miscarriage at 8 weeks

[kel36959]

My last period was 14th may 2010. i had a very small bleed on 6th july i was sent to hospital for a scan on 8th july just to check things and put my mind at ease. when i had scan i was deverstated when they told me they couldnt find a heart beat. i was told i may pass baby over the next few days but i didnt. ive got no pain no bleeding, im still feeling very sick, hungary and my bump is getting bigger im due to be re scanned on monday 19th july im so worrried confussed could my baby be ok or am i being silly and need to face the truth. im convinced my baby is ok it will break me if there is no heart beat on monday. what will happen if there is no heartbeat. im so scared. i would have been 8 weeks on friday

[Bampf]

A bright side, you should heal faster from the procedure than I did with my miscarriage at home.  I've had a d and c before as a treatment with infertility problems and that aspect from the procedure didn't really phase me physically.  The emotional aspect is much harder to deal with though.  As far as waiting, for me the baby never developed into anything that was visiable.  I had no yolk sac either.  So essentially I had waited a total of almost 12 weeks without a baby.  It was 5 weeks past the doctor's prognosis.  I just focus on the fact that I conceived this pregnancy without the help of a doctor and my hormone levels were great to be able to sustain a pregnancy without additional intervention.  Now to just get pregnany again and hope for the best.

Good luck to everyone!!

[Laylalady]

I am so, so, so sorry to hear of what you are going through. I know right now little can bring you comfort but these things can take a little time, everyone's body is different. I didn't realize when I started the light brown spotting that anything was wrong or I would have been in the same situation time wise as you. I believe that it is common to take a little while after the baby dies to pass it. I started spotting at 8.5 weeks and didn't actually pass the fetus until 10.5 weeks My baby was dead around the 6.5 week mark so it did take a little while for my body to do what it needed...it was gone 4 weeks before I actually lost it- but I never had a clue until the red bleeding started b/c of the timing of my appt and everything.

Have faith that this will soon be over....Many are feeling your pain and understand what you are going through. I know if the near future once your body and mind have healed from this you will be pregnant again and get to have healhty baby next time. Again, my best to you and keep those close to you near during this hard time.

[kel36959]

Thank you so much for all your comments, so sorry for every one elses loss its such a painful experience. i went to hospital on fri i had first lot of tablets but nothing happened i had 3 lots in total in hospial for 11 hours but nothing happened apart from alittle bleeding. i was sent home fri evening and was told to expect to pass baby over the weekend but i didnt. im now booked in on fri for surgical evacuation. My baby died 3 and half weeks ago i just need this to be over.

[Laylalady]

I am truly sorry for your loss. It's hard to find the right words when something like this happens. Please know that there are others out there who know what you are going through and mourn with you. I'll tell you my story as we seem to be very much in the same  situation right now....I hope this helps as I think it's helping me to write it.

My last perioed was May 12th 2010...almost the same as yours. Sort of like you, I had slight bleeding start (but around 8.5 weeks), so small and light brown that I didn't even think anything of it. I had heard that the very light bleeding was normal and I knew my 10 week appt was coming up on the 22nd of July.

To my surprise Monday, the day before my appt. it changed to a pink/red color. I called my doctor right away and informed him. As my appt was set the next day, I was advised to wait, stay off my feet unless a lot of bleeding started or if I was in pain ....So I waited (the longest day of my life mind you). Even though there was not a lot of blood, I knew red wasn't good..I also had a some light cramps starting in my front and back. I just had this sick feeling and hardly slept but a couple hours that night....I was trying to be positive but deep down I had a bad feeling and was afraid I was losing the baby. The next day the doctor so warmly and kindly told my husband and I that there was no heartbeat and my baby had stopped growing around 6 weeks and a day. There was no way I was off on my dates either...although I wish I was. I was sent in for hormone testing during this week and lost the baby yesterday morning. Since then the cramping has almost stopped and the bleeding is like a normal period.

I am just heart broken to say the least. I never thought something like this would happen. I am 26 years old and my husband and I got pregnant the 1st month of not using any protection...evertying was going so well and easy... I just could not believe that I was losing it. I was in shock and had up's and downs of crying all this week. This was our 1st baby. I never thought I'd feel this way but I just want to be pregnant again...I was so happy when I was. I am praying for patience and plan on waiting the 2 cycles like my doctor advised so I can have the best chance next time for a healthy baby.

In trying to find peace with all of this, I have been doing lots of research and here is a little info I am finding. Being our 1st m/c we have an almost 90% chance of having a normal and healthy pregnancy next time! Also, 50% of m/c's are due to chromosome abnormalities and also common in m/c is that the baby just didn't implant properly for some reason. Our bodies are amazing and it knew that something was wrong...if your body had tried to keep it, it may have been very sick had something really wrong with it or been a danger to your life. I know this info offers very little comfort right now...if you're like me you just want the baby back safe in in your womb. In these situations, time is needed to heal the pain and loss...along with the knowlege that you have a great chance to have a healthy pregnancy next time.

I am thinking of you and your loss...and feeling the pains you are feeling. I know real soon in the near future you and I will be a moms again...to a healthy little baby next time. Take care of yourself so you can be healthy when a little time goes by so you can try again..... peace and love to you kel36959.

[Bampf]

I just had a follow up visit with my doctor today. I had to go back to the doc I was trying to leave cause the new office was no help.  They told me to go to the ER for my discomfort I felt this morning.  My doc did a full check up on me, sonogram (internal and external), hemoglobin test, and a pelvic check up since I was very tender and sore.  Everything was healthy and normal.  The pain I am having today, two days after the end of the miscarriage, is the body going back to normal and the stress of the two days.  You may have a little gastrointestinal discomfort afterwards.  The other stupid office was going to make me go to the ER because I have some gas build up and I think I need to just go to the bathroom pretty bad.  Such awful people.  I hope you don't have to go through any of this crap.  The miscarriage itself was not as bad as dealing with these office people and the emotional roller coaster I'm feeling.  Relief that it is over for me, and frustration with not being seen by a doc.  Don't be scared.

I did most of my passing in the bathroom.  I had books to read, some pain meds, lots of toilet paper (like 12 rolls or more)(I like to be clean), maybe a fan to cool yourself and someone to take care of you.

I had 3 sets of contractions that lasted from 5 to 8 hours each time.  The contractions were less than 2 minutes apart, with each contraction I would pass tissue and a lot of blood.  Between each 5 to 8 hours, I had about 4 or more hours to rest.  I have had to use Nyquil to help sleep since I'm not sleeping on my own more than 2 hours right now.  

I hope this helps, the first day was scary, since I'd never experienced that, but very manageable.  Second day was harder because I'd only had 4 hours of sleep in two days.  I couldn't handle it emotionally.  Then it was over.

I also did not keep any tissue.  There was no baby for me.  

Sorry for your loss and I hope this information helps, not hurts.

[kel36959]

Thanks guys. i just had second scan. no heartbeat and no growth. they booked me in for tablet on fri im really not happy with this as wanted d&c but wont let me. im so so scared

[Bampf]

My advice having just endured a very similar tale is to mourn.  If you mourn now, you will be better prepared for Monday.  My last period was April 25th.  I was just a little farther along than you.  There is a chance that a heart beat may appear this week.  There is also a chance that the baby already passed away.  That is what happened to me.  I had a scan at 7.5 weeks and there was nothing but an empty sac, blighted ovum.  Scanned again at 8.5 weeks and still there was nothing but a healthy well formed empty sac.  My husband and I mourned the loss on the first scan.  It was much easier to be devastated at home, than in the office with a semi-non emotional doctor looking at you.  You can still be hopeful!!  But be prepared for the worst.  Plus, it took 5 weeks for me to have my miscarriage.  I started bleeding this past Tuesday the 13th of July.  Saturday the 17th, was the main, horrible bleeding.  The doctors were no help what so ever in preparing me for what was to come.  I will share if you ask, but I had to do a lot of reading on the internet to glean any helpful information prior to the miscarriage.  It's still not over, but the worst I think has passed.

Hope this helps.  Not trying to be a downer, but I too am going through this pain and loss.  This would have been my first baby, first pregnancy after trying for over 5 years and have spent a lot on fertility treatments I could not afford that did almost nothing to help.

[twobbeana]

well first u could be off a little by how far u are, second sometimes a hb does'nt show up until 7wks or later jsut have faith