news from rmarie

To all of you who answered rmarie's latest post: thank you.

I'm Rita Marie Berdan's husband and we have some sad news: her cancer has spread aggressively to her lung and liver, is out of control and completely unresponsive to chemotherapy. She is moving on to hospice tomorrow, but her pain, as terrible as it was, is now controlled and she has been able to sleep for the first time in 3 weeks.

Rita Marie loves this forum, and I would like to thank everyone who she's communicated with over the past couple of years. OVCA is a heartless thief, robbing its victims of life in a cruel manner, and turning those left behind into victims as well.

[coogeegirl]

I am so sorry to hear of this, it is has really upset me to think of how much pain she has been in and I thank god that they have that under control now.

Please let her know how much she is loved by all the ladies on this forum and that we will be praying for the both of you.

Love

Jenny

[silver&gold]

Im so sorry to hear this sad news , this disease is truly a cruel one .I will keep you in my prayers . Angie

[learninboutlife]

Marie and Marie's husband and family --
Don't really know what to say, other than I am so sad to hear that... Keeping you all in my prayers that she remains as comfortable as possible. Sending my heartfelt love, concern and many hugs to you all.
Fran

[Kimchi]

I am so shocked to hear this news...Please give her a big hug from Kimchi in Thailand and tell her that I am thinking of her.

[Mary 53]

I am so sad to hear this news. Marie has been such an inspiration to others and always there for anyone at anytime. I am just so sad.

Love you Marie and to her family,

Mary

[gah_70]

I echo everyone else's thoughts.  This is such sad news.  I have always admired Marie and she has always given out such good advice to those who come here seeking answers and reassurance.  I am glad to hear she has gotten pain relief and is able to rest comfortably.  My love and prayers are going out to you both.

Gail

[lilbubba]

I am so sad to hear that it has spread. I hope they continue to keep her pain under control. This disease is so unfair, but she has fought it bravely. I admire her strength. Please let her know our thoughts are with her.

[mrsbaguba]

I am so very sorry to learn of this, and offer to keep you and your family in my prayers.  Marie is a gacious lady who is loved and respected by all on this forum. Please give her my love.
Judie:)

[hopeshell]

I am so very sad right now.  She just emailed me yesterday and was asking how I am doing...that's the kind of person she is...always thinking of others.  I am praying for her to remain pain free.  Please let her know how much we all love her on this forum and I will be praying for strength and peace for you during this very tough time.  

Hugs and Prayers,  Shelly

[SimplyStar]

I read this away from my home and I want you to know that Marie is a very special person to me,  What hope and strength she has given me.  She is probably facing this like the strong person she is, Hospice is such a blessing for us to have.  Give her our love and I hope you will know how much she means to all of us.   Prayers are being said for her.  Marty

[gma718]

Have read so many inspirational posts from rmarie..she truly is a remarkable strong woman and I send many prayers to you both.  I am glad to hear she is finally sleeping and that hospice is keeping her comfortable..Stay Strong! Gia :)

[Brownie3321]

To Marie and her husband - I am at a loss, after reading your post I sit here crying trying to type a positive letter. This truly saddens me...it has pushed me over the edge. RMarie is a beautiful woman with remarkable strength and a will to fight. She is loved by so many on this forum. You both are in my prayers. Please let her know I am thinking of her. With love, Deandra

[rootietootie]

I don't know what to say. I am sorry. tell her I love her and am thinking of her everyday.  Shannon

[Helmar]

Dear Marie and hubby....Just sending you blessings from DownUnder. I'm so sorry to hear that the situation isn't the best for Marie, but she is always in my thoughts and prayers. This is one disgusting disease, and yes.. it does rob us all, including our families,  of what should be  happy and pain-free lives. Thinking of you Marie...love..Helen...

[lvfrogs]

There are so many courageous women on this forum and from what I have read Marie was one of them! I am so sorry to hear this news and it really does STINK!  I can only offer up prayers and love - coming your way.
Colleen

[Serenityblue]

I'm so sorry for what you are both going through. Keeping you both in my thoughts x

[vegas2cr]

I am glad she is pain free now.  My prayers continue to both of you.. Thinking of you always Marie, Ronni

[Tybear]

rmarie has always been a huge source of support on this forum...not only to myself but to many, many others. I am so sad to hear how aggressive her cancer is right now. Although it saddens me she is moving on to hospice, I pray it will help her to stay pain free. Please let her know her whole MedHelp family is sending many prayers her way...
I just don't know what else to say...
Becky

[katems]

Just to add to all the above posts that I am so sorry to hear your news.
I am thinking of you and your family with love and prayers and hope that you can find some peace and comfort.

Kate in the uk

[bmcd]

I am so sorry to hear the latest news about rmarie.  Her wisdom, experience, knowledge, and kind words continue to be invaluable to the victims who continue to fight this selfish beast.  My thoughts and prayers continue to be with her and her family at this difficult time.  Take care and rest easy rmarie.

God Bless,
Bob

[Jan214]

I have been trying to think of what to say since this post came up but I can't.  There aren't any words for this.  It is good that she is finally comfortable and able to have some peace with sleep.

I almost didn't answer her last post because I didn't feel well, was rushed for time and didn't know what to say.  Now, I am glad I posted and this should be a reminder to us all that we never know when someones post might be their last one and never put off replying  when you can do it.  

rmarie was ourmarie and I don't know what we will do without her.

[cirella]

NO!  I almost didn't read this b/c I thought it was her previous post.  I'm so sorry!  Marie is a very special person and as you can read, very loved here on the forum.  I'm glad she is finally getting relief from the pain.  Thank you for letting everyone know.  Marie, you and your family are in my prayers.

Lori

[nyc lady]

Marie will be missed by all of us.  She has been an inspiration and a huge help to all of us.  May she be pain free and rest comfortably.
Pam

[marie3B]

I am so sorry. Peace and pain free comfort be with you, rmarie. And you, husband, peace and comfort be with you as well. Love, ovca sister, R. Marie Pierce

[ireneo]

As you can see, Marie is well liked, well loved and has made an impact on the women here. That's a beautiful legacy. One of my favorite quotes is: Life has no meaning except for the impact you have on other people. Do let her know how much love is coming her way and how appreciated she is.

Hospice is a blessing. My Dad was on hospice care and they were wonderful. Take care and know my prayers are with you all as well.

[dian07]

My heart is heavy with this news....your wife is a very special and greatly loved woman here in this world.  She has been here a long time and has shared much of herself and her life with us....she is a strong, generous and wise woman who will be deeply missed.  You must be a special man or she wouldn't be married to you.  I am so glad to hear that her pain is finally under control and she is able to sleep.  Hopefully you will each find your own peace in these final days.....I hope they are truely beautiful days filled with lots of love.  My love goes out to you both.
Peace.
dian

[Casey06]

I am very sorry to hear this news. Rmarie was one who I met early when I first posted this past summer and she was always very helpful and supportive. I hope they can keep you comfortable and that you have peaceful time with your family. God bless my fellow upstate New Yorker.

[crecco]

  I do not even know what to say. Marie and I have e-mailed back and forth and she has always been so strong and supportive to me. I am devistated. I knew that she was not feeling well, but I never dreamed it was this bad. I am glad to hear that she is comfortable now, resting and free of pain.
I pray now that her remaining time is pain free and spent in the company of those who love her. I will continue to pray for her. Please tell her that she is greatly loved by all of us here. May God bless you rmarie.
                        Love Chris

[justscore]

I hope you find the peace you deserve - you are an inspiring person and in reading these posts, a much loved and respected lady.  Fight the beast!  

[Anna-maria74]

How utterly dreadfull - what on Earth can be said! I am so so sad.

We will all be thinking of her

Anna XXXXXXXX

[PF_PVD]

Once again this horrible disease is claiming another brave, beautiful woman, and I don't know which is stronger my sadness or my anger.  I am glad to hear she is getting some relief from the pain as well as the blessed ability to sleep.  I will keep positive thoughts that she spend her days in peace and comfort with the people who love her.  Paula

[Jen Y]

I am deeply saddened to hear about Rita Marie. She has been an incredibly supportive, kind, and important part of the forum. I'm glad she is finally more comfortable.

[freshair]

This demon is so awful. Marie was doing so good and all of a sudden it is taking control. Marie is a wonderful woman on this forum. I have know her for quite some time. My views on chemo are that these second line ones can make it worse or better. What a gamble. My wish for Marie is that her survival far exceeds that of doing any other chemo. Please tell Marie to think of Maine and all good thoughts. We have to stop constantly thinking of this demon. (I am struggling with that myselt) I hope Marie can watch funny movies now that her pain is controlled somewhat. A funny one I like was "Holiday"

Take care of yourself hubby. She is so blessed to have you and thank you for posting.
Lots of love, Helen

[butterflytc]

No words left..so sad, she is in my thoughts and prayers. Angels on your pillow Marie
Love butterflytc

[Cindy]

Words cannot adequately express how deeply sorry we are to hear about Rita Marie.  She is a tremendous asset to our Ovarian Cancer Forum and to the many people whose lives she touched with her love, compassion and grace.  Please know that our thoughts and prayers are with Rita Marie and all who love her.  

If we can be of help in any way, please don't hesitate to contact me.

Cindy Thompson
MedHelp International

[onniebay]

I'm so sorry and sad to hear about Marie.  She is in my thoughts and prayers!