Hi, I am 20 years old, and i think i have hocd. What really makes me nervous however, is that all other stories i've read, people have been suffering from hocd for a month, or two, but i've been suffering for over 2 years... which is really just making me think that's it's nothing i can just get rid of, so i must be a lesbian!!
It's usually triggered when i start getting close to a guy, it's like my mind slams on the breaks and says "wait you can't date him, you're probably a lesbian" and then i just shut down! I can't even watch tv shows like degrassi, or one tree hill when one of the main characters "come out" i just become in a state of panic right away and i'm like oh my god, this as to be some sort of sign right? i mean i'm pretty sure my sister (whos also watching the same show as me) is not feeling this way rightnow! IT *****!!! I just wanna cry all the time, it's runing my life!!!
I've been struggling with high levels of stress and anxiety for many years, and i always worry about everything...
When i was younger i experimented with my girl friends, like we played house, and one of us was the mommy and one of us was the daddy and we'd makeout like mommy's and daddy's do.. and it's like i constantly think about that!
Then there's the whole "gay-dar" thing that they say gay people have and when i hear that i panic like "omg when they look at me they must know that im gay, they must" and i become all depressed aagain!! I have a couple of friends that i grew up with, who are now lesbians and they dated guys before too and seemed happy, and now they're gay! All i think about is "what if im next!?" Like i know it's not something thats your choice, but I DONT WANT TO BE GAY!! Like a girl i work with was talking about how shes too straight to be gay, her and her roommates would walk around in their bras and it was like whatever, then i thought about how i would be in that situation, and its like, why cant i just be confident and straight like her!!!!!
OH and when people around me suddenly bring up gay people, im like "oh my god, they know, this conversation is totally directed towards me !" and of course again i panic, shut down, cry and just cant get out of that dark place!
I've been in counselling for about 2 weeks now, i told my mom, my sister and my 2 bestfriends about this, and i mean each of them looked at me straight in the face after hearing my story and flat out said "youre just paranoid, youre not gay!" which it's always nice to have a support system right? BUT then i think about it sometimes and its like "well is that my way of 'coming out' them!?!"
The thoughts dont happen as often as they used to, but when they happen they're bad!! I completely shut down... and that scares me too, because i read somewhere that an hocd person cannot silence their thoughts when they happen, whereas a gay person can!! and i can sometimes!!!! :( And ive also heard that gay people get are scared to come out because of what others may think about them, whereas hocd people dont, and i would care about what others thought because i dont want to come out, because i'm not gay!! :(( I just want this all to end!
When i was about 16 or 17 i did something, i don't really remember what it was, but anyways one of my friends looked at me and just said, "lesbo" and i broke down!! I feel like maybe that's when it all started :((
Sometimes when i watch porn, it's the girl that turns me on.. My sister said that's normal, that alot of girls do... But i just dont like it!! And the othe day i was at walmart and i saw a magazine that had miley cyrus on the cover and she was showing some skin and i got that feeling down below and of course i started to panic!!!!
I just started a relationship with a guy, and im so happy, but the only reason that i'm hesitant about it, is because of these gay thoughts.. and part of me just feels like i should break things off with him because he shouldn't have to deal with someone like me.. i mean these thoughts are just not normal!!! But i really dont want to break things off because i do really like him! My other friend I should tell him about it, because a in a relationship there should just be honesty, no matter what the issue right? but as i mentioned before, when i tell people, i just feel like im "coming out" and i HATE IT!!
please please help me!! I really do not want to be gay! I want to be normal, and happy and get married and have kids! I just want these thoughts and panic attacks to just stop! I would honestly truly be happy if these thoughts didnt happen! I'm tired of crying all the time, looking for constant reassurance, and loosing sleep over it! I just want to be Happy and live my life with no worries, and no regrets! But this, this disease has taken over me and put me in such a dark place where i feel like i can't live my own life! PLEASE HELP ME ;(