Support?

[flipflopae]

Hey everyone,

My mom was recently diagnosed with cancer.  Her doctors think it originated in the ovaries but they haven't been able to find the site of origin. I'm 20 and I don't really know where to turn to for support.  My friends try to help but it's hard to always talk to people who constantly offer sympathy but can't fully relate to what I'm going through, if you know what I mean.   I looked for cancer support chats online but only came across defunct, empty, or outdated ones.  Does anyone have any advice about where I could find more people to talk to about this?  Is anyone going through a similar situation?

Thanks a lot,
Tanya

[angelnhvn]

God bless your mom. My mom had ovarian cancer back in 1993. It still feels like yesterday. One thing I regret is not having more heart to heart talks with her. Her hospice nurse told my sister and I that my mother wanted to tell us so much, but couldn't bring herself to do it. I wish I had known that then, so that I could help her open up. It was the hardest time in my life (not to mention hers) The feelings I had were probably denial, for the longest, lots of crying and sleepless nights, etc. I never ended a call or visit to my mother without a tight hug, or an 'I love you'. I'll pray for your mom and you, for strength and remission for your mother.

I had a sonogram done a week ago and they found a 1.3 cm solid mass on my ovary. I don't want to think negative, but how can't I. My mother was struck with ovcr and I'm praying I don't have the same genes. If it's in God's will for me to go that way, then I pray for as much strength as my mother had. She had her bad days of depression, but ultimately, her last weeks were beautiful. She seemed to have been an angel on earth after she reached the acceptance stage. Some people never reach that stage because they are angry or just don't want to go. I believe with all my heart that my mom is in a better place and is watching over my sister, my brother and I. I still feel her presence near me and hear her voice in my head. The times I've dreamt of her are as if she has come to visit me. It's such a great feeling that I wake up crying because it was so good to see her. They never leave us.

Spend as much time with your mother, tell her whatever your heart desires. God forbid Our Lord calls her home and you'll be left with the same feelings I have...not having more heart to heart talks with her.

To all the brave women on this forum with cancer, God bless you all and may He give you the strength you need to get you through this very rough time in your life.

Tight hugs and kisses

[StillFighting]

Her doctors think it originated in the ovaries but they haven't been able to find the site of origin

have they done surgery yet? they can stage the cancer as well as see what type of cells there dealing with. at this point the site of origin doesn't matter as much as getting the cancer under control.
The only way the docs can do that is by staging and typing it.

Good luck.

[JANDS]

My Mun too was diagnosed with ov cancer stage iv and I got lots of support from this site - mainly from the brave women who have cancer themselves. It helped to listen to them to get an idea of how my mum may really feel because I felt that she was putting on a brave face for me, as most parents do for their children,.  I suppose I wanted to wrap her up in cotton wool and was annoyed that she didn't sem to be taking it as easy as i thought she should- but after talking to ladies here who were sufering from cancer they told me how they felt and told me to try to let her do whagtever whe wanted and felt like doing- which was the best advice . You will get lots of support here. My thoughts are with you and your mum.
Jackiex

[jenjen72]

My mom also has ovarian cancer.It is in stage 3 and she is on her 2nd round of chemo. i also have been trying to figure out how to deal with the feelings that go along with this .
                 thanks, jen

[crecco]

  I am sorry that you got no response. But that may be due to the fact that you posted your comment under someone else's comment, and it would have easily been missed. What you need to do is start your own thread. At the top where you see Post a Question in green, click on that and follow the steps towards making your own comment that others will be more apt to see.
Please try this so that you will get some of the answers you are looking for.
  Chris

[Angel1580]

I posted a comment several weeks ago and have had no response.  Please let me know if there is another link I have o go to to get my replies.

Thank you

[Angel1580]

My mom was recently diagnosed with ovca.  Had surgery 2 weeks ago.  She is 73 years old. Looks 60 and acted 20 before all of this.  She is scheduled for follow-up with onc/gyn next week.  She doesn't know the there are tumors on her aorta. Per her dr her prognosis is poor.  She is having a horrible time with gas and constipation and pelvic pain.  Anyone have any suggestions?   What other symptoms should I expect?  

Any advise  is appreciated.

Thank you

[marie3B]

I am sorry too. My mom also had ovca. Come here any time for supprt. Marie

[crecco]

There are a lot of wonderful women here that woud be glad to help you in any way that they can. Many of us actually have cancer, and many more are caregivers. A diagnosis of cancer is a very scary thing to go through. And most of us knew very little about ovarian cancer until it actually hit close to home. This is a great place to ask any questions that you come up with.
  I am sorry that your mom is having to deal with this. Feel free to come on and express yourself about anything that is bothering you . If any of us can help, we will. Please let us know what you find out.
  Chris

[iona1]

My mom was diagnosed in Aug07 with Stage 3C Ovarian Cancer.  I definately know what you are going through now.  It took her doctors about 2 months to actually figure out everything which made everything tough on our family.  I found myself constantly questioning why I did not see the signs.  Since that time I have lived through 2 surgeries and 6 rounds of chemo with her.  This forum has definately helped me not only to cope, but to understand more of the process.  Feel free to express your feelings at any time or ask any questions.

[PinkTissue]

Sorry to hear about your mum. My own mum has been diagnozed with ovarian cancer in Dec 07. I have drop you a private message. We are in the same boat - so you are welcome to ask any questions you have.

[msjazz]

I feel sure someone here can help you with this. Has your mom had surgery yet? If not insist on having a gynecologist/oncologist do the surgery. They are trained to remove it and stage her cancer. From there they will decided if and what chemo therapy she may need. If they have done surgery do you know what stage and what the drs plan?