car accident 3 years ago... i look normal, but i am in severe pain.... what can i do?

this is actually the first time im utilizing the net for information. i was in a car accident. head-on collision back in nov 06. ive only gotten worse. before accident i was physically fit, active (outdoor activities, skiing, hiking, biking, etc). at first, i had the pain associated with whiplash and was told to go to physical therapy and it may take 6-12 months to completely heal. well here i am 3 years later and i can barely stand the pain. at rest im a 7 on good days. i walk with a cane and have even crawled. i use a scooter when one is available. there are days when i am stuck in bed. i have tried every treatment known to me; physical therapy, manuipulation, ultra sound, stimulation, massage, changing diet to organic and natural, now i am under treatment for pain management. did the lyrica, cymbalta, ibuprophen 800.... now im on 20mg oxy every 8hrs with norco 3 times a day in between. this only takes edge off. without pain meds i am usually stuck in bed. i use ice, my tens unit. nothing relieves pain, i even get injections, steriods and nerve blocks. still not working. my pain is so bad... i cant take care of my kids (let alone myself), house, laundry, lost my job, my poor husband, sitting here is killing my neck and back, but i need answers or suggestions.

i have been told i have fibromyalgia. who knows if thats right. even if it is, how can i live like this? is this how i will be the rest of my life? i am 40. i have severe pain in my neck, upper and lower back, hips. it hurts to touch me. im exhausted and extremely fatigued.

i just think that taking these horrible meds and enduring the painfull injections every month for the rest of my life seems incomprehendable... hopefully someone has a suggestion that i can follow up on.

thanks to anyone who can help. i feel so isolated and alone. no one around me can comprehend what i go through. "suck it up, it cant be that bad"