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Cindy

Hi Cindy, I hope you're feeling better, it's been a rough time for you. I wanted you to know that I'm thinking about you, please come back to the board when you're ready. I know you'll get the support you need to get through the latest problems. Have a pleasant, peaceful day tomorrow, healing hugs........ Jane
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Hi Howard, I think a lot of people didn't post because Cindy put something up that she wanted to take a break and wasn't going to respond to posts for a while and we're trying to respect that.

I haven't known your wife for very long, but she was very kind in responding to some of my posts, and I don't have cancer, but other problems.  She always said she would pray for me, as I do for her.

I am incredibly sad to hear that her chemos are not working.  Just so you know, THIS Cindy is praying for a miracle for your Cindy.  She is a special lady, and very loved.  Also, I know this is a horrible time for you, so I pray God gives you the strength to deal with it.  Please come back and update us.
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Howard, chemo brain strikes again! I'm so sorry for the references to "Cathy" instead of Cindy in the above post, dopey me!
Cathy is another lady on a different message board who's having a very rough time, she's also on my mind.......Jane
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Hi Howard,
I hope you see this post, I sent Cindy a couple of "notes" which didn't go through because her profile page said she's not receiving notes at this time. I understand completely that she needs a break from this forum because as was stated, unfortunately there's a lot of serious illess going on here. Cindy and you, are dealing with her cancer now, and reading about other's disease is not what she can deal with. She and I had started to back-and-forth about light chatter. Family, the weather, areas in NJ and pizza! It was a pleasant change for me, I hope when she's up to it, we can pick up where we left off.
Through watching my husband's pain, fear and frustration, I can understand how difficult this situation is for you, and I sympathize with you for having to deal with an illness, you and she never expected to take over your lives, as it has taken over ours.
I'm sorry you were hurt by the lack or response to my post, but now you can see that Cathy is surely cared about, and there's such concern for her well being on this forum. This is because she's shown kindness, and caring to the  women who post here.
The ladies here are a wonderful, caring group who give support, and try to help with advice or information. Sadly we're dealing with our own overwhelming cancer, which can take all the strength out of us.
Be well, take care of yourself and tell Cathy I hope she's doing better, and thank you for the information you've posted here in the past, I truly hope you don't stop helping us.
Jane
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196469 tn?1365387975
As always, everyone here is in my thoughts and prayers.  I too missed this thread and am hoping things get better...........
Heidi
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You are an extraordinary, giving, intelligent woman.  I hope your pain is soon relieved and you are back with us sharing your research and perspective.

Sharon
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I am sorry I missed this one too.  like Cirella said....I was not connecting Cindy to Cindy 809, sorry....Your wife has been very helpful to many of us here....I do not think anyone was trying to avoid.....Probably like me was sorta used to seeing the full user name....and our Oldies have had a rough time I am sure when they get a chance to get caught up they will..... I am like Teresa above do not answer too many but I will give my support and prayers as always.......Cindy has been on my list  as is ever women here is  and  I keep all of them in my thoughts and prayers.....I hope you can find it in your heart to give us a chance.....
Our thoughts are with you and Cindy...
Dawnlyn
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I'm sorry you have felt that this post had gotten overlooked.  Cindy knows that posts move rather quickly here and I'm sure that is the case.  I do remember another post entitled Cindy809 which inquired about her and there were several responses to it.  Also, there is a journal written Feb 5 where she says she'd taking a break and several people responded to that.  

There is no cluster of people who rally around each other and leave the "helpless" out.  What does happen, as in any forum I'm sure, is that those who have been on for a long time get to know each other but the new people soon make friends of those "old timers".  Cindy has several friends here and she is no "newbie".

I'm sorry, you just came off so defensive and accusatory when in fact you may just be hurting which is understandable.  I'm sure if you continue to stay that you will see this forum as a caring and helpful one.  I don't know Cindy but I do know many on here and they would never intentionally leave a post unanswered.  If you read through the posts of the last month you'll see that a lot are in bad places now.  Please be understanding of their circumstances, too.

Take care, both you and Cindy.
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Yesterday I was at the Cancer Center for several hours.  I am just now seeing this thread.  I admit I have been so caught up in my own disease isses that I have not spent as much time reaching out to try to help others as I should.  Cindy has been in my thoughts and my prayers.  I know she is struggling.  I have been using this board for a year. I do find it to be like family.  I will continue to keep Cindy in my prayers.  She was kind to me and so many others.  Marie
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I too am sorry , Cindy is a very generous and caring Lady , I have read many of her posts and she helps so many women with her advise and kindness on the forum.
You can be sure that she is missed greatly by many , I send my love and prayers to Cindy and am thinking about her.

Angie
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I cannot tell you how upset I am with myself for not responding to this thread sooner. I've written her privately, but should have shown my support here.  Cindy has been one of the greatest assets to this community in a long time. I really miss her very informative and heartfelt posts to everyone who asks a question. Unfortunately, I am not as informed as Cindy and cannot answer every post. I do what I can.

I miss her so much. Please tell her she is in my thoughts and prayers.
Teresa222
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Dear Jane,

Thank your your thinking of my dear wife.  I am her caretaker and we discuss the forums.  She hasn't participated in the past but recently has been more active. here.  She enjoyed coming here and would talk about it all the time.  She always asks about the ladies.  They mean so much to her.  She prays for everyone's treatments.

I'm not going to tell her about this post.  I know she's had responses from her dear friends here on her journal.  Thank you very much ladies!!!  It meant a lot to her.

I just feel sad when I come here to update her and see her name all alone.  She has given wonderful advise.  She thought she connected with everyone but from the response to this thread I don't think she realizes how she will only be missed by a few while she desperately tries to pull herself out of this difficult time.  

I'm just getting adjusted to this forum.  She talked about the forum as being a family.  I don't understand why a cluster of certain people gather around some and not others. I realize that great friendships have formed and that is a blessing connecting to others and the support that is needed. I also realize that some members come and go but Cindy has been posting a lot lately and her name is definately recognized.  Jane, you are a sweet lady for all your support.  

I wonder if some of the helpless get overlooked here and their questions are passed by because they are not part of the cluster that gathers when one of their group is in need.  Has this forum changed?  It doesn't sound anything like what Cindy has described to me.  It makes me feel especially sad to see her name all alone.  She's suffering now and needs your prayers to help her with her pain.  I know some of the  the ladies are suffering and I don't mean to add to your disease with my feelings.  Some are here for support.  That is wonderful!!!  

Please forgive me if I have offended anyone.  I don't think anyone would like to see their loved ones name without anyone's response.  I will not be back here because I don't think this is something I want to share with my wife.  She gave to this forum and why didn't anyone say anything to give her support (on the thread) during this difficult time.  I know her name is not unfamiliar to you all.
Best regards, Howard
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