How do I stop the transfer of addictive and compulsive behaviors.

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My problem is that I have an addictive personality type and I can be compulsive when going about it.  I will quit and addiction like: bulimia, drinking, smoking, binge eating without purging, shopping, escaping reality by creating things that aren't reality in my head just to feel like I'm apart of something.  I could go on. I feel a great void in my life and completely lost. I feel like I always need something such as food or a hot drink, or need to be doing something.  Sometimes I think it is because I have little social contact with others other than when I attend school or work.  I don't have a romantic life or friends outside of school or work, and the only person I have relationship wise is my sister, she's great, but nags too much. I am lonely, depressed, full of anxiety, and beat myself up bad.  I am also a perfectionist when it comes to my thought torture, because I believe that if I reflect and dwell on past incidences I can change into a more likable person.  In a strange way, I feel that my tough love thinking will some how motivate me to work harder at being a better person.  Please, how do I stop transferring one addiction or compulsion to another?

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Your right.  I know I am not a bad person.  I try hard to be considerate of others and treat others, as I would like to be treated, that says allot about my character. I have anxiety because I have intense insecurities around men, especially well educated, successful men.  I feel like my existence is insignificant around them...I also feel like they can sense my insecurities because their reactions towards me.  When an individual’s reaction towards me is uncertain, it makes me feel even more insecure, as if they can read that I am having anxiety issues.  I have a hard time getting a hold of myself and my rational thought when experiencing anxiety attacks around these types of men or even if I am not having an anxiety attack around them. One of the problems is that secretly I desire such strong individuals but feel inadequate.  Most people would describe me as a highly attractive intelligent female with a fun personality and a quick wit, but I still do not feel like I could measure up to that kind of man.  I know that past events are stored in our memory and it is hard to re-write my thought script.  Do you have any suggestion?  As I work around such individuals on a regular basis, so I makes it difficult to even get my mind off this issue.

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Look. If you are under treatment and talk therapy and tried behavioral therapy that's the best you can do. If you are not doing anything destructive then your thoughts are not something to analyze and try to correct over and over. I have aspects of ocd along with my other psychiatric disabilities and yes I still have obsessive thoughts and they've never really been completely mitigated. The important thing is to step back and see what's good for your life and how you are treating others. The thoughts you have may never completely go away but you've done a lot to let them no longer control how you act. Now just seperate them from who you really are.