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why do I keep miscarrying?

i have had 2 miscarriages and i am wondering why? I miscarried twice and I seriously want help or information. I went to the doctors and seen about 3 doctors and they just keep saying "keep trying. and if you happen to miscarry again than we will do tests. I dont want to get pregnant if I dont know if I can keep it. it hurts so much t see my boyfriend throw his life away drinking because we dont know if we can have a child. I am getting desperate. can you please help me?
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Im sorry for your losses! I two have had two miscarries and am now pregnant! im hoping that this one sticks!!! It is not fair that the dr. make us wait until we lose them three times before they will do anything! All you can do is research your self if the dr.s wont help yet! that is what I did! It is very hard on the relationship part of it too! Im sorry you guys have to go through this but just try to stick toghether on it! I know its not much help but I just want you to know that you are not alone! I hope that one day you do have your wonderful baby!! =0)
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i really hope so. for the past year since me and my man got together we have been trying and we got preganant like 3 monthes after we got back together after been broken up. and everytime i get my period he goes out and gets drunk. and I am sick of drinking. i drink just to be with him. cuz we both work and we barley see each other. he drinks to escape life. i try to but I jsut end up crying my eyes out all night. alot of my friends dont want to drink with me anymore. its so hard

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My advise is to get a NEW Dr. You need the genetic testing done now. It can't hurt anything so why they are not doing that for you, I don't know. I just recently found out that I had a blood clotting disorder that can be treated. I was sent for the testing after my second misacarriage, I just recently had a 3rd miscarriage but I didn't know the results of the test when I got prego therefore I couldn't do the treatments needed to keep the pregnancy. Best of luck to you. You may want to look into a Reproductive Endocrinologist, this is the type of Dr. that performed my test. Best of luck to you.
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They normally don't do them until the third mc because having one doesn't mean you are at an increased risk for another one.  But you had a second one, and you are so young.  It shouldn't be happening to you.  If your OBG doesn't listen, get a second opinion or go to a specialist, a reproductive endocronoligist.  But how do you know if you are the repeat miscarrier or just had randoms?  Two should be their limit, how much can one woman go through?  Its hardest when the mc happens on your first pregnancy (pregnancies).

I insisted on the tests, its a lot of blood cloting and genetic/dna tests.  I call them my "miscarriage tests"  I may be a different case because I struggle with infertility.  We tried to get prego for two years with my RE specialist first so they were alright with giving them after one miscarriage, I also miscarried two babies, twins.  I am also in my 30s and am paying for them out of pocket.  I am advancing to IVF treatments and before spending another 10 grand out of my pocket for another miscarriage they will go ahead and do them.  They take blood and most commonly they test for clotting probs which they solve with a hepaprin shot and baby asprin (blood thinners).  I am also RH Negative.  A specialist will be able to monitor your hormones, perhaps yours is a progesterone thing, google Lutel phase defect they can give you progesterone meds to help stabelize until the placenta takes over in the second trimester...best of luck to you...
we can achieve pregnancy, just need to take it to the next level.
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I am very sorry about your losses.  My husband and i used to party together and go out drinking all the time.  I was honest with my dr. about that when I was pregnant.  I had quit months before I got pregnant, but after the baby didn't make it we quit together.  Our lives are SO different now.  I knew when I met him he was a wild rodeo cowboy and I couldn't change him, and I worked at a bar and we had fun together.  But since we are trying again we have both gave up that life-style completley.  my dr. told me the best thing to do is treat my body as if I were pregnant, which I have been doing since November.  We figure the best chance for the baby is if we are both as healthy as we can be.  Also, instead of running out and drinking now when there is a problem, we talk about it and deal with it, and trust me everything is easier.   We actually have so much more fun together now.  Yes it is a drastic change, but we figure it is worth it, i mean when we have the baby that part of your life is over anyway so we started early.  Since I was pregnant I already feel like a mom.   i feel as if I am doing what I can do now to have a healthy pregnancy.  Although something went wrong last time, it was so nice to know there wasn't anything i did wrong to the baby.  
I know the m/c's are so hard, but drinking is not  the answer.  i am not trying to preach, if you knew me that would be clear.  I just want you to know that I think I KNOW what you are going through, I was there....and life is better now.  I used to go out and drink with my husband and his friends just becasue they all were and it was fun for a little while, but it just got old and routine.  Sound familiar??  You are so young, decide what you want from life and make it happen.  I wasn't ready until I was 30, it took my husband until he was 39 to settle down.  But if you want a baby bad enough you will both commit to a whole new life.  Going out and drinking will not be an option when you have a child.  I hope I didn't come off wrong, i just want to help if I can!  :)
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Miscarriages are extremely common. Approximately 1 in 5 pregnancies will end in miscarriage. Many women wonder if there is anything they can do to prevent a miscarriage. For the vast majority of miscarriages, there is nothing you can do to prevent it from happening.

Most miscarriages are caused by one time, non-repeating genetic defects in the embryo. The egg might be abnormal, the sperm might be abnormal or the combination might be abnormal. This does not mean that either you or your partner has a genetic defect. Every woman has some abnormal eggs and every man produces some abnormal sperm.

An embryo that has one of these one time, non-repeating genetic defects is destined to miscarry from the moment of conception. That’s why there is nothing that you can do to prevent the miscarriage. At some point, the embryo will stop growing and developing and be expelled by your body.

If you’ve had a miscarriage, you don’t have to wonder if you did anything to cause it. Nothing you can do can cause a miscarriage. It is true that doctors sometimes recommend bed rest for women who have bleeding in early pregnancy. However, all medical studies show that bed rest cannot prevent a miscarriage.

i wish you and your man the best of luck in trying again for your baby!

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There is a small group of miscarriages that can be prevented. These miscarriages are causes by a progesterone deficiency (luteal phase defect). Progesterone is needed to support the growth of a pregnancy. In the early weeks of pregnancy, the mother’s body produces the progesterone. By about 8-9 weeks of pregnancy, the placenta usually takes over the production of progesterone. Women who don’t produce enough progesterone in the early weeks of pregnancy may have repeated miscarriages. These miscarriages can be prevented by progesterone supplements.

Only a small percentage of women have a progesterone deficiency. The most common symptom of progesterone deficiency is a menstrual cycle that is less than 26-27 days long. A progesterone deficiency can be diagnosed by tests done before you get pregnant. Women who do not have a progesterone deficiency will not benefit from progesterone supplements.

Measuring progesterone levels at the beginning of pregnancy may show dropping levels of progesterone before a miscarriage. However, it seems more likely that levels drop because the pregnancy is no longer growing, not because the dropping levels cause the miscarriage. Therefore, taking progesterone supplements will not prevent the miscarriage.

The bottom line is that in the vast majority of miscarriages, you could not have caused the miscarriage, and you could not have prevented it
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sorry for taking so long to write back. but thank you for all your advice. I have been having probs with 3 doctors. I do want to exchange but I live 80 kms away from our town and we only have 4..... well actually we only have 3 now and well the one doctor that left was a pervert and another male doctor is a japenese doctor is a pervert and an amatuer. the japenese doc diagnosed my pregnancy and said I was 4 weeks and 2 days. And I think I might have stressed myself out cause my stepdad passed away befor i knew I was pregnant and I after the burial I was well enough to try move on. but when I was almost 2 monthes I started experiencing bleeding and went to the doc and did and ultrasound and a they didnt tell me about my baby and said I should go see my doc and we did a couple of blood tests and the Doc said I had miscarried and I asked how far was I when I miscarried and she said I had miscarried when I was 6 or 7 weeks. So I was walking around for like a month and didnt even know my baby had died. I said I was still feeling nausous and hungry and and she said you can still have the symptoms after a miscarriage. So I dont know how to feel about that. I could be thinking I am prego and I would be always wondering everyday if my baby is still alive if I can concieve (conceive) again
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Sorry for your loss. I too had miscarriage at 22 weeks. There are lot of factors which might cause miscarriage. I for one was told probably because of my thyroid. My blood test showed that I'm borderline Hyperthyroidism. Since then I've been reading a lot and found out that Hypothyroidism can also cause miscarriage. One factor to which I came also is low progesterone level, abnormality in the uterus, stress, trauma and a lot more.  Maybe you can ask your doctor to test your Thyroid Function , Progesterone Level or have an US to determine whether your uterus is normal.  Just keep on believing. I was told of negative things about me conceiving but prayers conquers all and makes miracles.
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Keep trying.  Before I had my three kids, I had two miscarriages.  THe last two years, I've had two miscarriages.  I have three healthy kids as a result of trying, but I do remember how brutal it was to have those first two miscarriages. I wanted to stop but I wouldn't have my kids now..
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Hi I am 22 years old and yes I also agree that its so wrong that they wnt check untill 3 in a row I'm now on my 5th misscarry I have a 2 year old son so I had a gap beetween miss carrys and I am so greatfull for my little boy he give me some hope that I will have a baby again 1 day and today I lost my 3rd in a row so I'm hoping they can help get to the bottom of it as its strains ur relationship with ur partner and makes u so depressed u dnt no ur self any more they shouldnt be aloud to let ppl get that way if I didn't have my son I would of gone crazy by now I hope to get my answers soon and I will update to let you ladies no as it could be a reason for all ur loses to am so sorry to hear about every 1 who's lost babys its heartbreaking but I rly do hope you all the best and hope you get you little baby soon anought nobody deserves this sort of heartbreak :( best of luck and dnt give up hope in your selfs
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