off topic: harrassment

This is getting out of hand.  How many days can I scream down the phone or beg them to stop?  How am I ever going to get my life back?  Some a r s e  who was sacked from his last job has turned up on our doorstep to make our lives hell and is extorting money from us for his activities.  Landlords are doing nothing, just sending me threatening letters if I complain too much.  He is a con man and a crook and deserves to be in prison yet is given a job ruining our lives.  What did we EVER do to him, apart from pay for his comfortable lifestyle?  Can't get on top of my health, my life, anything.  He will end up killing me.  Can't sleep, make phone calls, work, do housework, think, just terrorized every day.  And my money is paying him.  When I phone he just laughs at me and says he will do as he pleases.  He has his own empire here.  The man is a psychopath and can talk his way past anyone I try to get to stop him.

[mary_kay]

I'm confused...who is he?!?  Why does he have power over you?  I was gone for awhile, did I miss the beginning of this?   There must be a solution!  MK

[Lulu54]

Wish,
Now what on earth is happening ?  I haven't a clue who he is so I can't begin to respond.  I take it you are not referring to your wonderful medical folks but someone else.....

Breathe,
Laura

[Farrahlicious]

Ok, honey, you need to tell us who this person is, it's the only way we can help you. You can't live like that, why on earth do you have his number and he has yours?? can't you tape these conversations and call the cops or something? This is not a life, Wish, claim your life back, being stuck in your flat will only make you feel depressed, and i'm worried you're getting all this pain due to your stress, come on, girl, you know we're here for you, if i'm gonna need to talk to my boyfriend and get all Thornhill over there, so be it, but you need to be safe, that's enough!
xoxoxo
Farrah

[Lauri8967]

Im confused too....who is extorting money?  The landlord?  Or did the landlord send a guy to try and get you out?  Do you have a roommate?  Can you explain what it is youre talking about?
Lauri

[Fluffysmom]

Please share your story, so we can help you figure out how to deal with it.  I know that you are a private person, but this is messing with your life, your health, and has been for months, I remember reading oblique references to it before.

Listen to us, we all care, truly care.  Whatever is going on, we want to try to understand and help in any way we can.  

I care.  If you want to PM me, or maybe Farrah or someone else you've come to trust, please do so and we can try to help in private, if you can't bring yourself to divulge everything on the forum.  I'll be waiting and wondering and caring, wish.  

Do you truly Wishforchange?  Maybe now's the time to reach out and start to change some things that you're trying to carry alone.

hugs,

Kathy

[yorkieville]

Sweetie, is this some kind of bill collector? If so, he has no legal right to harass you.

Please talk to at least one of us privately, if you don't want to post the story, in the forum, so we can help you.

Hugs,
Sheila

[wishforchange]

Such an enigmatic post.  I'm sorry.  I was writing it as I was being abused at home, and just wanted to tell someone, anyone, and here I was on this site at the time.  Had a pm message from someone regarding another issue, and have shared with them a little of what is going on.  Want to tell others here who chat to me privately a lot, but can't bear to think about the situation.

Got so worked up on the phone I nearly stopped breathing again.  This is not healthy.  And I said things I have never said to another person in my life, even people close to me who I have argued with.  I was cursing the man in a way I despise myself for, but after months and months and months of being deprived of a home to rest in, being infested by vermin, and being tormented daily by this psycho, I am losing all control.  He couldn't give a damn, he got sacked from his last job, talked his way into this one, and has learnt to manipulate and lie to suit himself.  I call him Mugabe.  He claims he was elected by residents.  Anyone who tries to usurp him is threatened or rumoured by him to be insane or has their informaton destroyed before it can reach those who control him.

I have so many battles at the moment, and all I need is a home to come back to where I can restore my energy.  I am paralyzed by this man, locked into never going out unless necessary and unable to do any housework.  I haven't washed the dishes for days.  My laundry is piling up and my clothes are running out, and the place is infested with cockroaches which he brought to us.  This was once my home, clean, liveable, maybe not ideal location wise but good enough for my needs.  Now it is a place of fear and a trap, The floor covered with essential documents which I can't find and spend half the night searching for before important meetings.  No food but chocolate and chips in the fridge, no memory of when I have eaten or what or when I last took my meds.  I am a mess.  I have overdosed twice in recent weeks and now will run out of medicine again before my script is due.  I just wish I had someone to take charge for a bit, do the housework, sort out my diet and laundry, ration my medications, pay my bills.  

First time in my life I cannot function as an adult.  Have been harrassed at home in the past, even suffered domestic violence, but never been ill and disabled at the same time.  I could then just up and leave the danger or abuse.

I never write cheerful posts because I am never cheerful.  I have no grace when it comes to my illness, I hate it and will not be polite or brave about it, not mature enough.

[Super_sally888]

This sounds unliveable and illegal.

Is this person somehow hired to harrass you?  On what basis?

How did this start?  We still don't know enough to be able to advise you.

This is not something you can call the police about?

Sally

[mary_kay]

Please call social services and get SOMEONE to help you. They should be able to at least direct you to some kind of support.  Call your doctor, call the police, call an ambulance......something, please.  
Praying for your rescue,
Mary Kay

[ShadowsSister]

I am not sure what is going on, but there must be someone there you can call. Please reach out for help... MaryKay and the others gave you wonderful advice... We are all here to support you in getting help for your situation. Please contact someone today..
Hugs & Prayers

[Fluffysmom]

I'm so sad that you are in such a place in your life.  You have mentioned the Samaritans helping you before; I assume they help with food and/or paying bills.  I think maybe it is time to ask for more help.

You are realizing that you are not functioning effectively as an adult.  There must be a program of some sort around you, that can help you find the kind of help you need, and first evaluate just what that need is. Do you need help with housework?  There are programs here for disabled people that need help with housework.  Do you need someone to talk to, a good therapist that can help you sort out all the awful things that have been happening to you, and help you figure out how best to deal with them?  I'm sure there are therapists that can be seen on a sliding scale, fees based on your income.

And, if your life has truly become unmanageable, there must be some inpatient program that will not only get you away from the awful situation at your home, but can deal with all your health issues and nutritional needs in one fell swoop.  This is never something to be ashamed of; this is something to be proud of; the ability to ask for and receive help when you really need it.

Ewwwhhhh, I hate cockroaches!  When I left home at 15, I could only afford a place that was infested, no matter how clean I kept my apartment.  I despise the nasty little things!

Do everything you can to safely take yourself out  of this place in life that you are occupying right now.  Call for help if you aren't able to rescue yourself at this time.

Hugs,

Kathy

[wishforchange]

Hi, I'm not looking to be institutionalized just yet!

I can get no home support until I get disabilty allowance, which the government now only gives to fraudulent claimants, who are fit enough to fight the system.  I have a good adviser on my side, but the government are not going to give me any benefit without a fight, and I'm too weak to fight.  The criminal applicant is the only successful applicant - great system.

Problems piling in, another bundle yesterday and today.  The 'good' neurologist too is as I suspected a sham.  Sent him some godawful emails, don't care, he can dump me.  What have I to lose?  He forgot who he was dealing with and started patronizing my request for more information with a 'don't worry' type response.  They just can't help themselves. He'll be far from lonely where I'm chucking him.  I'll pm you the email if you like, may be a cut and paste job for you should you wish to really upset your neurologist.  I've already sent off for his notes on me, should have a few clues to his hidden side.  

Am covered in some rash, all over my stomach and chest, noticed it when trying on clothes.  Was itching for days but never gave it a thought, is on my face too now.  May explain why I'm extra run down.  Can't be bothered to get it looked at, unless it gets worse, just itching and exhausted.

Phone and internet being cut off any day now.  Alson credit card company suddenly charging me through the nose for a missed payment, which I didn't miss.  Just scream at everyone, not handling all this well at all.  

Disability adviser is fantastic, she can see I've lost the plot and is working flat out on my behalf.  She even let me turn up to a meeting two hours late.  I think she gets what is going on with me, she's going to prepare a case to send to the tribunal and is doing all the paperwork etc. for me.  I've handed my life over to her here, and she is providing a top service, for free.

For you or who was it who asked I though the Samaritans were everywhere?  They are mainly an anonymous telephone service, for the suicidal, but also for anyone who needs to talk.  They are staffed by voluneteers.  I use them when I've overdosed and it is not safe to sleep -  while I am talking I am breathing.  At first they couldn't accept this use of their service, but now they understand when I phone and tell them they need to keep me breathing, and let me talk and talk and talk and keep from falling unconscious, until the worst of the drug is worn off and I am out of danger.

I can't believe how upset I am with my neurologist.  He was so good, and it was all a pretence.  I didn't ask him to diagnose me, treat me, just to support me and keep me informed with test results etc.  Seems they are trained to patronize and marginalize the patient.  I let rip with my messages to him.  You know what a tongue I have, when I let it go it cuts everything and everyone in sight.  My talent.

PM me if you like and we'll chat.

Others - will of course pm you too and thanks.  The worst thing that could happen to me is to lose my freedom.  So to admit to anyone I am not coping is not going to happen.  I am tough mentally.  Put anyone in my circumstance they would be as bad as me or worse.  There has to be a break in the negativity eventually.  Being ill doesn't help.  May take my temperature and see if this rash is making me feverish.  There is disease in this building, and likely I have picked up something.