hocd i think?

Hey guys, looking for a little help or guidance here. I am a 20 year old male and have been in a relationship for 2 1/2 years. When i first started dating this girl i was so in love her it seemed unreal, and it still is to this day. over the past year we have had some issues, but typical ones. One night we were about to have sex and i ended up losing my erection, during foreplay i was fine. But once we started having sex i lost it. It was right before my finals stared(im in college) and it was also around the time we were having some issues. After that night i started having these intrusive gay thoughts to the point they were driving me crazy. It was like my head was so confused and fuzzy i couldnt even get daily tasks done. Before that night i had never had a gay thought, never even entertained the idea. I have been with alot of girls in the past and enjoyed it all. I dont know why all of the sudden i am getting these thoughts, i have never been aroused by the sight of a male but now all of the sudden i am checking to make sure im not getting aroused. I cant get this out of my head and its pissing me off. Whenever i masturbate, its to girls and is always fine. This is bothering me so much because i love having sex with my girlfriend, but as of lately its been hard becasue my confidence is so low from this. Whenever it comes down to sex my mind starts racing, up until that point im always really excited and ready to go. This is really annoying more than anything, i dont feel like myself i want to get back to the normal old me. Some days its really bad and others its almost non existent. Any help or guidence would be great. By the way i have always considered myself very mentally healthy. Before this started i began to worry about having an STD and finally got over that, but the way these feelings come on and how my brain seems to deal with them is very similar. Thanks guys

[noles12345]

I also want to say that whenever i check to see if im getting aroused it ends up being the opposite and i feel almost sick. Last night i was watching this comedian and kept trying to see if i was attracted to him, this basically took over my whole body to the point i felt sick. It was not untill i took a step back and said youre crazy for thinking like this that i could feel normal and actually laugh at what he was saying. Then feeling good about mydelf i went and m****bated to lesbian porn and it was great no problems, at that point i honestly could only think about how attractive these women are and how i could ever think i was gay. But this hocd always seems to come back and haunt me, i can tell that none its true but still just cant seem to get it out of my. Its making me feel depressed and i hate it, i just want to get back to my normal self with the happy healthy sex life i used to have with my girlfriend.

[westofengland]

sounds like stress - and this kind of thing is common. Hey, I love women, but I have sometimes had 'gay' thoughts in the sense that I can see how other men are attractive to women.

It seems to happen to younger men, too. I wouldn't worry, if you really were turned on by men, you'd know. Just before you ejaculate, do you think of women or men? If it's women I wouldn't worry. And if you are turned on by men and women, what's the problem, there are plenty of happy bisexuals around. The more you try and 'block' thoughts the more they will crop up, so try to let them go.

Erectile problems can be caused by stress too. I'm sure it will clear up.