I'm a sad Mother today...

I have just been told by my 34 year old daughter, that she has MS.  She will be going in for her Solumedrol treatment tomorrow, for 3 days, for her Optic Neuritis.  They found 4 lesions in her brain and will be doing more investigative work in this next week.  Her NeuroOpthamologist said she she's that there is a paleness in the disc behind her eye and said Optic Neuritis.  My daughter did not tell her that I had MS, until after the doctor told my daughter they suspect MS in her.

This is crushing to me as a mother.  As it would be to any of you.

I will be absent from the Forum starting tomorrow morning, as I am driving down to be with my daughter, as she takes her infusions and just try to be some comfort to her.  We have decided that we are going to do alot of crying together, then put on our thinking caps, to plot the next course of action.

If any of you believe in prayer, my daughter could sure use them.  Thanks to all of you, in advance.

Weeping Momma,
Heather

[Wobbly]

OH MY... I'm so sorry to hear this, I can imagine how you must be feeling.  My prayers and thoughts are with you and your daughter.  

I know you will be such a support for her.  Take care and talk when you return.
Hugs....
wobbly
undx

[goofysmom1]

I cannot begin to imagine how you must be feeling.  Please know that I will be thinking of you & your daughter - you take good care of each other and help guide her through.

Hugs to you,
Chrisy

[luverofrogs]

((((((((((((((Heather and daughter))))))))))))))))))

I'm so sorry that this is happening to you:o(.  

[Heather3418]

Thank you precious ones....I feel your love.  It really helps, I assure you..

By the way, my daughter's name is Cheryl.  I should have at least given you her name in my first post....

Thank you again,
Heather

[essdipity]

Heather, I'm SO sorry to read this news. All of us here on the forum will join with me in wishing her the best possible outcome. Have you seen T-Lynn's recent posts about her own 14 year old girl? MS is almost a done deal for her too. Maybe you two can talk.

When Cheryl gets past the shock of things, please invite her to join us here. As you already know, she'll be more than welcome.

Sending love and hugs,
ess

[slightlybroken]

I'm sending you and your family lots of HUGS and PRAYERS your way!

[Guitar_grrrl]

Heather, I'm sooo sorry to read this!  My best thoughts go out to you and Cheryl, both.

Hugs,
Guitar_grrrl

[Lulu54]

Heather,
when I saw your post I didn't even want to open it - it breaks my heart for you as a mom, and for Cheryl as a new MS patient.  Know that I will hold both of you close in thought as you figure this out.

love,
Laura

[Tammy826]

Hi Heather, I'm so sorry to hear about your daughter. I know as a mother when your child is hurting you hurt worse. I do believe in prayer & will be praying for you & your daughter. My son told me the other day about some symptoms he's having that concern me with the possibility of ms.I'm sending lots of hugs & prayers your way! May God be with you both!

[Heather3418]

This is a mother's and father's worst nightmare, come true.  We don't want our children to suffer these Neurological symptoms like we do, whether we are diagnosed or still in Limboland.  We don't want our children to go through what we go through.

Thank you for your prayers.  I really do believe it will help.  You all are SO kind to me.  I'll never forget it, I promise you...

God Bless all of you,
Heather

[michelleric]

I am so sorry to hear about Cheryl and her recent DX of MS. I am so glad you are her mother though, and you can be there to support her, and know exactly what she is going through. You are both lucky to have each other.

My thoughts and prayers are with you both...
Love,
Michelle

[Lulu54]

Dear Heather,
It occurs to me one more thing that needs to be said - Cheryl is one lucky woman to have you as her role model for this disease.  You will be an invaluable guide to her as she travels this journey.  

Remember what we tell newcomers here - having MS is not the worst thing that could happen to a person.  And with her young age, I would almost bet in her lifetime they will find a cure.    

be kind to yourself as you work through this,
L

[PastorDan]

Yeah, what Lu said.

[Deb61]

Hugs to you.  I'm sorry to hear about Cheryl's illness.  One positive thing is that you have lots of knowledge and experience.  I know my sister, who was diagnosed first, has been invaluable to me for support and information.  I can share with my sister things that I can't with other family members about the disease or even here on the forum.  Believe it or not, we'll even laugh about some of the odd symptoms that this disease causes (it wouldn't be too funny to non-MSers to share--people would think I was sick psychologically, too).

Warm regards,
Deb

[Udkas]

Thinking of you and your daughter at this time, I am a parent of three children and I can relate, you want them to be healthy and happy.

At least you can have some understanding and knowledge to share with your daughter.

Sending lots of cyber hugs your way,
Udkas.

[Sarahsmom46]

This is a very difficult day for you and Cheryl.  I am sorry that she was dx with MS and it breaks my heart.  She is very fortunate, however to have such a loving mother to help her through this, a mother who knows what needs to be done when you both have had time to absorb it all of course.  I can personally relate to the mother-daughter medical problem.

I have a significant congenital genetic disorder that left me almost blind.  The odds were against any of my kids getting it, but my daughter was born with it.  I felt bad for so long until finally a good friend told me how much I will be able to help her because I had "been there and done that" and know the ins and outs of what needs to be done.  That is exactly what happened. My daughter did not have to go throught he trauma that other kids in her situation would have gone through trying to figure things out because she had her mom to help her with questions and ways to adapt her surroundings.  

I am confident that this will be the case with you and Cheryll.  You are a loving mother who has been through all that MS can put you through and you will now be there for her.  

You both are in my thoughts and prayers.

Love and hugs,

Julie

[shermay]

I am so sorry to hear about your daughter Cheryl.

Words cannot express how sorry I am to hear about this, but rest assured you are both in  my thoughts and prayers.

Sending hugs and love,

Debs xxx

[Charley123]

I just want to send you and your daughter many hugs.  There are 4 of us in the family with MS right now and my daughter worries about getting it.  I really feel for you and will send many prayers.  Charley.

[Want to feel well!!!]

Thoughts and prayers are with you daughter and you.  Please remember to take care of yourself through this and do not not neglect yourself...it won't do your daughter or you any good if you you find yourself in a relapse.  God is there with you for the support, so lean on Him.

(((HUGS)))
Wanna :o)

[LATW]

I am sorry Heather. This is what I never want to face myself but you just never know.

[Super_sally888]

Heather,

prayers and hugs to you and your daughter.  I pray she will have a mild course.  I pray you can cry together and love eachother and draw the strength you both need. Look after yourself too.

Love to you Dear Mamma Heather.

Sally

[Khiba]

I am so sorry to hear about your daughter. My worst nightmare as a Mom is for my daughter (17 1/2) to get blindsided with this disease. I thank the lord I can monitor her D levels, toxin exposure, hormones, and eating habits to maybe help her steer clear of MS. And thank goodness by daughter is being raised in the south with lots of sunshine.

My heart goes out to you both. Cheryl will surely be comforted to know you know how to deal with the disease and as a Mom you will feel good being able to help her pass thru the worst parts of it that you, like most of us I imagine, likely had to go through alone.

{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}} to you both!

Jessica

[HVAC]

I am so sorry.

Alex

[saveone]

I think everyone had said everything that can be said and I agree with them all.

So I am sending you my love, lots of hugs, and plenty of prayer.

Take this time with your daughter to process what has occurred and remember you are not alone.

terry

[Zacksmomi]

I think what has been said here is all that I can say as well.  Know you are loved and that you are a great support in each other.
I will be praying for you and sending lots of love.  
I will be finishing my solumedrol treatment on Moday so my thoughts will be with Cheryl knowing we are doing the right thing fighting this disease with all we have.

Lots of love
Danielle

[Eliza3]

My prayers are with you and your daughter.

Elizabeth

[Quixotic1]

Our dear Earth Mother.  I'm sure your heart is breaking over this and that you would take the extra disease upon yourself rather than have your daughter have it.  I am so sorry.  You do know that the genetics are only a small part of this disease.  It is not your fault any more than it is your bio mothers's fault that you have it.  There would have been no way to test to see if you or she would get MS.

You have had too many trials in the last year.  It really isn't fair, but you have handled them with grace and honor.  The one good thing is that your daughter has you to help her over the unknowing, the questions and the fear.  Also, as we have said many times before, a parent's course of MS does not determine the child's course.  She very well may not have the rough time you have had.

You and she are constantly in my thoughts.  Please invite her to join us!

Much love, Mama Quix

[Fluffysmom]

Sending loving thoughts to you and Cheryl.  

Others have said the things in my heart so much better than I can say them right now.  

Lots of love and hugs,

Kathy

[LLWB]

My God send his Holy Spirit to heal you and guide you on this journey, and give you His strength.

Maggie

[Mand125]

Heather I am so very sorry about this, I know exactly what you are going through.

About 5 years after my diagnosis my daughter was diagnosed, she was 30 at the time.

It is so much harder to accept this in a loved one than in yourself. So far the course of her desease has been fairly benign.

What I really hate is that when I have a bad spell she must look at me and wonder if that is how she will be in a few years.

These things should not happen to our children.

Cheryl is lucky to have you and you her.

Take care and very best wishes to both of you.

Mand

[Armygirl73]

I am so sorry. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

God bless,
ArmyGirl73

[JJJ77]

I am so sorry to hear of this news.  As a mother myself, I can only imagine what you are feeling.  Please know that all of our thoughts and prayers are with you and Cheryl.
XOXOXO
Jess

[sllowe]

Heather and Cheryl,

Heather, I see you are away w/your daughter but wanted you to know I'm including you and Cheryl in my prayers ti.  I'll be specific and include lesion healing.

love,
Shell

[Mand125]

Heather I just thought I would mention that yes you and Cheryl will do a lot of crying together but eventually you will do a lot of laughing together.

It may not seem like that right now but honestly you will.

Mand

[mokibear]

Dearest Sweet Heather, I'm so sorry about Cheryl's diagnosis. As usual, I am late seeing this and know you are already gone to be with her but wanted to be here for when you come back.

You know my thoughts and prayers will be with the both of you and I agree with what others have said that she is so fortunate to have you. Your strength and love will see both her and yourself through this trial.

I love you dear heart and will be here when you need me.

Huggie Wuggies
Mok