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1488459 tn?1288191503

miscarriage or not?

Hi! I am 30 years old and I had always to planned to wait til I was 30 to begin having kids. I found out recently that I was prego. My hubby and I were ecstatic to find out and he has been a real trooper through all of it. This is the account of my first pregnancy:

Around Sept. 28th, I get what I believe to be my period. It lasts for 3 days and not as heavy as usual. On around Oct. 4th, I get my period again with blood clots which last 7 days which is how I usually get my periods (with blood clots) and between 5-7 days of duration. The flow was also normal. Monday, Oct. 11th, my hubby and I do the love dance as my period is gone. Immediately after, I get very bad cramps, a sharp pain that covers my lower abdomen and lower back areas. I couldn't move, I thought I was going to the emergency room. He gives me ibuprofin and I lay down to sleep. The pain finally went away the following day on Tuesday, Oct. 12th evening time. All of Wednesday I feel fine, no pain, no blood, I feel great. Thursday morning, Oct. 14th, I wake up to very light spotting and my first though was "what if I am prego and having an m/c?" I feel scared but I don't tell my hubby until much later as we are driving to the office. I get to the office and do a prego digital test that comes out positive. We are super happy and start telling our closest family. On Monday, Oct. 18th, I see the general doctor to do blood work, only to confirm I am indeed prego. I still have been having light bleeding all of those days on and off. On sunday, Oct. 17th, I had noticed my abdomen area to be enlarged and I had to wear loose clothes to feel comfortable. I felt swollen. On thursday, Oct. 21st, I see the doctor, but before that, I did another digital test to show I was still prego. The doctor tells me my Hcg level is too low at just a bit over 160 and it could only mean 2 things; I was either having an m/c or I was too early in pregnancy. He said it was normal for my tummy to be a bit enlarged it happened to some women early in pregnancy. I still didn't know anything with certainty and that is what kills me. I don't even know how far along I am. The light spotting still hadn't stopped so he suggested bed rest and to repeat the blood tests in 2 weeks, around Nov. 1st. On sunday, Oct. 24th, I wake up to very heavy bleeding with the usual blood clots, just like a normal period. On tuesday, Oct. 26th, I decided to take a digital prego test again to see, and it told me "not pregnant". I haven't felt any pain or discomfort other than the blood and blood clots. Usually when women m/c they feel pain followed by the loss of blood and/or clots. The blood had stopped on tuesday. But today wednesday, Oct. 27th, my stomach is no longer swollen, it is at my normal size, and my bbs are not sore, but I am still bleeding letting go of blood clots again. I still don't know for sure if I did have an m/c or not? I have done a lot of research, and have come to find that there are women who do menstruate during their pregnancy, some even their full 9 months and give birth to healthy babies. I have also read of a case where the woman had negative home tests, negative blood tests and she has been bleeding with doctors telling her she was not prego, until an u/s was done to show her having 11 weeks prego with a developing baby. I feel I don't have the closure (conclusion), so I am scared to treat it as an m/c and then realize I didn't and therefore affected my baby. I don't know what to do, but the uncertainty is definitely killing me. If I did m/c, then I accept it and i'll try again, but I need to know for sure. Can anyone help?
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1488459 tn?1288191503
Thanx guyz! I am now more acceptant towards continuing with my life plans as if i did m/c. I am dying 2 try again though, but it will happen when god wants and i accept that. I do thank my hubby he's been a real support through all lf it. I'll keep you posted when i get closure. Thnx again!
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My 1st MC I was pretty sure I had but continued on as tho I was still pg (just in case). You won't know for sure until you get another Hcg test done. Wishing you the best of luck.
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Early pregnancy is always about waiting.  It's awful.  I've had two m/c this year, and neither mc had any pain associated with it, so it's not always true that you'll have pain.  What you've described sounds like a m/c to me, but I'm not a doc.  But with the blood/clots, and especially with a positive preg test and then a negative...sounds like hcg has really dropped. A lot of stuff, like bleeding thru out preg, neg. tests but really preg, that can happen but I think its rare.  I'm so sorry this is happening, and I do hope, really hope, that somehow you still are pregnant.  
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1358553 tn?1339929881
Hi! Sorry you are going through this and yes the not knowing is the worse part! I have had 3 miscarriges and all 3 were different, The HCG level the doc gave you were indeed low and that followed by the heavy bleeding you have described plus the "not pregnant" test all do indicate that you have miscarried, I think its awful the way we are left with uncertainty, I was bleeding on and off with my last pregnancy at 5 weeks then for a week I had to wait to be scanned, when they scanned it had gone, I thought there would of been more blood/clots but there wasnt much, my 2nd m/c i had a bleed and passed a clot then spotted but when I was scanned the sac was still there and it was a further week before I lost it totally, with my 1st I bled, cramped and it all came out there and then (as the doctor examined me..) I too read all about bleeding in pregnancy and my sister in law had period like bleeding every month.. but to me, bleeding isnt normal, I have a 6yr old and didnt bleed or spot whilst pregnant. I hope you find out for sure soon as it is the worse feeling ever waiting to know what is happening! Wishing you all the best and hoping there may be a glimmer of hope for you!
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