How can i tell if i have HOCD?

[farm_gal]

I am recently been having these extremely intrusive thoughts that i may be gay.  i know that i am not, due that i am currently in a relationship with a guy that i have been with for almost 2 years now.  these thougths are driving me insane and i am starting to doubt everything around me...(family, friends, etc)  These thoughts come around about once a month and it's happened for the last two months in a row.  can somebody please tell me what is wrong?  i am extremely self concious, and i know that i do have some mild OCD traits.  i have been reading the other questions online about others who have the same things, and i think that i may have HOCD as well.  if somebody could please tell me what i can do to make these stupid thoughts go away, i'd really appreciate it.  my boyfriend and i talked about it, and he thinks that it may be anxiety and stress related.....?  i enjoy being with men, and i someday want to marry (my boyfriend) and have children, but until i figure out what is going on with me, my mind is in a crazy whirlwind.

[susieq87]

That is exactly what they are intrusive thoughts.  Your boyfriend may be right about your anxiety level.  If it is a problem see a therapist.  There is free or sliding scale therapists everywhere AND ONES PROVIDED BY THE STATE.  

[stupidassmoron]

Hello,

First off take a deep breath. My name is Ken and I am here to help.

1. You came here cause you realize this is a chemical imbalance in  the brain brought on by long amounts of stress. So lets validate it is not reality because many of us have this condition.

2. Intrusive thoughts in OCD are catorgized by the name "PURE OBSESSIVE" very similar to Torettes syndrome....

3. Ok, the fear you have is obviously not realistic because if it was you would act on it which I know you haven't.

4. start by laughing at the thoughs when they come. Youe see your fear is from the thought, you percieve it as reality because you thought it; but in reality it is you brian making up a thought cause your heart rate jumped your breathing went up and your blood pressure increased...

5. When the thought comes the trick is to desensitize your self to the thought by saying "Ok I am going to be with a woman." And actually desensitize yourself by accepting the thought and laughing at it.

6. Seratonin inhibitors, Paxil, Zoloft, Lexapro.... I reccomend 50 mil per day of Zoloft for 1 week then up to 100 mil for 1 week then 100 mil continuing for 3 months. This will allow your panic to subside allowing the thoughts to bounce off you like rubber hence the thoughts will not need come around anymore.

Please take care and now this is a chemical imbalance caused by stress. Once you change and rethink and reprogram what you percieve as stress then you can be free.


God Bless

[CRI]

***********.com is a great site to go to. They specialize in HOCD and the forum is very good.