Hello,
I probably should have posted here a while ago, because I have a very long history of anxiety and OCD-like symptoms. I have had fears/obsessions about getting breast cancer, MS, and other serious illnesses. Most recently, I had what I think was an HIV scare, even though many have said it was a low or no risk situation. However, everyone has had a different opinion (e.g. this site, other HIV sites, my own doctor, nurses at clinics, CDC). It has caused me so much anxiety to not get a clear answer and I am still really struggling.
I have feared contracting HIV for a few years now and it has worsened in the context of an unhealthy relationship I continue to allow myself to be in (long story). I also have had several serious health scares in my life and have some chronic illness (none life-threatening, though and well-managed). Anyway, this man and I had protected sex back in July, but when he withdrew the condom was left inside me and hanging out a bit. Semen did spill out on the bed, but I never knew for sure if any leaked out inside of me before he withdrew or when he did. I thought I felt some, but I am really not sure. I have been so scared of contracting HIV since this time. He told me he is negative, but I don't know for sure as he has lied and hidden things from me in the past. I made a mistake sleeping with him again and I wake up everyday scared that mistake has changed my life completely.
I have had multiple HIV tests at almost 9 weeks, 11, weeks, 12 weeks, 14 weeks, and most recently 16 weeks-all antibody tests-all negative. I would feel relieved after each one, but then I would talk to my doctor or read the CDC website about those "3%" that take longer to produce antibodies and become convinced once again that I have HIV. I have called the CDC and they still say "6 months is conclusive" because "everyone is different". My own doctor said that HIV tests are not fully conclusive until 6 months (which of course really scared me again), but felt it was "unlikely" that I would seroconvert now. I don't know if I can make it through these next several weeks, if I do need a 6 month test (which would be in January) and if there is a possibility my results could change in that time. Is there? I am convinced I will be that small percentage that will take longer... and I can't stop thinking that way. Unfortunately, I have been the "smaller percentage" with a couple of the medical issues I do have, which only fuels my anxiety further.
I wake up every morning consumed by this. I act as if I have the disease and have begun to grieve never getting married or having children. I am sad and withdrawn all the time. I have lost almost 10 pounds in a few weeks. I will be seeing a psychologist tomorrow, so I am hopeful she can help me. Is there any advice or guidance you have? Even just some words of encouragement? This whole situation has gotten so out of control-I am overwhelmed by what is happening and how anxious I have become. I have never felt this anxious in my whole life. :(
Sorry this is so long, Thank you for reading and for your help.