Hi i had a miscarriage on march 31st 2009 and my doctor said i need to wait 3 months to get pregnant again
but thats just seeming to take forever. And other people i talk to (doctors, websites, online people) they all say
that there is no medical reason to wait and that you should only have to wait until your first normal cycle! what do you think! and what should i do cause i really cant take waiting any more i was so attatched to my first baby and i really need to try and concieve again! so please help me out!
Hey there, my OBGYN said two regular cycles, which is what I did after my first two pregnancies. Miscarriages on both. Now I am with an RE and just had my third miscarriage. He wants me to wait three cycles. That is what I am going to do. He says there is a slight increased risk of miscarriage if it's sooner than that. I don't know how much truth there is to that, but I would follow the advice of your doctor. He/she knows what it best for you and you can bet there is a good reason he wants you to wait. It won't do any good to rush it and have another miscarriage because your body was not fully recovered and prepared to handle another pregnancy.
Three months will go by before you know it. I know it seems like forever right now. But it will be worth the wait, especially if your next time is successful.
I'm sorry for your loss. I would def wait to have your follow up app to make sure everything is okay and your body has had a chance to heal. I chose not to wait with my last m/c but I had a natural m/c. Honestly it's a personal choice but just be certain you choose the safest one. Best wishes to you and good luck. I'm here if you need to talk.
hello army....if you cheq my pregnancy track you will understand better what i bin true and what i did....i ready have 4 miscarriage....with my first 3 i wait betwen 6 month to a year to try again....after my last miscarriage on 5-4-09 I decide to go for a baby whitout wait....I try on abril, after my bleeding from my miscarriage stop, but nothing happend, on the 3 of may i get my first piriod after my miscarriage and I try again....im in my waiting days....I hope Im pregnant and i hope my body keep it this time if im....but what im trying to say is....to wait long after a miscarriage or try sooner dont give you more or less chance to get pregnant the next time after a miscarriage or to dont miscarriage the next time....have many factor why we can miscarriage and many of this factors is not in our hands....we can eat well, we can stop to smoke, we can not drink to help for everything go well and still doing all that we can miscarriage anyway....my only advice is dont give up and keep trying.....my doctor tell me, if I feel ready to give a try...i should do it....he say to dont have reason why not to do it...now i decide to dont wait....and in few days i will tell you if im or not...but i have the feeling im.....im praying now for god let me keep it if im this time.
good luck and im sure you goin to do the right thing if your follow your feeling and your hearth....inside deep in us we ready now what is the best for us....the problem is, not always we put attention to what say our voice inside us.
I'm sorry for your losses. I myself have had 6 and it's been in my experience and and info given to me from my dr's for the reasons why waiting and not waitin is a personal choice. Every situation is different and most of us never truly know why we have a m/c. If you have followed up with your dr and made sure that all your lab work is fine and maybe even had a u/s to make sure everything is okay your uterus and ovaries etc most dr's will give you the green light to trying right away. I agree with you, some of us can do everything right and still m/c but there are alot of factors involved ongoing infections such as urinary or infections in the uterus, std's, age, weight etc. I was not sent to a specialist based on my age and that I have children. There is alot of help out there for women who are getting older or have no children and keep having reoccurring m/cs. Have you talked with your dr what your next step is? I'm not sure if you were asking me a question or just making a statement! Best wishes to you and good luck!
hello there ive just stumbled along this website and all what you are saying has been very helpfull to me, as i have recently had a miscarriage and i had been trying for 2 years perviouse to that, and i want to try again for another one but didnt know how long to wait till i do as in myself i feel ready to try again but dont want the chance of having another miscarrage! so i have just been reading some of you posts and feel it has helped me alot and wanted to say thanks you and sorry for your loss's!
Many thanks Jane
I am so sorry for your loss,I do understand what you are going through.
I just had d&c 2 weeks ago, after losing my baby at week 18. He died week 14 but I did not know about it. Anyway,long story short, I just had an appo with my doc cause I did not want to wait 6 months to ttc again, so I scheduled it for 2 weeks appo and just had it on Friday.
I asked him to ttc right away and he said that although he wanted me to wait 1 cycle while asked him in the hospital, he still thinks I can ttc right away ,as long as I am emotionally ready for it.
I , like you, was very attached tot his baby and took it extremely hard. My baby died from true knots int he cord, he was all tangled, there was nothing healthy wrong with him...very sad. I don't know how old are you but I am 41 and time is not on my side...I wanted to ttc immediately and posted some questions here. I got mixed replies, but in general, as I can see it now and after my doc explained it to me, it is better to wait for 1 cycle to be able to determine the age of the preg ,but if there are no health issues and you are emotionally ready- I would say go for it!
I find it life saver since I tried again. My emotions get better, easier in away, I find myself less crying in compare to before ttc and in general I think it was essential for me. It might be the same for you.
All of us who have lost their baby are so sensitive and heart broken, and it is hard to explain how we feel inside,it is like something died with the baby. Some moms, like me and maybe you, need this ttc again to regain our strength and come back to tracks.
I would say go for it! As long as your doc approved health wise.
Good luck and please feel free to contact me directly if you need more answers or support! I know how it feels, I do!
I'm 37 and recently lost my first baby at 23 weeks due to the cord being wrapped around his neck. This has been absolutely devastating for both me and my partner..all the plans, hopes and preparations. I delivered Jake 4 weeks ago and left the labour ward with a box of memories instead of my baby, I understand what you are all going through. I'm desperate to try again straight away, although my partner (who is younger than me) has reservations. When we are trying I feel that I can start to heal and move forward. However, I'm petrified of this happening again and feel that as a couple we wouldn't survive the heartache if it did. Any thoughts? Julie
my age is 27yrs.my LMP was 17th august09 n after a month i did upt.it was week +ive.i thought may be i concieved late so my upt is week positive.it repeated my upt aftr a week. again line was week.i consulted a gyneac.she did my usg( trans vaginal).n told me to wait 4 next three weeks till viability comes.i repeated my usg n there were niether signs of viability nor developement of g-sac.it was emblited ovum.n she advised dnc.it was so bitter to hear that. n the next day i went 4 dnc.after dnc my menses started on 17th nov.now m getting impatient n want to concieve.so plz advice what should i do.......
I am so sorry for what you are going through. I am currenty waitng for af to come. My doctor advised me to wait three "normal" periods. I don't want to go through this again and will follow all my doctors directions.
Good Luck to all of you and baby dust to everyone!
I had a D&C December 4th and my doctor recommends waiting a month to get an more exact date on conception for a better due date and more accurate logging. My periods are always crazy so with my last pregnancy they never knew the exact dates either. My doctor said they recommend a month for emotional healing but we can try after two weeks if we so choose. We have decided to try, he said it doesn't raise your risk of miscarriage as long as your uterus wasn't scraped thin and you wait for your hormone levels to drob. Mine have already dropped down almost completely. Every couple/person is different and there is no right answer. Several people on this site delivered completely healthy babies after miscarrying and trying immediately after the D&C. Then other people wait months before trying and can still miscarry. No right answer :-(. My personal opinion is that if I do get pregnant right away and miscarry at least I didn't torture myself another 4 months counting down everyday waiting and then eventually getting pregnant and then MAYBE going through it again except with 4 months more wasted time. It's a hard decission! I wish you all the best of luck!
i had a d&c march 2, 2011 n i was so sad about it... i had my first doc appt they went to listen for my baby heart beat no beat,,,so they did a ultrasound and i had a missed miscarriage... my doc told me to wait 2 r 3 cycles but i really dnt want to wait.. i wont to try again now i mean i have one child thts 5yrs old... i knw god want the best from me & i want a health baby and im so ready for my 2nd child....can someone please make me understand...
first off im sorry for your loss I just had a m/c and im still emotionally drained . but I think you have to wait 2 cycles because of the lining beaing too thin will cause problems in inplantation . That has been what I was told by the dr . Loretta
Your story is just like my wife and I 's we lost your son recently, she said she wants to try again but not sure if my heart is ready I love her more than words can describe. My sons was perfectly healthy in all ways his cord was wrapped around his neck and body. As a Fireman (15yrs) and my wife as a Nurse ( nicu 10yrs ) we both know risks, But it just ***** all the way, and a pos note a we got to hold him and the Mortuary was great, and Company Now I lay me Down to sleep came to the Hosp. took awesome pics, sorry for rambling ladies to a Dad, a Husband any pointers
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