I have been with the father of my children for a long time. He was diagnosed with ADHD, anxiety, OCD and Tourette's Syndrome a few years ago, as well as a couple of learning disabilities. But he is above average intelligence and holds a responsible job in IT.
I have been doing some research on personality disorders as he seems to have something more than the main diagnoses wrong. I had thought he might have some form of Bi-polar disease (is there even such a thing?) but more and more, I am convinced it is an avoidant personality disorder. I would love to chat or email through this forum with someone who has firsthand experience dealing with this issue, maybe in a family member, etc. I have read the texts but it would be helpful to know how this thing looks in the flesh.
He is to be seen by a psychiatrist in January of this year and I am hopeful the man will not miss the diagnosis. I do understand that there are two schools of thought with re treatment of personality disorders; some advocate drugs, others say a lifetime of therapy won't even make much difference and that drug therapy is practically useless...would love to hear what others have experienced.
Either way, being on this roller coaster with this man is exhausting and nerve wracking, needless to say. We have two special needs children as well. One with Down Syndrome and the other with mild TS...the one with mild TS so far exhibits none of the same symptoms as his father so I am hopeful that will not materialize at some point.
He is currently seeing a pastor friend of ours that he trusts for deep inner healing of emotional wounds from his past and frankly, it does seem to be helping somewhat. I guess I am just looking for some answers from real people. Hope someone can help us here.
Thanks so much! :-)