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This is my first pregnancy and everyone was so excited for me. Mom bought tons of baby stuff I found out at my appointment that the baby did not make it... That they think it died at 16 weeks so I'm not sure how to tell my mom and family please any advice would help
I definitely agree with you! I lost my son at 14 weeks and I was fortunate to hold him, see him and know him. I lost him 5 years ago and I still cry or get upset about it. Women that have not experienced a loss can not imagine the pain you feel!
I was in a similar situation. I was 14 weeks when I miscarried and the worse thing about it is I announced I was pregnant on facebook at 13 weeks 4 days. After a few days I announced that I had lost the baby and would appreciate it if no one would leave messages because it was too hard to cope with. It worked out well because everyone let me grieve and only a few good friends contacted me which was nice. You will be surprised at how much your family will support you during this difficult time.
I lost my son at 16wks in September last year.
I was induced and had him a week later in the hospital.
It was devastating, and I'm so sorry you have to join this horrible loss community :(
I basically announced on my Facebook (when I had it) the news of his passing. So that EVERYONE knew all at once, and I didn't have to answer people if they didn't hear and ask me 'how's the bean doing?' etc.
I called my mom after my appt. and my best friend, and then went right home to tell my fiancé - and we just cried. I told him my options and we both decided to get induced to be able to bring him home in one piece instead of a D&C.
I had my fiancé hide/store all the things we had gotten too, because I just couldn't cope. You will feel empty, and that's normal.
It was terrifying, painful, but EXTREMELY helpful in the healing process. Being able to hold him, and see what he looked like, and bring him home and bury him in our yard was more than I could have asked for.
Grieve as long as you need. Cry as much as you want. And DON'T do anything you don't want to. This loss is not something to rush through, and you will never fully heal from it :(
There are some journals I wrote on my page here from right after I lost him, that may help you.
The movie 'return to zero' is also amazing. You can only buy it on Amazon / online though. It's about stillbirth, but they do an amazing job at not categorizing it. A loss is still a loss. Whether your baby be 9wks, 19wks or 39wks. You hoped, and longed for the moment of bringing this child home, and now that dream is shattered. People who haven't gone through this, just DONT know what it's like.
I was induced and had him a week later in the hospital.
It was devastating, and I'm so sorry you have to join this horrible loss community :(
I basically announced on my Facebook (when I had it) the news of his passing. So that EVERYONE knew all at once, and I didn't have to answer people if they didn't hear and ask me 'how's the bean doing?' etc.
I called my mom after my appt. and my best friend, and then went right home to tell my fiancé - and we just cried. I told him my options and we both decided to get induced to be able to bring him home in one piece instead of a D&C.
I had my fiancé hide/store all the things we had gotten too, because I just couldn't cope. You will feel empty, and that's normal.
It was terrifying, painful, but EXTREMELY helpful in the healing process. Being able to hold him, and see what he looked like, and bring him home and bury him in our yard was more than I could have asked for.
Grieve as long as you need. Cry as much as you want. And DON'T do anything you don't want to. This loss is not something to rush through, and you will never fully heal from it :(
There are some journals I wrote on my page here from right after I lost him, that may help you.
The movie 'return to zero' is also amazing. You can only buy it on Amazon / online though. It's about stillbirth, but they do an amazing job at not categorizing it. A loss is still a loss. Whether your baby be 9wks, 19wks or 39wks. You hoped, and longed for the moment of bringing this child home, and now that dream is shattered. People who haven't gone through this, just DONT know what it's like.
Sorry to hear your loss. I'll be 16 weeks tomorrow and I can't imagine. Prayers for you. And id agree with the first comment. Tell your mom first and let her spread the word. If you feel comfortable later down the road you can say it.
So sorry to hear about your loss just break the news when your ready but do it soon
I would tell your mom first, and then ask her to please spread the word. Say you are not ready to talk about it, and if/when you are ready to talk with the rest of your family that you will come to them.
I'm so sorry for your loss!!
I'm so sorry for your loss!!
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