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compulsive staring

i have compulsive habbit of staring at the genitals of guys and girls . i am absolutely straigt but i can't help it ... does anyone relateto this problem and is there a cure
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Has anyone successfully stopped doing this? I don't leave my house very much because I hate accidentally looking at people's boobs. I hate this! Please help.
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Hi

I have this issue plus the peripheral staring and the combination is awful.

I have the genital boob and leg staring for over forty years. Has definitely been
horrible but I force myself into social situations, even though I am at times extremely uncomfortable.

One thing that helps a little is saying to
myself that this is a part of me but not the whole me.
See my reply below considering potential physical factors- eg maybe wearing mouthguard-type appliance inconsistently could be causing  problems; otherwise generally avoiding 'exercises' pushing yourself to anxiety, and considering any unnatural/uncommon activities/appliances you wear for yourself (esp anything affecting head), ophth/optician checkup to rule out any significant eye issues.)
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Read a book called "freedom from Ocd a personalized recovery program" it does mention ocd staring
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are u sure of this? i have this theory too
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try dry eye drops and olive leaf capsules to tighten your eye muscles/
Your eyes may stick a vondition of dry eyes.  Your eyes stick on the last thing seen.  i started taking dry eye drops and it worked for me.
i suffered with this horrible condition also i am finally doing better
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i know you posted this a while ago i hope you read this i have it too and it is so unbeleivable that you are starring at a girls boobs if ;you are a girl
try dry eye drops and taking olive leaf capsules.  my eyes were sticking so they keep looking at the last thing you see or the largest item on the last person.  i do dry eye drops and my eyes stop sticking i also take olive leaf capsules to tighten up my eyes.  i know just how you feel i wear dark sunglasses so people can't see my eyes looking at them.  sometimes i put a piece of paper in the middle of the glasses i stick the paper on with the sticky parts of a candy caramel bar or use petroleum jelly so i can't see nothing i have to walk slow to make sure i don't fall so i leave the bottom of my sun glasses without paper.  looking at your relatives i could justs die so i know how you feel.  good luck
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OCD STARRING MAY BE  A DRY EYE CONDITION WHERE YOUR
EYES STICK AND STAY LOOKING AT LAST THING SEEN. OR THE BIGGEST PART OF THE LAST THING SEEN.  SO IF SOMEONE WALKS PASS YOU YOU KEEP LOOKING AT IT AS YOUR EYES ARE STUCK
I STARTED TAKING DRY EYE DROPS AND MY EYES STOP STICKING CAN YOU BELEIVE IT THAT MAY BE ALL IT WAS.  I ALSO TAKE OLIVE LEAF EXTRACT FOR LOWER BLOOD PRESSURE.  TRY GETTING THE EYE DROPS AND OLIVE LEAF AND SEE IF IT WORKS FOR YOU
GOOD LUCK. I SUFFERED WITH THIS HELLISH CONDITOIN FOR 20 YEARS AND I FINALLY6 FOUND THIS YES
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See my reply below considering potential physical factors- eg maybe wearing mouthguard-type appliance eg retainer invisalign, inconsistently could be causing  problems; otherwise generally avoiding 'exercises' pushing yourself to anxiety, and considering any unnatural/uncommon activities/appliances you wear for yourself (esp anything affecting head), ophth/optician checkup to rule out any significant eye issues.)
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Me and my Mom have this OCD, it is not sexually motivated it is very involuntary and annoying more to us than to the person we are staring at.   I've had it his in my life for as far back as I could remember.  And it seems to get worse as I get older, I'm in my late 40's and I feel like I'm living only half of my life because now I avoid people so much now.  I'm looking for a support group of some kind and if there isn't one available, I'm willing to start one.
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I too recently like 7 months ago developed a weird anxiety about looking into peoples eyes, even my best friend. Then later it become even more weird when i'm in class and my brain is forcing me to focus on the person sitting next to me. Basically i can't help but creep people out with my peripheral vision staring thing. For some reason people notice that i'm peripheral staring at them and they get super creeped out and avoid to sit next to me in class. Sometimes i don't stare, but when i think about not staring is when i stare, and it happens all the time. I also developed another issue where i'm constantly staring at genitals. Like WTF? why i'm i doing this? My professor is completely creeped out by me and it gives him anxiety, therefore i develop an even more anxiety. It's creep to say the least, and it gives me social anxiety because once i do that to people especially in a class or a group of people, i can no longer be myself again, because i'm so embarrassed by may actions. So all of a sudden i developed social anxiety, OCD, and depression, because i'm constantly afraid of staring at people the wrong way, and not being able to control the urge to stare. I also have ADHD, so i take, but of course it isn't helping with my newly developed issues. I think i know how my staring at genital area developed though. One time i was dating this guy, and i didn't want to have sex, but he did. So whenever we were alone together i'll gaze over his ** to check if he was getting horny. Lol. And one night i convinced myself that he saw me look at his ****, so obsessed over it and it made me feel horrible. When i broke with him, i started dating another guy, and one day we were at a hooka bar, and i was sitting next to him and cuddly and what not, and my peripheral vision notice his *** was getting hard, so i freaked out. Lol. So people colleagues/social circle human noticed that i was looking....OMG....especially this one other guy that i was trying to hook up with that night. Anyways, ever since those weird episodes i stopped dating all together. became secluded, developed this weird creepy staring behavior, and to sum it all it makes me miserable in college and in work. I can no longer focus in class cause i'm constantly staring at the fat guy next to me, or the girl across from me boobs, and most importantly my professors****. Isn't that the weirdest **** ever?
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I have the same issue and it is hell on earth.  I have been suffering with it for over forty years.  I force myself to be with people bc that is what makes up our planet, and a part of me does not want to be a hermit.  It isn't easy moving out of your comfort circle. My advice, what helps me is that I keep saying this is only one part of who I am. There are many parts that are fantastic........
See my reply below considering potential physical factors- eg maybe wearing mouthguard-type appliance inconsistently could be causing  problems; otherwise generally avoiding 'exercises' pushing yourself to anxiety, and considering any unnatural/uncommon activities/appliances you wear for yourself (esp anything affecting head), ophth/optician checkup to rule out any significant eye issues.)
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Hi, at first I  thought only I had this compulsion to look at genitals until a year ago. I found out it was an OCD from a sight like this one. I'm 18 years old now. I was diagnosed with psychosis at 14 years old. I began having trouble controlling my urge to glance or look at males genitals when I started high school. I don't try to look, I don't want to look. But it's on my mind to not look therefore I do and it's frustrating. Some boys made fun of me calling me names. I pretended not to hear, it was soooo embarrassing. Throughout my high school year it became worse because I knew the boys in my class noticed. Luckily some ignored it and still was good friends with me.

The weird urge to look was at times not so strong and sometimes went away. But sometimes it was harrible. I began having the looking problem with male teachers. They never treated me differently, most people just ignored and pretending it wasn't happening. We kinda treated it like the pink elephant in the room kinda thing. While ones pacific boy always treated me differently because of it. Sometimes and very rarely the staring would happen with girls. But that never really happened and hasn't happen at all anymore. And certain boys I didn't feel the urge to look. I don't know why, it's like my OCD chooses types of people. The main boys it happened with was with popular boys or the people I didn't really communicate within my class. I guess because of the nerves of wanting to be accepted or not knowing them well brung out the OCD.

I am now 18 and graduated. Overall it didn't "ruin" my high school years it just put a damper on things. I feel I would have had more closer male friends if it wasnt for my OCD. I also have social anxiety. I sometimes have the genital staring problem with my dad but it's not bad. It's just a problem I have to deal with

I cope with my Compulsion by trying to look them in the eye or looking away or trying to focus on the conversation we are having a little more or block the lower part of their body with an object or something. Or I just simply avoid the person I feel will bring on my looking problem.

Next time I go to see my therapist I will have to work up the nerves to tell her. Because I want help with this, to make it go away or be less extreme. I'm just soooo scared and embarist to bring it up to her. I don't even know how. But I will, hell she already knows my other deepest secrets. So wtf, I'll do it!
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Yea, ok I'll start a new thread. Thanks
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I mentioned above that this is an old thread.  Why don't you start a new one with a bit more detail about what you are going through so that people an respond to you directly.  
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Anyone else going to college with this disease? I'm supposed to start this september
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It seems like there's been no research done no professional medical diagnosis, an no one knows what it is what to call it or how to treat it. Psychologists give practical things to apply or dope you up. It's frustrating
I experience all the same symptoms people are talking about to the point I feel this strain in my head hurts
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I call it peripheral looking, but I think the proper term is hypervigilance. However, peripheral looking is more specific. Basically, it is looking out the corner of your eye when you don.t want to. For anyone who notices this, I can only imagine it.s pretty creepy. So for me, when I.m stuck in this peripheral looking and I notice the person noticing me stuck, it gets really bad.
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See my reply below considering potential physical factors- eg maybe wearing mouthguard-type appliance inconsistently could be causing  problems; otherwise generally avoiding 'exercises' pushing yourself to anxiety, and considering any unnatural/uncommon activities/appliances you wear for yourself (esp anything affecting head), ophth/optician checkup to rule out any significant eye issues.)
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Yeah I know what you mean !
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This is a four year old thread and so posts gets "lost" because you may be responding to someone that hasn't been on here in a while or comparing yourself to someone else who posted.  Or just saying "me too."  

Please start a new thread with details so that we can help you better.  Thank you.  

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I know how ya feel man. Hope I just need a ray of it. Be kind to yourself ya not alone ill be ya friend.
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Is there any ******* hope?
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tell me about it..sometimes I just want to end it
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Is there anyone out there coz its getting harder n harder to breath.
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Nah no luck either I'm on samE which is a natural vitamin mood stabilizer but it does nothing. I reckon if I was a horse I would need blinkers n pacifiers I don't know where to go to get help? I wish there was a solution to this that didn't require meds.
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I was taking zoloft and risperidone, but it only made things worse. Is there any meds you've trie and are helping?
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I'm so glad this forum is alive. I been google n reading up on it on different forums an its a relief to know I'm not the only who suffers with it but it sux that there's know 1 cure like an asthma puffer I've tried antidepressant n natural med but that **** makes me worse n being to pyshololigists they give some practical things to try but there's a devil in my noodle. I red the otherday on this forum bout this guy who first used to trip about how he walked then this developed it was like I was reading what my own story what a trip I wonder what the simulatitys are? I experienced a fair bit of trauma smoked a fair bit of weed now don't. I'm at trade school this week in a classroom it's horrible I think the teacher is ******* with me. I anticipated it. I spoke to a psych last week n he said thank your mind for the thoughts but choose not to buy them an focus on breathing it helps but I don't believe in it
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Your posts have helped me.  It's nice to know I'm not the only one with this.
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