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saddest day for me

I just had a miscarriage.  I feel so empty. I seen it just come right out of me. Sorry if im graphic.I just can't believe it. And to see it is another level of something ill never forget. I went to the er because I started bleeding after being discharged on possible miscarriage. It happened 45 mins later. That quick. I seen the baby for the first time today and seen the heart beat.my precious little angel was so tiny.
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Yes I know what you mean, I seen placenta and also the sack. Its heart breaking I was freaking out crying why is this happening!  I wish I would've stayed calmer. And its something so special when your husband knows exactly how to act and comfort you. I've grown so much closer to mine these past couple of days. Even though its a terrible situation we were in! And absolutely I've been thinking just getting my mind and body back to a peaceful state. I want to be  better how I say. And im sorry it happened that way. Its something very surreal!  Yes you were further along than me i can only imagine what you went through! I felt the pain after with contractions after mins of passing the baby, i had back and vaginal contractions it was so painful, but only lasted 10 mins and they were gone. I miscarried on the 5th and now the bleeding is slowly going away. I have tiny clots with the occational big clot. But thank god my body did it naturally.All we can do is pray for peace and look forward to the future and definitely we'll have our baby's in our arms!  I dont know if your emotional at all but I held in mine and eventually would break down and cry at any moment. Talking really helps, let it all out even if your alone, say what's on your mind dont hold it back. Your mind will be at peace day by day. It will get better! Prayers to you and your family. And a big hug!
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Just to update you, i started miscarrying naturally last night. I stayed awake until 3am this morning just monitoring bloodloss, the loss and putting my baby to rest. Im guessing the expelled grey bits were the foetus but tried to deal with it without emotion. There was lots of blood. At 6am we rushed to a&e here in france (on our supposed baby celebration post scan and also my bday on 7th but it was the worst time for us) where language was a big barrier along with stress of facing unknown. They induced me and within minutes the matter came out. It felt what couldve been like birth but without the joy of a baby after the struggle. I think ive come to terms with it now and just focusing on getting better. If the baby was supposed to be ours it wouldve been ours, so we pray to become parents in the coming years.
My hubby was very supportive, holding my hand and reminding me to breath. It was scary but not impossible. Us womenfolk are stronger than we think. I wish you all the best and may the next time be ours!
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Thats how I feel too! So helpless. And im so sorry for your loss it definitely is a pain that is indescribable.its thw worst thing in the world not knowing what to do, or to just know theres nothing to do!  I cried for about four days straight.  I couldn't find anything to make me feel better. I had a really go day yesterday no crying just thinking that my baby is in a better place. And maybe someday ill get my chance once again to carry a child in my womb. I've never been pregnant ever! So it hurt that much more. I kept blaming myself , why did my body let me and my baby down I still think about it. I went on pintrest and searched "miscarriage" and found some of the most uplifting poems and messages from other women. Definitely is helping me through this most difficult time no one can understand unless they've gone through this! My prayers are with you at this time may your baby be with god growing strong! And watching over you always!
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Im so sorry for your loss. I too went for my first scan at 12 weeks on the 5th and found our baby had no heartbeat and stopped growing at 9 wks 5 days. I had no cramps, bleeding and now thinking back my symptoms were milder the past week but i still looked pregnant. It was a complete shock to us. Ive decided to wait a week to see if it will miscarry naturally but so far only brown spotting whereas before i had no spotting. It is such a hard one to accept and having to make a decision is not easy. I am praying for you and hope you have the strength to see this through. My consolation is that our baby was conceived a month after i was diagnosed with adenomyosis, so i was very surprised that this was even possible but it still hurts knowing it couldnt survive and that i couldnt do anything to stop it from happening.
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Thank you everyone it means alot. And foe sharing your experience. This would have been mine and my husband's first. Im in a stage were I just feel so confused. And im so hurt, sad.its just unbelievable. I literally just cant believe it I dont know how to continue being myself . I couldn't even eat im just empty inside.
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8769357 tn?1402719875
I'm so sorry to hear that....
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Sorry for your lost I've had 2 and know it's the hardest thing ever even if you weren't far along :( wish you the best.
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Im so sorry to hear that. Its so sad. I had one too back in 2012 I was heartbroken it happened on the toilet while my boyfriend was making me dinner. my boyfriend never cries but when he came in the bathroom saying dinner was ready we both sat on the floor in tries. Keep hope alive. GOD will bless you with child again.
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Can't imagine what your going through. Thoughts are with you
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I'm so sorry for your loss hun :/
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9442948 tn?1406816451
I'm so sorry for your loss:(
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I am SO sorry, praying for peace.
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