potential miscarriage

[ddohe007]

i'm 11 weeks pregnant.. had slight spotting two days (Tuesday) ago and my GP sent me on for scan... after a long wait for the scan (vaginal)  i was told that although the sac resembled an 11 week pregnancy my baby was small and appeared to have stopped growing at 8 weeks and there was NO heartbeat.... gutted and so totally unexpected I roared... I had been there by myself as I hadnt told my husband i was spotting.... The doc did not mention the word 'miscarriage' or 'dead' but told me to come back in one week and if the scan remains the same then he would talk me through my options... we had only announced our happy news the day before (Monday) to our 12 year old daughter, all our families and friends
since then- I'm utterly devastated... my husband, our 12 year old and close family that know are devastated.. i'm crying most of the time, finding it hard to sleep and lost my appetite ... getting slight cramps like mild period pains, and although I feel I know I am about to miscarry IS ther ANY hope that the doc has got it wrong???
I feel I'm surviving on a tiny glimmer of hope... any advice anyone....?
I'm also scared that i may never fall pregnant again as we waited years for this pregnancy and were the happiest couple in the world... and if I am to miscarry should I let it happen naturally or opt for a D+C???
I would be very grateful for a reply as I feel my heart has been ripped in two xxx

[StephRox13]

I had 2 Spontaneous miscarriages then I had a missed miscarriage that we were hoping I'd naturally pass. I ended up having a d&c which I have to honestly say was better in someways, harder in others. After the d&c I had tests done to see why I was miscarrying and during those couple months I took some me time and ate better, and really started exercising. Aft thing showed in test why I was miscarrying so dr cleared us to try again. I'm now 34 weeks pregnant and holding strong. in some ways I feel the d&c helped clean everything out. I made the drs do one more scan before the procedure hoping for a miracle.

I'm really sorry y'all are going thur this. I know it's one of the hardest things I've ever gone thru. It's been a year exactly since my d&c and I feel blessed everyday with this pregnancy even when I feel like crap. Take care of yourselves and let your hearts heal. You'll never forget your babies and one day you'll see them again. Praying for you both.

[ddohe007]

I know deep down I'm going to miscarry... I think thats the hardest knowing that its still inside me... I was feeling like you.. let nature take its course however I'm not sure I'm emotionally fit for the long wait
my heads in turmoil and I've another five days to wait for the next scan.
thanks for ur reply and hope it happens sooner for u so this torment of waiting ends for u xxx

[Carly1306]

I'm going through almost the exact same thing. Although I didn't have any spotting, just pain a week or so before that the doctor told me was probably just a urine infection.

I was meant to be 11 weeks, and the sac was measuring that but baby was only measuring 6 with no heartbeat. I had to get weekly scans over 3 weeks to check if anything was changing, but it wasn't.

I felt like you, I had told close friends and family and getting ready to announce it to everyone else and we were so excited. It;s been 4 weeks now since I was first told it looked like missed miscarriage and I've still not miscarried. I opted to miscarry naturally and was given a 3 week window I could do this in - next week is the last week and I have a d&c scheduled.

Doctors can be wrong, I did a lot of research in it but tried not to get my hopes up. However (and I'm going to be honest with you here) the fact that the sac is measuring larger than the baby by a few weeks isn't a good sign - that was the case with me too. I know measurements can be off by a couple of week and sometimes baby can hide but it's rare. I thought I was going to be one of those lucky ones were baby was hiding but I wasn't.

I'm so sorry you're going through this. For the past 4 weeks I've barely spoken to any of my friends, and the ones I have it's been by text because I don't want to see anyone. My mum and DF are the only 2 people I've seen and even then I don't really want to speak or see them either. I'm starting to feel a little better now though.

I do feel though, that I made the wrong decision to miscarry naturally. I've been waiting weeks to and nothing has happened yet. No spotting, nothing. I thought the natural miscarriage would be the best option because it;s what nature intended and that by having a d&c then I was the one ending the pregnancy. But having to wait it out every day for something to happen is torture. It makes it so much harder to move on adn grieve properly because you know the baby is still in there nad you're waiting for something to happen. Looking back, I wish I just chose the d&C option. It's definitely less physically and emotionally painful than having to wait it out to miscarry.