how long should i wait after a dnc to get pregnant

[sadie_bug]

Hi i had a miscarriage on march 31st 2009 and my doctor said i need to wait 3 months to get pregnant again
but thats just seeming to take forever. And other people i talk to (doctors, websites, online people) they all say
that there is no medical reason to wait and that you should only have to wait until your first normal cycle! what do you think! and what should i do cause i really cant take waiting any more i was so attatched to my first baby and i really need to try and concieve again! so please help me out!

                                                                             Thank you!

[kristine625]

Hey there,  my OBGYN said two regular cycles, which is what I did after my first two pregnancies.  Miscarriages on both.  Now I am with an RE and just had my third miscarriage.  He wants me to wait three cycles.  That is what I am going to do.  He says there is a slight increased risk of miscarriage if it's sooner than that.  I don't know how much truth there is to that, but  I would follow the advice of your doctor.  He/she knows what it best for you and you can bet there is a good reason he wants you to wait.  It won't do any good to rush it and have another miscarriage because your body was not fully recovered and prepared to handle another pregnancy.

Three months will go by before you know it.  I know it seems like forever right now.  But it will be worth the wait, especially if your next time is successful.

[ArmyPrincess819]

I'm sorry for your loss. I would def wait to have your follow up app to make sure everything is okay and your body has had a chance to heal. I chose not to wait with my last m/c but I had a natural m/c. Honestly it's a personal choice but just be certain you choose the safest one. Best wishes to you and good luck. I'm here if you need to talk.

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[tiroloca]

hello army....if you cheq my pregnancy track you will understand better what i bin true and what i did....i ready have 4 miscarriage....with my first 3 i wait betwen 6 month to a year to try again....after my last miscarriage on 5-4-09 I decide to go for a baby whitout wait....I try on abril, after my bleeding from my miscarriage stop, but nothing happend, on the 3 of may i get my first piriod after my miscarriage and I try again....im in my waiting days....I hope Im pregnant and i hope my body keep it this time if im....but what im trying to say is....to wait long after a miscarriage or try sooner dont give you more or less chance to get pregnant the next time after a miscarriage or to dont miscarriage the next time....have many factor why we can miscarriage and many of this factors is not in our hands....we can eat well, we can stop to smoke, we can not drink to help for everything go well and still doing all that we can miscarriage anyway....my only advice is dont give up and keep trying.....my doctor tell me, if I feel ready to give a try...i should do it....he say to dont have reason why not to do it...now i decide to dont wait....and in few days i will tell you if im or not...but i have the feeling im.....im praying now for god let me keep it if im this time.

good luck and im sure you goin to do the right thing if your follow your feeling and your hearth....inside deep in us we ready now what is the best for us....the problem is, not always we put attention to what say our voice inside us.

[ArmyPrincess819]

I'm sorry for your losses. I myself have had 6 and it's been in my experience and and info given to me from my dr's for the reasons why waiting and not waitin is a personal choice. Every situation is different and most of us never truly know why we have a m/c. If you have followed up with your dr and made sure that all your lab work is fine and maybe even had a u/s to make sure everything is okay your uterus and ovaries etc most dr's will give you the green light to trying right away. I agree with you, some of us can do everything right and still m/c but there are alot of factors involved ongoing infections such as urinary or infections in the uterus, std's, age, weight etc. I was not sent to a specialist based on my age and that I have children. There is alot of help out there for women who are getting older or have no children and keep having reoccurring m/cs. Have you talked with your dr what your next step is? I'm not sure if you were asking me a question or just making a statement! Best wishes to you and good luck!

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[janey34lou]

hello there ive just stumbled along this website and all what you are saying has been very helpfull to me, as i have recently had a miscarriage and i had been trying for 2 years perviouse to that, and i want to try again for another one but didnt know how long to wait till i do as in myself i feel ready to try again but dont want the chance of having  another miscarrage (miscarriage)! so i have just been reading some of you posts and feel it has helped me alot and wanted to say thanks you and sorry for your loss's!
Many thanks Jane

[shon123]

Dear sadie_bug,

I am so sorry for your loss,I do understand what you are going through.

I just had d&c 2 weeks ago, after losing my baby at week 18. He died week 14 but I did not know about it. Anyway,long story short, I just had an appo with my doc cause I did not want to wait 6 months to ttc again, so I scheduled it for 2 weeks appo and just had it on Friday.

I asked him to ttc right away and he said that although he wanted me to wait 1 cycle while asked him in the hospital, he still thinks I can ttc right away ,as long as I am emotionally ready for it.

I , like you, was very attached tot his baby and took it extremely hard. My baby died from true knots int he cord, he was all tangled, there was nothing healthy wrong with him...very sad. I don't know how old are you but I am 41 and time is not on my side...I wanted to ttc immediately and posted some questions here. I got mixed replies, but in general, as I can see it now and after my doc explained it to me, it is better to wait for 1 cycle to be able to determine the age of the preg ,but if there are no health issues and you are emotionally ready-  I would say go for it!  

I find it life saver since I tried again. My emotions get better, easier in away, I find myself less crying in compare to before ttc and in general I think it was essential for me. It might be the same for you.

All of us who have lost their baby are so sensitive and heart broken, and it is hard to explain how we feel inside,it is like something died with the baby. Some moms, like me and maybe you, need this ttc again to regain our strength and come back to tracks.

I would say go for it! As long as your doc approved health wise.

Good luck and please feel free to contact me directly if you need more answers or support! I know how it feels, I do!

[jools771]

I'm 37 and recently lost my first baby at 23 weeks due to the cord being wrapped around his neck. This has been absolutely devastating for both me and my partner..all the plans, hopes and preparations. I delivered Jake 4 weeks ago and left the labour ward with a box of memories instead of my baby, I understand what you are all going through. I'm desperate to try again straight away, although my partner (who is younger than me) has reservations. When we are trying I feel that I can start to heal and move forward. However, I'm petrified of this happening again and feel that as a couple we wouldn't survive the heartache if it did. Any thoughts? Julie