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miserable

I hate this!!! i was told two days ago that i had a miscarriage, which i had known all along anyways. i am scheduled for a d&c on friday. why are they making me wait so long?? I still feel pregnant.. i feel like everything is on pause... i feel like i can't breath... i feel cheated.
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im so sorry for your loss, thats cruel, they shouldn't make you wait that long... maybe they want to wait and see if anything will happen naturally, i know how you feel ive had two miscarriages, im here if you wanna talk xx
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How far along were you? Are they trying to confirm that it is a miscarriage with another u/s or have they officially called it?

Mine was several days later too and it was scary but even if you start to miscarry they can complete it with a D&C.  It's such an emotional journey that the physical stuff can be overwhelming.  I had a miscarriage at about 8 weeks (saw the heartbeat at week 7 but not at week 8) and they made me wait 2 days before the ultrasound and did one more u/s on me just to be sure.  Once they call it an u/s, especially in certain situations like mine, it is for sure.  But those 2 days make you feel hopeful and I HATED that part.

The D&C is an easy procedure physically.  The worst part is getting the IV and that wasn't bad.  I bled about 12 days after and got pregnant 6 weeks after my D&C (found out via home pregnancy test 8 weeks after).  Also my HCG levels took about 3-4 weeks to go down so during that time if I took a pregnancy test it still showed positive.  At the time that really confused me (again giving me some level of hope in a lost situation).

Take care and if you have any questions about going through the D&C feel free to message me.  Take care!!  I go in this afternoon to find out if I had another m/c (I have a healthy 2 year old from the pregnancy after my D&C).  NO heartbeat at last weeks ultrasound....totally sad :(
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They have called it. besides i have had alot of bleeding since late saturday night. happy easter right? I was seven and a half weeks.
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I'm so sorry :( I know how horrible the feeling is!!!  Luckily it will be over on friday and you can try to start moving on.  I spent the weeks after my m/c on these forums looking up success stories after m/c.  It's the only thing that kept me sane cause we wanted the baby so badly and I was so angry that it happened.  I guess at the time I never expected a miscarriage to happen to me.  I didn't realize how common they were and I HATED the whole situation.

ON a more positive end, getting pregnant after does not make you necessarily at higher risk for another one.  If you choose to try again after your first cycle (that's what I did) you do tend to me more fertile those few months.  Took 2 years with my first pregnancy that we lost and like I said, 6 weeks after m/c got pregnant again.  Just takes us awhile to get pregnant....so VERY frustrating when you loose one.

Take care!!
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I'm so sorry for your loss. They usually make you wait because they either want to see if you'll miscarry naturally on your own, or because that is the first available appointment. I had a miscarriage in Feb, and was made to wait 3 weeks before they would book my d&c. After waiting 3 weeks and no miscarriage, I was finally able to book a d&c for the following week. I know what the waiting is like, trust me, but you do just have to keep yourself busy. I got through my 4 weeks wait by just watching dvds since I couldn't work - it was torture.
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Hiya KitKat

Sorry about ur loss .....It's a pain I know all too well :-(

Miscarriage, such an ugly and disgusting word as far as am concerned. This is what has caused me many tears and months of pain and heart-ache - to say am hacked off is an understatement.

This happened to me in Jan 2012, had the D&C too, that's the easy part compared to the hurt and loss u feel. I don't have any children & that was my 1st experience of  pregancy. I only found out on my 12 week scan that I had a silent miscarriage - also referred to as a Missed Miscarriage.

This shocked to find this out then, as I had all the pregancy signs still. The fetus died, but my body failed to recognise that.

A Missed Miscarriage, Is a rare type of miscarriage & only 1 per cent of the population get this, well that really hacked me off. I thought could this get any worse. I was angry that my body failed to tell me that I miscarried, wished I just bleed early on like most woman, that would have made it alittle easier, but the fact i told people and then went over there all happy and thinking of the scan pictures I would send to my family/friends, & I left empty handed with a broken heart.

I wish u every happiness in life, and I hate that women have to go through this awful situation.

I know that theses things happen and many woman are able to fall pregant after having a miscarriages, but it makes it no easier. Time will heal our sadness abit more, and i will let fate decide the rest.

U look after urself and takecare

Rachel
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My miscarriage was a missed miscarriage as well, however, from what I've been told and the research I've done it's still pretty common. The baby always stops growing, it's just that sometimes it passes, and actually miscarries sooner in some women than others. I never did miscarry naturally. I had to wait a total of 6 weeks from that first scan, before I was finally able to get a d&c  - my body just didn't want to let go of the pregnancy. While the baby is still in there, even if it's not alive any more, pregnancy hormones and therefore symptoms are still released while that baby is still attached to the placenta.

I'm now finally starting to feel myself, and able to start to laugh and move on. Hopeful for a helpful baby and pregnancy soon! This was my second miscarriage in 18 months, and it's horrible.

I went for a scan at just over 10 weeks, still having all the pregnancy symptoms and was told baby didn't have a heartbeat adn was only measuring 6 or so weeks.
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