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OT- My longtime friend/neighbor/catsitter died today
My heart hurts and my eyes are burning, I'm stunned, in shock.
Last night Judy watched the Seattle/San Antonio WNBA game at my apartment while I watched it at my roommate's: we texted back and forth. My last text from her was at 8:16 pm
I worked my shift at CAT this morning, got in the car, turned my phone back on, and had calls and texts piled up. My roommate called & said my apartment manager called her when she couldn't get hold of me. Manager wanted to know if my cat was alone in my apartment, since my friend Judy was in the hospital. My neighbor was across the hall was worried that Beau might be alone, knowing that Judy had watched him not long ago.
There was also a text and voice message from Judy's best friend, so I called her first. Judy was having trouble breathing last night, was taken by ambulance to the hospital, where she had two heart attacks. she was in critical care, not stable, and under heavy sedation, not alert. Her friend and I tried not to cry over the phone, I asked her to keep me informed, told her I'd be in to visit in the morning, hoping Judy could hear me then.
Her friend called me to let me know that Judy had died about 6 pm, about 15 minutes before we called. We sobbed a little, said good-bye. I texted my roommate, who called me and we sobbed out loud for a long time, talked about all the things we had done together, I talked about some of the 14 years that Judy has been my friend.
Judy's with her dog Bailey now, who died a couple years ago. Fluffy ran to greet her as she crossed the rainbow bridge (he liked Bailey, too).
Oh, it hurts to lose a friend! She was only 57!
Kathy
Last night Judy watched the Seattle/San Antonio WNBA game at my apartment while I watched it at my roommate's: we texted back and forth. My last text from her was at 8:16 pm
I worked my shift at CAT this morning, got in the car, turned my phone back on, and had calls and texts piled up. My roommate called & said my apartment manager called her when she couldn't get hold of me. Manager wanted to know if my cat was alone in my apartment, since my friend Judy was in the hospital. My neighbor was across the hall was worried that Beau might be alone, knowing that Judy had watched him not long ago.
There was also a text and voice message from Judy's best friend, so I called her first. Judy was having trouble breathing last night, was taken by ambulance to the hospital, where she had two heart attacks. she was in critical care, not stable, and under heavy sedation, not alert. Her friend and I tried not to cry over the phone, I asked her to keep me informed, told her I'd be in to visit in the morning, hoping Judy could hear me then.
Her friend called me to let me know that Judy had died about 6 pm, about 15 minutes before we called. We sobbed a little, said good-bye. I texted my roommate, who called me and we sobbed out loud for a long time, talked about all the things we had done together, I talked about some of the 14 years that Judy has been my friend.
Judy's with her dog Bailey now, who died a couple years ago. Fluffy ran to greet her as she crossed the rainbow bridge (he liked Bailey, too).
Oh, it hurts to lose a friend! She was only 57!
Kathy
My deepest sympathy for the loss of your sweet friend Judy has passed on. Real friends in this world are incredibly rare. My heart aches for you and with you as you deal with her absence. When I loose a friend I gather my old photos and sit for hours to "remember" the good times. Forcing me to cry to let it out helps me to release that feeling and prevent me from spazzing out when I tend to keep things inside.
It helps me to remember I had friends once. Yes, friends are rare indeed. Special friends like her are never really gone. They are watching over you and smiling at something silly or funny you guys used to laugh about.
Altho death is such a powerful loss, you actually had a spectacular friend who once made you smile and helped with your happiness in this life. Thats a rare gold in this day and age.
I would give everything I own just to have a real friend like Judy and yourself.
My heart truely aches for the loss you must feel. And, as bad as it may seem, are a little jealous of the fabulous friendship God gave you an she if only for a short time, Maybe god had other plans for her. He needs many Angels to help him watch over and protect us all.
Judy has a new job now, and although she is not with you, she is still with you in her loving spirit. So just call out to her and talk to Judy. And maybe a time or two you can remember the day .....again and again...
Sincerely
From the heart
Spuk :)
It helps me to remember I had friends once. Yes, friends are rare indeed. Special friends like her are never really gone. They are watching over you and smiling at something silly or funny you guys used to laugh about.
Altho death is such a powerful loss, you actually had a spectacular friend who once made you smile and helped with your happiness in this life. Thats a rare gold in this day and age.
I would give everything I own just to have a real friend like Judy and yourself.
My heart truely aches for the loss you must feel. And, as bad as it may seem, are a little jealous of the fabulous friendship God gave you an she if only for a short time, Maybe god had other plans for her. He needs many Angels to help him watch over and protect us all.
Judy has a new job now, and although she is not with you, she is still with you in her loving spirit. So just call out to her and talk to Judy. And maybe a time or two you can remember the day .....again and again...
Sincerely
From the heart
Spuk :)
Kathy,
In the coming days I hope you gather all those warm memories and hold them close to get through the tough times. I am so saddened to hear of your friend's passing. I;m sorry for your loss.
hugs, Lulu
In the coming days I hope you gather all those warm memories and hold them close to get through the tough times. I am so saddened to hear of your friend's passing. I;m sorry for your loss.
hugs, Lulu
My deepest sympathies to you on the loss of your friend who was so much more than a friend.
I am very sad to see how suddenly and without warning that your friend passed away. This is surely a shock. I am sending prayers to you, your friend's family and everyone who tried to help her. And I hope you continue to find comfort in seeing the good times you both had and how she is now with her beloved Bailey and of course our beloved Fluffy.
Love and hugs.
Julie
Love and hugs.
Julie
Sorry sounds so simple, so I'll say this - I'm sending my prayers your way that God will comfort you in your distress.
Kathy I am so sorry for your loss. Cry whenever and wherever you need to. Losing a dear friend takes a chunk out of our hearts and it hurts so much. I will be praying for you to have peace.
Thank you for the hugs, prayers, & empathy.
Last night's sleep was broken with memories and shocks; I'll never be able to call her up to chat, ask her what apartment someone lives in when I'm filling out Christmas cards, no more of all the things, large & small, that made our friendship what it was. I woke trying to remember where I might have put the few pictures I have of her.
I got up to go to yoga this morning, but just couldn't go. I don't want to see my neighbors yet, maybe later today. I didn't want to cry at yoga, though I knew I needed it to calm my soul. Maybe I'll bake something.
Last night's sleep was broken with memories and shocks; I'll never be able to call her up to chat, ask her what apartment someone lives in when I'm filling out Christmas cards, no more of all the things, large & small, that made our friendship what it was. I woke trying to remember where I might have put the few pictures I have of her.
I got up to go to yoga this morning, but just couldn't go. I don't want to see my neighbors yet, maybe later today. I didn't want to cry at yoga, though I knew I needed it to calm my soul. Maybe I'll bake something.
Kathy,
I am so sorry to hear this tragic news. I'm sure you are devastated. It hurts to lose such a close friend and so suddenly makes it even more sad that you couldn't say your good-byes. I have been in your shoes and they aren't comfortable ones at all.
I'm sending big hugs to you and all that knew her and loved her. Hang in there.
In my thoughts and prayers,
Ren
I am so sorry to hear this tragic news. I'm sure you are devastated. It hurts to lose such a close friend and so suddenly makes it even more sad that you couldn't say your good-byes. I have been in your shoes and they aren't comfortable ones at all.
I'm sending big hugs to you and all that knew her and loved her. Hang in there.
In my thoughts and prayers,
Ren
Oh Kathy, my heart breaks for you... It's so hard loosing our loved ones... You are in my thoughts and prayers and if you just need to talk we are here for you!!!!
I'll be praying,
Carol
I'll be praying,
Carol
Kathy,
My heart is breaking for you as well. I can feel your hurt. I am soo soo sorry. My thoughts and prayers are with you during this devastating time.
Hugs,
Pam
My heart is breaking for you as well. I can feel your hurt. I am soo soo sorry. My thoughts and prayers are with you during this devastating time.
Hugs,
Pam
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