how can i stop masterbating(masturbating) and watch pornography

Hey, i am in my late teens and i have been masturbating since the age of 13. I respect women a lot and want to stop fantasizing bad things about it. I spoke to few people here and there and they say it is normal for a guy to have these fantasies. Although i do not like it and want to stop masturbating and fantasizing about ladies. I have tried many ways, from blocking website to putting religious images on the desktop. I feel very guilty after masturbating. I want to take control, and i did try slowing things down but convincing myself to not masturbate with one day initially and start increasing the days gradually, but it did not work. Please some one HELP ME TAKE CONTROL OF MY LIFE.  

[NeedGodsAwareness]

See the problem is you want to control everything and that is part of the obsessive compulsive disorder. It's become an obsession and by repressing your sexual instincts you are only going to lead yourself to more compulsive behavior and then just sink back down again.

Listen if you're on the internet and you're addicted to pornography and you have OCD, the most realistic thing you can do to stop, is to stop using the internet all together. You believe you can control and you obsess about control but you don't control anything. It's only an illusion that always leads back to compulsive sexual behavior.

We all have sexual desires and it is normal but using Internet pornography to release sexual desires is one of the least healthiest things we can do. I have been in your shoes, I've believed that I could control myself and my behavior but I couldn't and it's always been the same story.  My story your story there is no difference.

These fantasies or thoughts you are having are like intrusive thoughts and you may not like them but they are there and repressing them will not help whatsoever, Like  the great psychologist Carl Jung said, what you resist persists, So if you're anti-pornography you will only go back to pornography, you must find another door to lead you into a different light so instead of being anti-pornography you have to be pro- relationship for example, you must find love not lust.

God I sound like such a hypocrite, I'm sitting here on the computer and I know I'm still having these sexual obsessions and pornography viewing problems but at least I know now that what I was doing was shaping my mind over time to become more and more perverted in thought structure so that I could have the same arousal effect from the pornography.

I have been struggling everyday of my life with this ever since 6 months after I started I was becoming guilty, that was when I was 12 years old and now I'm 22 that's 10 years of filth followed by guilt followed by false positive reaffirmation to make myself feel better. Warping my thoughts and my mind without me even consciously aware of it.

It's mind boggling

[flob]

humans are extremely sexual beings. trying to stop your fantasies would be next to impossible. you can certainly try, but it's probably not going to happen.

[nadarggg]

Hi i have been masturbating from the age 12 till now. Iam 31 years now.  My hair has started falling. I am half bald. I lost all confidence.
Iam not able to study properly. Iam suffering from some type of Scizophrenia. Iam hearing sound in my ear. As if somebody is talking to me. Some time i feel as if somebody is controlling me and lot more of psychological problem, like nervousness and fear, emotional distrubance, suicidal thoughts all due to habit of masturbation.
Which is very bad. It spoils the mental state of mind. I spoils the nervous system and does lot of psychological problem.
Please everybody avoid masterbuation. It is dangerous in the long run.
I cant write my name. iam afraid of society

Regards

[sportygirl89]

There's nothing wrong with masturbation.  Most people do it (if not all) and it's perfectly healthy and normal.  if anything, I think your obsession is not an obession with porn, but an obsession with "being dirty" and you're not doing anything wrong.  As a woman, i can tell you that none of us care or feel "disrespected" knowing that a guy masturbates.  It's natural and women do the same thing.

[Omusicgame]

Listen, ive over obsessed about about masterbating (masturbating) and porno and wanting to stop,  to the point where i got a cross tattooed on my finger.  yes its true.  I thought if i i did this, then maybe it will help.  But i still do it from time to time.  But ive realized as crazy as that sounds, I tried my hardest to stop.  And at least you are trying.  Listen, itll take time but dont beat yourself up over it.  You cant do that.  We as men, have to let out our testosterone, and when you hold back, it might just make you a little crazy. im just saying.  this is true, ive been there.  porn is a hard addiction to quit, its probably harder to quit than heroin, because unlike heroin, you can just get porn anytime.  Even thinking of it.  So just take it easy man.  Be good to yourself, and just know youre not alone.

[nomatterwhat]

I'm masturbating since I was 6 years old. I have never thought that I’m obsessed. But I do have some psychological problems, that may have something to do with it. I'm suffering from social phobia and depression. I'm afraid of people, social situations, have really hard time to get out of my room, I don't trust people and I always push them away. It's hard to find anything interesting and I live only to get through the day.... I’m 20 years old and yes, I do have problem with masturbating.
I was blind. Masturbating all day long, not being able to go to school, watching porn and becoming slave to the pleasure. At that time I also had major depression. Couldn't get rid of the pain, that I felt inside without reason, self harming and constant suicidal thoughts were killing me, the only good thing was pleasure. What made me realize it was how far I've got watching porn. I didn't know what to watch, that will make me aroused. I've watch everything from the list of fetishes. I felt disgusted with myself. Disturbing and sick fantasies inside of my head. I want to stop. And I will. No matter what. It's going to be hard, it already is. Even though I know I'll fail sometimes, I will always get up again. I almost defeat depression. Pain is still here, but I learn to live with it. So now there is nothing to prevent me from fighting the monster inside of me. There is too much things in my life that I can't control. But there is this few things I believe I can. Actually we all can do it, because after all none will do it instead of us.
English is not my language, so I’m sorry if it is hard to read... I’m a girl so not only men have problems with it….

[Lance2ndLife29]

Hey, I came to this site for the same reason. I am a christian as well and have had this problem ever since I was 12. It started out with the first time I typed "sex" into my browser because no one had told me anything about it. for several years I just looked at porn every once and a while but after I masturbated for the first time it was hard to stop. I've gone through periods where I haven't masturbated for up to 2 weeks but after I break the spell I can't stop for nearly a week straight. I wanted to let you know that your not the only young christian man struggling with this problem. I'm 17 now and I feel like I'm getting closer every day to stopping. I just recently ejaculated for the first time in a week......I used to get very depressed after doing this but not this time. I'm just going to keep trying. I'll tell you what. Every time you feel the need to do porn I want you to post on this question how long you've gone with out doing any thing and why you aren't/are going to do anything again. I will do the same and I'll make some kind of comment on each of yours to let you know I've seen it. Together and with God's help we can take control of our bodies. Interested? I'll start: I have not Masterbated or done porn in 15 minutes and I am not going to do it again because I want to keep my body and eyes holy for the lord and my future wife if it be the lords will I get married. P.S. if you have any questions you'd like to ask me that you don't want every one to see here then email me at ***@**** . This is my "junk" email so label your message as your question so I know it's not spam. God bless you!

[princess188]

Yup, We all have problems with that and i always do that till now since i was 12 years old. There's no problem of masturbation.

I've search for what causes for this damn masturbation after I've done masturbating and I'm very damn feeling regret it.
I do it because last hours ago i think bad to my cousin doing hot connecting to me that makes me horny with, I watch her that i might do something to her. so I watch porn and do masturbate to control my incestuous.

And I see reason why porn legal, not restricted.

My suggestion to your problem is to stop using internet in few months and live a life without it, do something new to yourself, try something new, and try to avoid masturbating.

Only perform watching porn and masturbating when in case similar to my problem.

You only do is to control it until, right you find out and realize for someone deserve your fantasies.

[diseased]

hI all,
I also fall in ur category. i've been masterburating since I was 15. And now Iam nearly 24. i am losing my hair every day iam nearly 3/4th bald. my memory is weak now and iam becoming dulll day by day and loosing confidence in myself. it's giving me lot's of problem in my professional life.... i have tried to control it several times but iam not able to control. i dont know wht to do abt this...... i weigh very less and lots of other problems are there. like u all guys i also feel guilt after masterburating. I don't know wht to do...... some times i've been able to stop it for 2 weeks but than agin the history repeats itself....
iam trying hard but iam not able to get rid of it... i feel dizzy and light-headed sometimes when i sit at a place for long .
I want to stop this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!.

somebody help!!!!!!!

[Mentality]

Believe you me, I masterbate daily, sometimes twice a day. I always turn on the porno and search naughty pics to arouse me. In fact, I masterbated not 3 hours ago. I believe that masterbating (masturbating) once in a while is a way to relieve sexual tension, but doing it to often can be unhealthy. My advice? There are plenty, PLENTY of other things in the world that are much more enjoyable than watching other peoples relations and getting pleaaure fron theirs. For me, writing is my life and I do it every day. I love to write novels and fiction stories of all kinds. What do you enjoy? Spend some time trying other things and learning what you and you alone enjoy. Anyobe can watch porn and jerk off, but only you can do what you love. So go find it, whether it be drawing comics or playing football.