A little over a month ago i was on a chat room trying to find an older woman to jerk off for. Older women just turned me on cause they were older and had more experience. Now i was disappointed to find that i could not find one that would let me jerk off for her so this man PM'd me and asked if i would so i said sure why not. Now i remember getting on cam with this man and feeling really disgusted whilst jerking off. I turned my cam off halfway threw and thought what the hell was that. I didn't like it from my recollection and since then i haven't been able to get erections at all. I have been struggling for weeks now to find out who i really am. Before this i had been completely straight. I was obsessed with women and liked many different girls at the same time cause it was hard to pick just one. I have been researching this for weeks and I'm so depressed because of it. I'm not happy this way. I wanna go back to the days where i was obsessed with ***** and breasts. I've looked up this thing called HOCD which has to do with being obsessed with the thought that you are gay. I don't know if i have that. I've been doing research for weeks to find out what sexuality i am. I don't think I'm gay since the thought of being with another man sickens and disgusts me. But whenever i look at a guy i get all anxious. I have like an anxiety attack whenever i start to think if this guy is attractive or not. I'm losing my mind. I think i have gone paranoid with the sensation that i might be gay. Is it possible to just one day be perfectly straight and the next be gay? I don't think it is but then again i don't know. I'm so depressed and having the worst anxiety attacks i've had in my whole life. I don't know what to do about this situation. I don't feel like myself anymore. I don't have the desire to do the things i used to do before this whole predicament. Am i reading too deep into this? Am i obsessed over this? Also i haven't been outside in like weeks or done anything with my friends. I just stay in my room and do research on this. I just want my life to go back to the way it was.
Hi there...first of all, from what you are posting I don't think you are gay either. HOCD is real and many people suffer from it. Usually it just takes one little scenario such as your masturbation in front of that guy. It really means nothing other than you were looking for a way to get off and you found something that really wasn't for you since what you really wanted wasn't available.
So here are some tips....
First, stop the internet reserach. Nothing good comes from that and it just heightens the anxiety you are already feeling.
Second, stop second guessing yourself. You know deep down inside that girls are for you so when this "Am I gay" thought pops into your head try to stop it right then and there with positive statements of fact. "I like to masturbate in front of women...not men" or "I have tried that and hated it" Something along those lines. What you don't want to do is sit there an analyze the hell out of it.
Third, you don't just wake up and all of a sudden you are gay. People that are gay know it from a very early age and don't fight it. People who have HOCD, fight the hell out of the thought hence the whole problem in a nutshell. What you have to do is say "whatever" and give these thoughts no credit.
Fourth, stop trying to push it. I'm sure you are sitting there trying to get back what you had with a vengeance. Give it some time. Get some magazines and take it slow.
Fifth, try your best to get back outside with your friends. You need to get yourself out of your head and back to doing what you used to do. Force yourself to go out if you have to. Your life as you know it has not ended. You are not gay (and I have nothing against gay people either). It is just my opinion that people are either attracted to the same sex or they are not. And the whole checking people out thing...it is natural. I still check out other women my age to see if I "measure" up to them. Hell, I want to look as good as the next 47, soon to be 48, year old. So don't worry about that either.
Lastly, if you really cannot get over this, then you can always tell your parents that you are having unwanted thoughts (no details are required). If they ask, just tell them you are worrying a lot about different things and that you would like to talk to somebody. I have a son your age...if he came to me with this, I'd get him some help.
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