Yes...you can order it from Amazon which I believe delivers everywhere.
thanks mehn i really dunno if they have it in my country.. can i get it online
Please pick up the book The OCD Workbook: Your Guide to Breaking Free of OCD. I know if you commit to getting better and use the book, it will be of great help to you. You absolutely have to act now.
hey bro!! i have hodc too its ****** the same reason u had urs girl-ish.. i still havent overcomed mine.. to top it up am a nigerian were do i get to see a therapist in this country... so were are like the same mehn.. ma mind wants me to tell every ******* person i see that am gay.. i see a guy and panic attacks now no more attacks ots now images i see my self being dicked and stuff its ****** mehn.. i want girls nothing more
I have given you tips....self-coaching, replacing negative thoughts with positive ones, breathing, not giving into the thinking in general. I cannot fix you...only you can do that and you start with the above. Take care.
Thank u for ur advice! Makes me feel a lot better...can I bother u with one more questions?
Tips on how to overcome HOCD...
Because ino I can beat it..and get back to my norm...
But I just need to no how?
I exercise..yes..that helps A LOT
But what other tips have u got on HOCD?
And thanku so much
(My last question I promosie)
You have to self-coach your way through it. Try the breathing and then do the self-coaching. "I like girls and always will" or "I wasn't born gay, therefore I am not gay" anything positive. What you do not want to do is test yourself because testing leads to more anxiety. Don't watch the porn to see, don't masturbate to guys to see what happens...nothing good can come out of that for a person with OCD. When your mind says "you are gay" you counter with "Nope, not going there, so move on!" and then move on to something else.
If you look on the forum you will see so many posts of people with HOCD. Next to HIV anxiety, I think it is what people post the most about. It is very common. I have even had a post from a gay person thinking they were going to wake up and be straight one day. It goes both ways with OCD.
Such a relief u saying I'm not gay..deep down I no I'm not,but my mind always questions that...
But what I'm worrying now is the erection..whilst erected...my mind keeps saying u got erected because of the 'guy' etc etc..but I don't believe that? Btw my HOCD messes with my memories..ALOT
Could u give me some tips on ignoring this thought? And how to counter it...
This is my latest "spike" atm..and I'm finding it hard to not over thinking this...
I tried masturbating to guys but get discusted and obviously stop...
I like a girl atm..but because of HOCD its hard to like her,go out with her etc etc...
Thank U!
Hi there. We don't wake up one day and boom we are gay. In my opinion we are either gay or we are not and I believe it is based on genetics. If you asked a gay person when they knew, they will probably say very early on in life. And you know what they don't fight the thoughts like you are doing and you are fighting them because you are not gay but rather it is just another mind game you are playing on yourself...like the ghosts, etc. And just so you know, when you do get an erection while looking at gay porn, it is not because of the players but rather the content that is the real turnon.
You have irrational thinking OCD. We take normal stuff and we turn it into something twisted, we what-if it, we catastrophize it and we go from one thing to the next, to the next, with each thought being worse and worse. I have come up with some very, very bizarre things in my life battling OCD but I'm not sharing them with you because you will fixate on them and make them your own and I don't want to make your situation worse.
What you really need is to learn cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) and this is taught by a psychologist. Do you have access to a psychologist? I know overseas it is a bit harder because you have to go through your general practitioner and then get a referall and all. Since it does take time, it may be something you want to work on ASAP.
In the mean time you can try this breathing technique when you are overly anxious and desperate. You take a deep breath in through your nose, hold it for 5 seconds and count this out in your head, and then you let it all out through your mouth. You do this until your heart rate has come back down to normal. When you are calm, you can think more rationally. You can do this without anyone even knowing you are doing it. I like to do it laying down with my hands on my stomach. Also, there are a whole host of meditation videos on YouTube that you can try.
Also, there is self-coaching. There is where you basically say you are not going to those silly places with your mind. When I start to go to the dark side, I will say something like "Nope, not going there, no MOVE ON!" in my hhead and then occupy myself with a book or something like that. An idle mind is ripe for irrational thinking.
Lastly, you can get these books. The OCD Workbook: Your Guide to Breaking Free of OCD and also another one called Self-Coaching by Joseph Luciani. I think the workbook will benefit you greatly.
Relax...I had HOCD myself but it was short lived because of course I was off onto the next stupid thought. You can and will get better with the right help. And I do think you need to see a professional because you are a classic case of what is called Pure OCD or Pure O as it is referred to.
Let me know if I can be of any more help to you.