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971577 tn?1304711266

second miscarriage...advice please!

Hi. I am mainly just on here for support right now. I have a son who will be 3 in March. I am engaged for his father. We had been trying to a few months to get pregnant. May 2009 we found out we were expecting. I found out I had a UTI & the meds they were giving me where a high dosage or I couldn't take them. I was starting to cramp & bleed a few weeks later so I went to the ER. I was told that the baby had stopped forming & that I had miscarried but the baby was still there. I decided that I wanted to have a D&C. after about a week or 2 after the procedure my fiance & I tried again. In the beginning of September we found out we were expecting again. I was having quite a bit of spotting & some bleeding but not much. I went to the ER & was told that I measured about 6 weeks & that there was a sac but no baby. I made an appointment with my OBGYN. My levels were tested & then a couple of days later they were tested again. The day after the last blood test which was last Wednesday I went to the doc & they did an ultrasound. The doc told me that my levels had dropped from 3000 to 1900 in just 3 or 4 days. Also no baby had started to form & I was almost 8 weeks then. I had a D&C last Thursday. I was told that they are going to do lab work on my follow up appt to find out if there is a reason I miscarried twice in a row. I have an appt next week & then again 2 weeks after that. I'm just kind of curious of a few things & also wanting some support that I know I can get here. I haven't really been able to talk to anyone about the miscarriage besides my fiance. I don't feel like doing much of anything lately. I am curious as to if there is something wrong where maybe I can't have more kids...but I have a son who is almost 3....I'm curious as to if I would've waited a little longer if things would progressed but I know by almost 8 weeks you should see a baby. I am having drama with my family & my now ex best friend just betrayed me so I'm kinda just looking for someone I can talk to.
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971577 tn?1304711266
I'm so sorry. Thank you!
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1049259 tn?1295088478
I am very sorry to hear your news! it is very difficult to go on after this. I sadly lost mine yesterday because I was told by the er staff I have a Y shaped uterus which I was never told about when I got my ultrasounds done when I was younger. hope all goes well for you!!!!!!!!!


may god be with you
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971577 tn?1304711266
Yeah I don't really want to try other forms of the birth control because I don't want the IUD or anything that has to be inserted or implanted in me. The doc said that the pill would help regulate my periods & that the doc suggests not trying again until my periods get back to normal. Thank you.
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674725 tn?1367439630
Hi again,

Just re-reading the replies. I was wondering - if you're taking a break and going on the pill - don't you have to wait a couple months AFTER you go off the pill to ttc ?  I remember my doctor telling me that back then - she said something about allowing the body to normalize the hormones .  Ask your doc - you might want to try other forms of birth control if you plan to ttc right after this break.   (Anyone have any other info ?)  Good luck on your test results November - keep us posted.  
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im sorry honey im going though a similar problem, im waiting o find out if im experience my second miscarriage. all i can tell you is be strong.. you can always try again just keep your head up baby,,, and friends they will come and go i know its sad to loose your best friend to a betrayl it happened to me too shortly after my first miscarriage but eventually youll meet better people that will make you happy and treat you right.. perfect example my ex best friend screwed me over after my first miscarriage.. we even had matching tattoos and i had put a rough over her head for 2 years, feed her.. took care of her... etc.... when i realized who she really was i was devestated but by her hurting me i realized that another friendship i had had on the backburner and never really appreciated.. that that girl would end up being more thn i could ever ask for in a best bud. i promise you, youll try again it will be fine, and youll meet a new better bestie... on the miscarriage thing you just have to stay strong and remember that you can always try again...dont let yourself go catatonic like i did the first time... just stay strong honey
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971577 tn?1304711266
Yeah it's crazy how things happen.
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Pum
I am also on my second miscarriage in a row and have an older child. Sometimes these things just happen. There is nothing you did that caused this. Some people wait for a few months and some don't.
I also have a "friend" issue. She e-mailed me to say she thought I was "mad" (her words) to exercise while trying for a baby (even though I stopped as soon as I found out) and basically blamed this and flying and drinking (again I didn't drink after ovulation and even before it was only one every now and then) for my miscarriage. I am still waiting to pass the sac naturally so am right in the middle of things. Nice timing huh? People will hurt you, we're all human.
Take care. This will happen for you one way or another I believe.

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971577 tn?1304711266
It went well. I decided to go on the pill. Doc says to wait about 2-3 months to start trying again. They did some lab work to see if they can figure out why I miscarried twice in a row. I will get those results when I go back to the doc Nov. 5th.
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674725 tn?1367439630
Hi,

Just checking up on you - how did your appt go ?
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971577 tn?1304711266
Thank you so much for your advice. I have an appt this coming Wednesday then 2 weeks after that where they are gonna do lab work to see if they can find out what's going on. It's just hard going through them back to back like that. I appreciate your advice & support.
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674725 tn?1367439630
Jacksons_mommy,

Hi there, sorry for your losses and that you're going through a bad time now.  I know it probably doesn't feel like it now - but, things will get better.  Don't give up hope - you've got a son and you were able to get pregnant these 2 other times so you know you CAN get pregnant.  Unfortunately, many pregnancies don't develop before the first trimester is over - and it could be that yours ( like my two ) were "flukes".   I was given tests and while they're not all back yet ( Oct 26th ) - my OB said that I may have a clotting disorder.  I learned about baby aspirin ( from this forum ) and got my OB's approval to take it since I'm ttc'ing again.  It thins out the blood and prevents clotting.  Ask your doctor about it and do get the green light from him.   Good luck to you and congrats on your engagement.  
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