Your story has giving me hope thank you sorry I don't have an answer I'm new to all this
jasmine, there's a great STD forum here at
http://www.medhelp.org/forums/STD-Support/WWWboard.html. There's a lot of activity there and herpes is a pretty strong topic there. You might be able to get even more answers there.
ea_poe
I haven't followed this field closely so take what I am saying with that in mind. My experience is predominantly with HSV I and with HZ. Some people have HSV I, the cold sore virus, and never have a cold sore in their lives.
We know that people can shed the virus without having a outbreak. There is no law that states people who harbor either of these herpes viruses will ever shed the virus - thus exposing a partner to the infection. It is an unknown. Sounds like you have been lucky, but 11 years of luck doesn't guarantee that you won't shed in the future.
I would talk to an expert in STD's - Infectious disease specialist - and ask if you should be on suppressive therapy and discuss with your partner the possiblility of using protection. I have a feeling it will end up being a discussion of "the odds" and that you two will have to decide for yourselves.
Sorry I couldn't be of more help.
Quix