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I heard you should rest during miscarrige.  However my sister in law said she went about her daily activities.  I've heard both.  I don't want to call my doctor again to ask this question so if anyone knows more let me know!!   I went to the store and actually started having a little bit of cramps and bleeding!  So far the only thing I've had is the rush of blood for like two minutes the other day..then only brown spotting since.  Until now!!!   I'm trying to keep calm and pray that it doesn't get bad.  :(  I applaud all of you women who keep trying after miscarrying, because I definately am NOT.  :(    Sigh*
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254689 tn?1251183640
Cheri - you're miscarrying naturally, right?  I know for me when i miscarried, I went the d&c route (I didn't have much of a choice) & I'm glad I did so I could get it over with.

I wish I could answer your question better.  I'm sorry you won't be trying after this - perhaps you should make that kind of a decision when everything's over and your hormones are little more calm - jen
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At first when I thought there was a chance the baby would be okay, then I did complete bedrest (this was friday night)  But after I realized I was miscarrying I went about my daily stuff, nothing too strenuous or anything like that, but I went to home depot and helped my son with a school project.  I even went grocery shopping.  I didn't run a marathon or anything like that, but just normal things I'd do on the weekend.

We made a sphinx out of the floral green foam. I did most of the work of course, but it was good as it took my mind off of things.  This was on a sunday.  I think I ended up miscarrying on Monday....that monday and tuesday I didn't go to work. It was my first miscarriage and pretty emotional about the whole things.  I think when you move around more it helps to get the blood out.  When you're lying "bedrest" you just worry and then you get gushes of blood when you stand up or move.

On the other 4, I just wore sanitary napkin, went about my daily stuff, including work.  I was depressed in the evenings and retreated to my bedroom.   I've had D&C before, but never for reason of miscarriage.  

A miscarriage is similar to a really heavy period.  NOthing crazy really happens
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rest if you need it emotionally. plus i just did not like the "gush" so i stayed in bed a lot. xoxo
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384150 tn?1399908416
You are still within a healthy reproductive age range and you know you can get pregnant.
Miscarriage is very, very difficult thing to go through, but if you give in to the grief now you will never ever know the beauty and happiness of motherhood.
Take time to grieve your loss and reconsider your options later.
Good luck,
From Lisa, (mother to Chloe, my joy, my love, my life.)
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667409 tn?1309155783
You were only eight weeks or so, right? Remember that back before all these sensitive tests, most women were just figuring out they were pregnant about 8 weeks or so - most of the time, later. And many, many miscarry in the first several weeks without knowing they are doing so...they assume it's a heavy period. So, it may be that the cramping and one gush you experienced is all that will happen! Within the first 8-10 weeks, I don't think a miscarriage includes a lot of pain or blood...good luck to you!

As for not trying again...this experience has been bad for you. But there is no reason you can't try again if you decide at a later date you want to. Was this your first miscarriage? The majority of women who miscarry one time go on to have healthy pregnancies later. But, you have to decide what's right for you!

Tricia
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711326 tn?1297872110
Each woman is different however emotionally if you need to stay home to rest than that is the best choice for you.  People here at work don't understand when I end up m/c and I'm still at work every day.  I tell them that it keeps my mind off everything and besides I can't stop it from happening so I've got to keep going forward.  

I am assuming this is your first m/c.  People always ask me why I keep trying and what keeps me from going totally insane.  Jokingly I tell them that after 7 m/c you tend to expect the m/c to happen so you are pretty much numb.  Well that's actually a lie, they didn't see me on Saturday when the m/c was happening.  They didn't see me feeling like I didn't want life to go on, laying in bed, crying and not wanting to do anything.  That day did pass and I continued on knowing there was nothing I could have done to have caused the m/c.  

Now to the what keeps me trying to have my first child.   I was always a tomboy never really caring about playing w/ dolls.  When I got married at 18 and got pregnant at 23 for the first time.  My dad was so happy however he passed away unexpected at the age of 47 a few days after I found out I was pregnant.  I was devestated, my ex-husband beat me up pretty bad telling me that I cheated on him and there was no way this was his kid.  I went to my dads funeral and later that evening I m/c.   I was told by the dr that I would never have kids and it took me forever afterwards to conceive again.   I suppose after seeing the baby's heartbeat and knowing there was a life growing inside of me changed me.  Every since that day I've known that I've always wanted a baby.  

You always remember the first and it takes time to heal from the loss.  You are still young and healthy enough that giving time you may decide to try again.  You and only you will know if and when that time comes.   Give yourself some time to heal both emotionally and physically until that time comes we will all be here for you.  

Gail

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I am so sorry for everything you have gone through.  Nobody should have to go through that.  You should get an award!! :)  I hope you get everything in life you wish for from here on out!   You deserve it girlfriend!!!!!!!!!!!
(((((((((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))))))))))),
Cheri
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Thank you however I always keep in mind that no matter what I have gone through there is always someone out there that has probably had it worse than me.  I think that is the only thing that keeps me sane besides everyone here.  

My doctor thinks I'm nuts because I told him that all I want is one healthy baby after that they can take everything.  

I used to say that if I didn't have a kid by the time I was 30 I wasn't going to try.  Well 30 came and went so I extended it to 35.  35 came and went so now it's my goal to have one before 40.  

Just keep your head up Cheri and give yourself time to heal.  I believe that all of us here have gone through so much in life that we deserve at least one thing that we wish for.  
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Cheri, my best advice to you is to do what makes sense for you.  If you feel like resting, rest.  For me, I found it best to stay busy just to try to keep my mind off of it.  I did have a "crash and burn" afterward, so perhaps it wasn't the best thing to do.  Listen to what your body is telling you and make sure you take care of yourself emotionally as well.  They are monitoring your HCG levels, so the next test will tell you alot by how low they have gotten.  Hang in there hon, and if I can give you one other bit of advice...don't make any major decisions right now.  Even if you don't feel it yet, I guarantee there is some emotional issues going on.  Give yourself some time, then make the decision whether or not to try again.  You may find you feel differently.  ((((hugs))))
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I just had a miscarriage Thursday and it was like being in.labor all over again contractions after contractions I bleed so bad and passed out and was admitted over night for observation, I read many peoples post and wonder why was my experience so bad so much pain was put on morphine and I dont take drugs what so eve.im so confused
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That had to be rough gentle hugs each woman different a tubal ligation and being told I'm pregnant after 9years a upcoming weeding blood n urine positive for pregnancy killed cramps n contractions ultrasound tech says baby to small to say he has a heart beat dr just says miscarriage I'm hurting lost so I pray u feel better
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