struggling

[sweetpea03]

I had a miscarriage on Nov. 20th. I didn't exactly want to be pregnant, but am having a very hard time with this. I feel like I am slipping into a depression. I don't feel like doing anything and just want to sleep. I woke up teary eyed this morning and haven't been able to knock the feeling. I think about what happened a lot. It's in the back of my mind and I wonder what my baby would have been like. This is my first time having to deal with anything like this and I'm not sure who to talk to. I don't feel like I can talk with my family, I don't think they'd help. My boyfriend has been trying to help me, but I am still struggling. Is there a better way for me to handle this? I don't think I'm handling it well...

[sweetpea03]

thanks. it's been a rough week, hoping this week goes better...

[mjmom69]

A miscarriage can be a difficult thing to go thru. Even if you didn't plan it, you were still getting used to the idea of a little one that you and your boyfriend created together so you may still mourn it. Your body is also going thru some huge hormonal changes that can mess with your mind. It will get better. Just let yourself go thru the mourning process. Take care of yourself and it will get better.

[sweetpea03]

I don't know what it is, honestly. I think I'm just overwhelmed. It's been crazy lately, like the saying of "when it rains, it pours". I can't wait for the semester to be over, because I really need a break.

[Learnedfrommistakes]

I know many people who have had miscarriages. They went through a tough time, but have managed to get out of it and have plenty of beautiful children after. I think you're feeling more guilty over the fact that you didn't want the baby rather than the miscarriage itself. But you need to remember the miscarriage occurred as a fluke, not because you didn't want the baby. Simply, it wasn't your fault. It's not your time and place to have a baby, and someone , if you believe in god, someone of a higher power also agreed you weren't ready for a baby. So be thankful you can still have children, but not now.