You, and your entire family are in my thoughts and prayers DJ. I am so very sorry that you are going through this, it is just devastating to lose our mothers.
Please take care of yourself, and know that everyone here loves you and are praying for you.
Love & Hugs,
doni
You know my prayers are with you, your Mom and your brother and sister. This is a difficult time for you DJ and I do understand how you are feeling. Lean on your forum family to help you through this all. I pray for a quick passing for your Mom as I do my own.
Hugs
Moki
Dear DJ
What a difficult time this is for you and your family. You are in my thoughts.
Things will eventually get better and your faith will see you through.
Please take care of yourself.
Love Mand
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Lean on us all you want; you've always been there for us and we are honored to return the favor.
I will include your brother and sister in my prayers, as well as continued prayers for your mom's peaceful passing, and you finding comfort and peace. Let the joy of your new great granddaughter shine in your heart.
Much love,
Kathy
There rally are no words to express what you are going thru at this time. My Dad did the same thing for my mom, allowing them to hook her up to all the machinery when there was no chance of recovery. She had advanced Alzheimers as well as major complications. They wanted to operate for an obstructed bowel. Thankfully my brother was strong enough to talk to Dad, and they removed everything (she also had DNR and living will saying NO measures, including even IV's). They moved her to a nursing home. Unfortunatly she lingered for 3 more months. I am praying your Mom will pass swiftly, and that you and your brother and sister will be at peace, knowing your Mom will be pain free, and with our Lord soon.
Bless you
Maggie
DJ I am so sorry. Grief for me is cumilative. I tend grieve not just the loss of the current loved one but everyone else. I only have a brother left. Take extra care of yourself.
I am praying for you.
Alex
DJ I fully understand when you say what made mom, mom is no longer there. The body is just a shell we occupy until we have completed our journey. The thing that makes us uniquely us can move on long before the body does.
I hope it brings you some peace to know that the body in the hospital is not your mom. it is just her earthly representation.
I will pray for your brother and sister. I understand their pain also. I was with my parent when he had a heart attack. I stood by and allowed them to resuscitate him. Looking back I realize it was for me not for him that I allowed it to happen. He spent the next three years on and off in the hospital, dying a slow death. I often felt guilty for that, esp after I realized he would have to go through the dying process again.
You are a strong woman, but please during this time be sure to take care of yourself. I am sure it is what your mom would want.
Sending you hugs and prayers, terry
There is no 'one' way to deal with a loved one's passing. I'm so happy you had the chance to be with your mother and how wonderful for her too. I pray that your family can release the guilt and realize that they are being kind to your mother in that helping her to pass in this way is one of the most loving acts that one can do. Love and hugs to all of you, Charley.
This is an incredibly difficult time for all of you. You are all doing the best you know how to do right now. None of us can ever imagine how we would handle making so many decisions for our loved ones unti we have to go through it.
I hope and pray that the doctors are keeping your dear mother out of pain and that her eventual passing will be a peaceful transition. You all stick together right now and be there for each other and surely you will make it through this together.
We are here for you DJ in any way you need us.
Lots of love and hugs,
Julie
DJ
I will pray for all of you - especially for your brother & sister as you asked. I will say extra prayers for you my friend - even though you know where mom is going it is still hard to say goodbye. I am glad that you had that time alone with her.
Take care my friend & catch the hugs being sent your way as well.
Janette