Toliet Training

My son is 4yrs old and he is not fully potty train. I am constiently getting on to him about going to the bathroom when he needs to go. He continues urinating and doing num 2 thru out the day. I do not know what to do. I am very frustrated. I've even stop rewarding him with candy when we go to the store. It still does not work . Do you have any advice, and what method I need to use  in order for him to go to the toliet.


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[wingnut19]

The bigger the issue you make out of him NOT using the potty, the more some children tend to rebel against it.  Try some positive reinforcements (not candy!)....

I know it may sound rather silly, but when I toilet trained my children I made up a rather silly "pee pee dance" and showed them my extreme happiness and praise when they 'went'.....
If your son goes on the potty once and has 6 accidents, only praise the one time he got it right....

Please try not to give him 'negative' feedback when he makes a mistake, but always give the positive reinforcement for doing something good!

Good luck!  It will happen....My son was much harder to train than my daughter was..

T.

[chefcindy46]

Have you taken him to a Pediatric Urologist? It could be that he has bladder/bowel incontinence and doesn't realize he has to go or is going. Before you start thinking it just a bad habit with him, I would first make sure it isn't medical. I belong to a group that has a lot of children with this issue and they have all been diagnosed with Spina Bifida Occulta and/or Tethered Cord Syndrome. This defect affects the bladder/bowel nerves and these children do not know any better.

I would be happy to give you more information on these subjects if you are interested.