Confusion over sexuality has led to obsessive overthinking. Any help please?

[lightseeker18]

Hi everyone.

Could anyone be generous enough to spare a few minutes to help me understand how someone would know if they were bisexual.

I am a woman and have masturbated to sexual thoughts and imaginations of making out with a woman, however, in real life I have no feelings or desires to act out those sexual thoughts or imaginations and this has made me very confused. I have always identified as straight due to how I feel around real people and bodies but some of the stuff i have read online have expressed that my thoughts and imaginations during masturbation suggest I am bisexual despite not feeling anything for women in real life. Is this the correct view on sexuality and orientation? Please note I am not repressing any feelings for women, i'm just one of these people that obviously thinks of stuff that doesn't relate to my reality and I get how that could confuse people who generally don't have thoughts/imagine stuff that they wouldn't do.

Any feedback and clarity would real help and yes I soo get the whole "why does labels concern you" movement but for me its more about understanding myself better and learning more about sexuality because right now I feel really confused due to a lack of information.

[brokenmess]

Hello! I have read a few articles to help you out, since I’m a very young HOCD sufferer myself. (It’s not a diagnosed symptom, it’s under view).

Anyways, sexuality in my belief is chosen! Some believe it is genetically coded into you.

I doubt the information you’ve obtained is wrong and has no creditibilty to it.

I myself am straight, and have been told that people of queer orientation find pleasure in these thoughts rather than anxiety and fear.

I don’t do any sexual things, whatsoever, so I’m not sure how that works? If you feel no attraction to the same sex then it’s all in your head.

Don’t ignore your thoughts, don’t answer them either.

Just come to terms with them, and if you really want to tell your thoughts that it’s ‘OCD, not me’.

I hope you feel better, and never look for reassurance in others when it comes to OCD.

OCD is wicked enough to trick you into enjoying these thoughts, so don’t be scared.

I’m of youth, so please excuse any illogical thinking you may see.

Cheers!

[brokenmess]

Ah! I totally misread what you were conveying. I’m here to repair that ;v;.

If you have no desire outside of your fantasies then it’s likely you aren’t bisexual, or gay, maybe just straight.

If you don’t find pleasure in these ideas then you’re probably not either as said before.

I’ve been told at one point in someone’s life they have a slight questioning no matter how sure they are.

But base it off what you want at heart, at your soul!

Don’t get hung over it and create an HOCD obsession like I did.

Hope you figure yourself out!

[lughan]

I can relate to your issue and felt the same way toward men but I have been with a few myself. I fear my desire for men that I have driven from childhood abuse. I have read about everyone is really bi but for you it could be that your fantasy being with a woman could be a symbol what you really want. Doesn't mean you really want to be with a woman but what a woman is representing. I just realized one of my fantasy had a deeper meaning behind it and now know why I had them. If you like what you are doing keep doing it and it don't have to go further than that.