Still waiting for pathology report from September 1 surgery

[Jazzeroo]

I had my surgery September 1, and still have not heard about my pathology report.  So far I have only been told that the preliminary pathology report shows a Stage 1 cancer and that I will need chemo.

      I just found out Thursday night that my mom has lung cancer, and that it has spread througout her body. They are going to give her chemotherapy, radiation and other types of chemo.  They said that it is too late to have surgery to remove a growth in her lung because the cancer has spread. She has now just stopped smoking.

      Anyway, I love my mom more than myself, and I know this is a good site to vent. I really hate cancer.  I have completely forgotten about my own cancer problems.

      My mom's chemotherapy is starting in two weeks. We are anticipating probably having our chemotherapy together.  I have a little 13-year-old sister that I am going help my mom take care of.  Anyway, once again, Cancer really stinks!!!!

[Best59]

I feel sorry for you guys. I just lost my dad in May. He had lung cancer, and happenned very fast... Here in the US, doctor never ask you to do chest x. every year. You should do it!
Also try to eat a lot of "C" vitamin. Min. 3-4 x 500 mg/day. C vitamin is a #1 fight with cancer.
Eat healty and FRESS food. Try to not eat from the processed section, buy at farmer market! Do not eat in fast food restaurants! The worst, what you can do! Wash your food!
Small things, but help a lot! I think we are living middle of the "chemical" world, and we need to fight back!
Don't give up! Change your live!
Sue

[tonni]

Thank you so much for your response and checking up on me! I had the surgery and it was exactly as you described, I thought about you alot while in the hospital. I stayed in the hospital for 7 days and have been home for 14 days. The surgery went well, I guess, I did loose alot of blood and had to have a blood tranfusion, I wanted to store my own blood just in case, but this is my blood now! They did find ovarian cancer and it had started spreading to the lymph glands (at a stage 3) I start chemotherapy Oct. 12th... I am still in shock ... I just keep crying alot and wish it could all be a bad dream...I hope to hear from you again and pray for your mother, you and your sister ...we have so many similarities...my mother had been sick for over a year, 2 days before her surgery I found out that my "hernia" was really tumors, big ones, the "hernia" ended up being a lymph node with a 6cm tumor in it...My mother's surgery went well no cancer and mine ended up being cancer a week later. I have 2 daughters 19 and 20 years old, they have so much going on growing up and I know they are scared for me and wish I could be more involved in their lives...I am just so depressed.  How do you stay so positive?  Your strength is inspirational...thinking good things for you and yours!

[Jazzeroo]

You are so empathetic to this cancer situation because you have REALLY BEEN THROUGH IT with your family. It really seems to run in the family. I mean, you are living proof with what you have described about your mom and her siblings.
       When I was 17 years old I watched my mom's sister die of pancreatic cancer at the age of 48. I shared my bedroom with her while she was dying. Hospice would come in and help her, along with my mom and the rest of the family.
       I was too young to really comprehend what she was going through.  When I was hospitalized, I thought about my aunt a lot, especially when I heard that they think I have Stage 1 cancer.      
       My grandmother on my dad's side that never smoke or drank died of breast cancer, and my grandmother on my mom's side, who did smoke, died of lung cancer.  Maybe one day they will find a cure.
       Losing your mom must have been THE WORST!!!!!  I know my mom is going to pull through this.  My mom has always been a person that has faith that things will work out.  Never does she say, "Poor me."  She told me she is going to fight this with all that she has got.  I love reading your posts.  I hate to hold  pity parties, but this thing with my mom is really making me want to have lots of them, although I am going to remain strong for her, and my sister.  I have no choice because she will need me to take care of EVERYTHING for her if something happens, and that EVERYTHING is my sister.  I love my mom so much that if I could take her place and go through all those chemo treatments for her, I would.  Then again, I am sort of in the same boat with the uncertainty of my own ovarian cancer, but I am 32, healthy, and I had surgery to remove the cancerous growth.  Also I do not have any children to worry about. Sure, I was devistated for about a day that I would need chemo, but the next day I decided that I would get as much info about ovarian cancer that I can.  Maybe with my positive energy and my mother's positive engery, we can help each other.  
       If you have read this far in my post, then thank you.  This is just a venting session I am having before I go to sleep.  When I live with my mom, I know I will be on the computer much less and will be spending all the quality time I can with her and helping her through her intense chemo treatments.

[sami2]

Danielle, I just read your post and just wanted to tell you how sorry I am that you are going thru this with your sister. I just don't understand why this happens. To have your mother and father both have cancer and now you and your sister is just so wrong. I have also lost many relatives to this disease. My mom came from a family of 7 children. Within 8 years 6 of them died from cancer, including my mom, and now there is only one left, my aunt. Everytime one of them died from cancer another one was diagnosed. It was awful. I quit asking why? long ago because it was not something I wanted to dwell on because there is no answer to that question. It just makes me sick. Your sister is lucky to have you in her life and all you can do now is be strong for her and try to make her final days the best that you can. I know it will be so hard. But you must keep going forward and live everyday to the fullest. My mom used to tell me that all the time when she was dying. I understand now how our lives can change in an instant and we should be grateful for everyday we have here on earth. I will be praying for you and your family at this difficult time.

[sami2]

jazzeroo, I just wanted to say how sorry I am for all you are going thru. My mom died from lung cancer 16 years ago and hers had spread to her liver by the time they found it. Its a horrible, horrible thing to see a parent go thru this. I know how you feel. I just wanted to let you know that your mom will be in my thoughts and prayers as is everyone who is fighting this horrible disease. I pray every night for all those are suffering from cancer and for all of their loved ones who are watching them suffer. Its hard on everyone. Yes, cancer STINKS!

[Jazzeroo]

That is great that you are cancer-free.  I am sorry for your sister.  At least you are healthy and can be a good support for her.  Keep me posted.  You will be in my thoughts.
     I gave my 30-day notice and am moving in with my mom so I can help her take care of my little sister (she is a very active 13-year-old, has a horse, goes to horse shows, is now on the school volleyball team).  My mom fell ill just like that, and she cannot drive.  She has worked at the same job for 27 years. Her job is devasted.  We all are.  
     My mom is not the kind of person to type out her feelings like I am right now.  She said what is happening cannot be described in words, written or verbally.  What I hold on to is that she says to have faith, and that things sometimes happen that we really do not know the reason for.  She says to stay strong, for her and my sister, and that our minds are powerful enough to think ourselves into despair, so remain positive.
     I have looked up information on lung cancer and would like to share my thoughts with my mom, but she says that the internet is not the most useful tool, and that she is going to rely solely on her doctors.  Also she does not want to talk about the disease with me because she does not want me upset.  Mainly she wants me to take care of my little sister and make sure there is not any disruption in her life.  
     I hope your sister pulls through.  Thank you for your input.:)

[ddemaso]

Hi Jazzeroo,

I am so so sorry for what you are going through. How awful. I know it is difficult. I was diagnosed last year with Stage 1c Ovarian Cancer. I had a 13cm mass on my left ovary that burst upon removal. My OB-GYN surgeon removed the mass and had a pathology done on it and found out it was cancer. He then tried to contact my on-call Gynecological-Oncologist but was unable to get ahold of him. They had to pull in a general surgeon to view my other organs for preliminary staging. My second surgery was Ovarian Cancer Staging and Intraperitoneal Hyperthermic Chemotherapy with Mitmycin C. 10 1/2 hours for that one and four weeks to walk normal.

During my first surgery, my mom told me that my sister was having problems bleeding and pain. I told her to have Debbie go in to the doctors right away and tell them our history with cancer. (My mom had ovarian and colon cancer, my dad died of skin cancer). Debbie went in to the same Gynecological Oncologist office that I go to (not the doctor that didn't show up for the surgery, a different one). She has Cervical cancer. The whole time I thought I was going to die and she was going to live. Ovarian Cancer is the deadliest gynecological cancer (most often caught late) and cervical is the most cureable.  She would cry to me, I don't want to die and I would say, you are going to die Debbie, it's Cervical Cancer, you will be fine, you're not going to die.

Now, I am clear a year as of October 4th (October 11th will be the official clear) and Debbie was given 1-9 months to live, a month ago. I'm living and she's dying. It's soo hard. My heart goes out to you. I will say a prayer for you and your mom. I will check for you to keep in touch on this website.  I am so sorry.

Sincerely,
Danielle