The Ability To Adapt

[HVAC]

I remember seeing this News clip on people over a hundred and what they all had in common. What struck me was not a diet or exercise plan it was the ability the adapt to change. For me I want to keep adapting as my body changes. Not that I want to live for ever.

I was with a friend recently who can't adapt to her circumstnaces for whatever reason. I found it sad. Her world is getting smaller and smaller. It breeds bitterness. I do not want my life to go like that.

I know for sure my body is going to betray me. I laugh it off but it is happening more and more every day. This morning as I am stand up and pee down my leg right after I have gone to the bathroom. I can ride a horse but my left side is weak  so I need help getting in the saddle. My friend simply would avoid all chance of embarasment. Not me. MS is taking my speech, my spelling, people are just going to have to bear with me.

More than anything I need to cut myself some slacks and find new ways to do things. One friend uses her purse strap to move her legs in the wheel chair. Pretty sauvy. Necessity is the mother of invention.

What I am saying instead of mourning what I have lost or may lose in this New Year it is Time for reinvention.

Alex

[RedFlame]

Alex, I think you are doing a great job of remaining positive and staying active.  You are constantly reinventing yourself and adapting to your changing world and physical situation!  

I didn't word my response well at all, sometimes my brain turns to mush.

Red

[HVAC]

I am only speaking for myself no one else. I guess what I am saying is I do not want to stop doing things because I might need help doing them. My adapting.

For example going out in public because I have to use bladder control. This is new for me. I am having to get over it.

For example riding because I need help getting on the horse.

For example gardening because I need my husband to do the heavy digging and tilling.

For example asking some one to drive me somewhere so I can go.

Asking for help period that is hard for me.

I am not talking about judging others or empathy. I will not claim to know how anyone feels that is just plain arrogant. I only share from my own experience, strength, and hope.

Alex

[wiggles94]

And I think an important thing to remember is that there is no right or wrong way to deal with grief and loss.  Sometimes just the idea that we are going about this the 'wrong" way adds to our anxiety and stress.

Each need to find their own path to acceptance and happiness.  Some will - some won't but stories such as Alex's sure offer some great hope and inspiration for all!

Thanks for that Alex!

[RedFlame]

I think it's good to remember that each of us deal with our different challenges in an even more different manner.   An event that happens to you might seem easy to me because I am not 'in your shoes' and vice verse.

We don't really know what another persons' life is like, and how their experiences, or lack of experiences has shaped them.   And more importantly, we don't know how they feel nor the level of loss they are or have already experienced.

Each of us have different strengths to share!  

Red

[Zacksmomi]

When I got dxd the staff at the Dr office acted all mournful like I was supposed to b crying. I guess that is normal for a lot of people, but I have to say Alex is right on the money. There is nothing we can do to change what is coming. A positive attitude may seem impossible, but it is important to accept what comes and adapt to it.  

Great topic Alex

Miss you
D

[Sarahsmom46]

Amen, Alex.

[anon07072023]

Thanks for your post.  
You're right, there are just some people whose personalities are that way - they just can't adapt.  But that doesn't mean that's the way we have to be.  I'm glad that you're not afraid of living. I'm like that, too.
Just 2 days ago, I was sitting in my office chair at home and I just stared going.  I just had gone to the bathroom not too long prior.  And I've learned that if I kneel down, it's going to take me a little bit to stand back up.  
I realize a bad attitude isn't going to get me anywhere but angry and depressed.

Keep up the good work & optimism!  :-D  

[Wobbly]

I agree with this, you have to go with the changes and I'm hoping that there are people out there coming up with things that will help people that need assistance with things to keep their lifestyle as good as possible.

We need Inventors for MS and other Dx...

take care
wobbly