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Swearing words and thoughts in my 4,5 year old daughters head
Hi there,
My daughter is almost 5 and has just recently mentioned that she has words as **** and similar words in her head. She doesn't want to say them out loud when I ask her if she wants to say them instead of keeping it in her head. She said tonight that she had thoughts about strangling me, but only thoughts, she didn't wanted to do it. She does about 5 times a day a sound with her mouth that sounds cute like a little mouse. That started some months ago too.
She hasn't mentioned voices but just the words. She is very bright, outgoing, well spoken and talkative. There has recently (2 months ago) been an incident where a 12 year old boy has asked her to take off her pants and show him her vagina. Her father and I were very upset when we found out (she told us) and has talked to both our daughter, the boy and his parents and 2 psychologists.
She has had 1 months of holiday of from Kindergarten ie all of July, 2 weeks with her father and 3 weeks with me - and started Kindergarten again last week - with new, small kids - and the older ones have left and gone to school, so a change there as well.
The father and I divorced 2 years ago.
I feel there is a connection in her being bright, having had a stressful experience (with that boy) and us, her parents' divorce 2 years back and going back and forth between mum and dad (9 days with me, her mother and 5 days with her father), and her first week of Kindergarten with new kids - and the words in her head.
She has also mentioned today (she came back after 7 days with her father yesterday) that she wanted spending time with me only and not the kids and neighbours where we live whom she normally love being with as she is very social and extrovert.
I am thinking; peace, quite times eg in the nature, relaxing solo time with mum and dad - and maybe some of the things I can read about in here: tell her to ask the voices to go away and come back and only say nice things, avoid sugar, lots of good sleep, water, food.
I have booked a session with a therapist that I know and whom I took her to when her father and I divorced (she was 2,5 year old and devastated). The therapist is a 'sandplay' therapist where my daughter go and play in the sand with toys - and by doing that gets her emotions out and the therapist make her conclusions by 'the work' my daughter does. It has been really good and interesting enough my daughter asked if we could visit the lady with the toys and sand the other day not having been there for 6-9 months. I took it as a sign of that there emotions has been building up in her, especially after the incident with the boy.
I have also booked a session with a childrens therapist, only me and the therapist, to have a talk about what I can do to support my daughter.
I have resigned my job and gone down on half time 12 months ago, so I can pick her up from Kindergarten at 2pm as she gets too tired after 3pm as the noice is too much for her after 5-6 hours (very understandable!). She is as mentioned very social and has lots of good friends. I am so happy I did so, as it was also a priority for me to spend more time with my daughter.
Please comment, would be happy to hear some good tips and ideas to the words in my lovely and beautiful daughters head.
My daughter is almost 5 and has just recently mentioned that she has words as **** and similar words in her head. She doesn't want to say them out loud when I ask her if she wants to say them instead of keeping it in her head. She said tonight that she had thoughts about strangling me, but only thoughts, she didn't wanted to do it. She does about 5 times a day a sound with her mouth that sounds cute like a little mouse. That started some months ago too.
She hasn't mentioned voices but just the words. She is very bright, outgoing, well spoken and talkative. There has recently (2 months ago) been an incident where a 12 year old boy has asked her to take off her pants and show him her vagina. Her father and I were very upset when we found out (she told us) and has talked to both our daughter, the boy and his parents and 2 psychologists.
She has had 1 months of holiday of from Kindergarten ie all of July, 2 weeks with her father and 3 weeks with me - and started Kindergarten again last week - with new, small kids - and the older ones have left and gone to school, so a change there as well.
The father and I divorced 2 years ago.
I feel there is a connection in her being bright, having had a stressful experience (with that boy) and us, her parents' divorce 2 years back and going back and forth between mum and dad (9 days with me, her mother and 5 days with her father), and her first week of Kindergarten with new kids - and the words in her head.
She has also mentioned today (she came back after 7 days with her father yesterday) that she wanted spending time with me only and not the kids and neighbours where we live whom she normally love being with as she is very social and extrovert.
I am thinking; peace, quite times eg in the nature, relaxing solo time with mum and dad - and maybe some of the things I can read about in here: tell her to ask the voices to go away and come back and only say nice things, avoid sugar, lots of good sleep, water, food.
I have booked a session with a therapist that I know and whom I took her to when her father and I divorced (she was 2,5 year old and devastated). The therapist is a 'sandplay' therapist where my daughter go and play in the sand with toys - and by doing that gets her emotions out and the therapist make her conclusions by 'the work' my daughter does. It has been really good and interesting enough my daughter asked if we could visit the lady with the toys and sand the other day not having been there for 6-9 months. I took it as a sign of that there emotions has been building up in her, especially after the incident with the boy.
I have also booked a session with a childrens therapist, only me and the therapist, to have a talk about what I can do to support my daughter.
I have resigned my job and gone down on half time 12 months ago, so I can pick her up from Kindergarten at 2pm as she gets too tired after 3pm as the noice is too much for her after 5-6 hours (very understandable!). She is as mentioned very social and has lots of good friends. I am so happy I did so, as it was also a priority for me to spend more time with my daughter.
Please comment, would be happy to hear some good tips and ideas to the words in my lovely and beautiful daughters head.
Sounds to me like you have everything in place for your daughter to get the help she needs. Stress can make OCD worse. I did wonder about the noises she makes though. I'm only mentioning it because my son still does that and he was diagnosed with ADHD at about 5 years of age and he is almost 18. Every now and then he will still yell out a "Whoop" or something to that effect. It is not unheard of to have both ADHD and OCD. Obviously I am not diagnosing your daughter but just mentioning it from my own son's experience and the fact that I myself have ADHD and OCD. Anyway, enough of that. I think you are on the right track with your daughter. Take care.
it looks like signs of ocd, she loves u most thats why she has thoughts of strangling u, generally ocd starts in pre teen years but for her, the depressive events has triggered her ocd, u need to consult a pychologist
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