Hi guys and dolls,
I'm not sure how to say what i need to say, thats becoming a problem at the moment, not sure where to start. That seems to be invading my life, knowing i need to do something but not being able to start, where to begin, how to begin. I think my executive function is toasted, fried and scrambled, is there anything that i can do to get it back?
OT but still part of it i think, the other night our daughter stayed the night because she was having another operation in the morning. I had to tell her i was not up to going to the hospital and supporting her, she didn't need convinsing, i'm not right and she could see i'd be more of a burdon than help to her. This is a big big deal, she has Asperger's with bipolar, add, dyslexia and anxiety thrown in the mix, this child is simply amazing, how she's grown and evolved into a beautiful and tender young woman just takes my breath away.
She had a secret she needed to tell, i knew by the watery eyes and emotional trembling that it wasn't going to be anything i wanted to hear. The words were hard for her, i heard a long rendition of what she had done wrong, her fault and corpability in what happened. Her needing me to understand and support her by not changing my opinion of her partner. I still didn't know what had happened but it sounded not good or forgivable!
He drank, and took 2 x 300mg tablets of seriqual even though he's been off them for weeks because of the psychological reactions he has on them. Why he took them is unknown, he just did. He went psychotic, first sticking pins in his hand, then raming his head into the wall over and over, flipping over the bed, ripping draws out of the dresser and smashing them on his head. All the while DD is trying to calm him down, HE BEAT HER BLACK AND BLUE!
I just sat there whilst she told her secret, I didn't feel the rage of anger that raced through me like when her last boy friend hit her, he was a controlling little animal that couldn't hide his true self from me, I saw him for what he was and the fight to get her away from him was long and not with out damage. Why am I not feeling the rage, am I forgiving him or am I simply stuck again, toasted executive function not letting me find a begining of what i should do?
This is now our secret, I cant tell her dad because he will face him with his rage, i feel I have to keep this secret. I know this boy is decent and kind but he did this by his actions, he is responsible and in some respects i think he is more dangerous. She told me that everyone deserves a second chance, i'd taught her that but it never occured to her that he was actually on his third chance because she had stood by him, emotionally and finacially supporting him for almost a year, when he was out of his head because of the drug seriquel (sp), he didn't beat her then so why can she blame the drug and not him when he has crossed the line by an unforgivable act?
Am I mad, I dont hate this boy either but i know i should, I feel nothing, I cant find what i should do, what steps to take, I dont know that i can get her away from this boy or if i should try. I think i could of lost her that night, something stopped him when he was in a psychotic rage, is that a glimer of hope or worse because it shows he had some control?
Direct me, guide me please, I cant work out what to do!!!
JJ