarriage, so maybe i will get lucky, maybe, but let's see ......
I know ur in a bad place, but try and remain calm and keep busy. Many woman go through this and still have kids, i know there are few women who can't have children, but u and I still have a very good chance. Lets stay focused and heal our hearts.
Rachel
My first dnc a year ago I stayed depressed until I got pregnant again in Feb. Well we lost this one as well and I promised myself I wouldn't sink into depression. I'm keeping myself busy not shutting anyone out and working on getting ready to try again. Easier said then done I know I had a rough day yesterday but I think its hormones still dropping. What gets me is everyone saying things happen for a reason well what reason should we go through this heartache. That's how I feel. Stay positive you can get through this
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