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update on my mom

She's dying.  She might not even make it through the night at this point.  I don't want to go into the details right now.   I'm too upset, and I can hardly see the type this.  all I can say is that DOCTORS REALLY SUCK!!!!!!!!!!!  They delayed her treatment again and again, and now look what's happened.
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I am so sorry. I am wondering where you live and where I could make a Donation to your local Ovarian Cancer Center. Life is so hard. You have had incrediable strength. Please make sure that you are tested for Oc as any daughters you might have as they get older, you have the oppurtunity to stop this from happening to any one else so close to you. I wish you the best in this time of incredible pain and sorrow. Your Mom was so lucky to have you.
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I am so glad that you posted.  We really do not know what the Lord has in store for us, all we can do is go by our faith.  Your mom is proof of that.  I am glad that she is still with you and that you still have time to share.  Remember, death is not the end, only the begining of eternal life.  We will all be together one day, until then we must do what we can to make our time and those around us a peaceful and joyful time here on earth.  We are here for you, please remember that.  Godspeed
~Tascha
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Christine, I'm so sorry.  Your plea really touched my heart and it's just so hard, I know.  I just joined this Forum moments ago (to make this post I'm making now) but please know that both you and your Mother are in my prayers.  My Mother is in the very same situation.  My Mom was diagnosed in June 2003 with stage IIIc Ovarian Cancer and although she's had quite a few ups & downs, she was seemingly doing okay until just a few days ago.  Mom is in the hospital now with a lot of really terrible things going on.  Her sypmtoms are indicating that her cancer has spread to her lungs, her bowel and her urinary tract.  I'm just so incredibly sad that I'm having a hard time putting it into words.  I keep going around my house just muttering, "I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm so sorry"...as if my Mom could hear me...I'm sorry she got this disease, I'm sorry I didn't pick up on any of her symptoms earlier, I'm sorry she's had to go through 3 years of this, I'm so incredibly sorry she's suffering now.  It's just so sad.<br>My Mom is such a trooper.  My Dad died after a long battle with Alzheimer's in March 2003 and Mom was diagnosed within months.  <br>Tonight as I was looking for help in learning how I can help make Mom more comfortable in what I can only surmise are her end days I stumbled upon this site.  What a wonderful support network and what wonderful words of encouragement!  Your posts are heartening to read ~ especially you, (((((Gatsby [Tascha]))))), and (((((Dian))))).  In your words of comfort to Christine, you both have comforted ME too in my time of need and I'm so grateful.  It brought a smile to my face ~ I was holding my Dad's hand when he died too and it was by far the most 'tender' moment I've ever had in my life.<br>I really didn't mean to hijack this post, really.  ((((((Christine)))))), you take good care of yourself.  Don't be too hard on the nurses...they are just trying to have you there for her and just in case.  I got a call last night too.  I felt EXACTLY like you did, but I ended up being really glad I went since I got to spend some time with her (and without all that daytime husstle & bustle)!  And DON'T give up hope...EVER.  I will keep on praying for you and your Mom as well as the other boardies here.  Thank you ((((((all)))))) for being so encouraging.      
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I am so sorry to hear this. Your Mom is so lucky to have a daughter like you. Mary
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She's still alive. She made it through the night.  THe stupid nurse made it sound like it was the end for sure.  She even went to the waiting room and urgently called my aunt and told her that she had to come down to ICU IMMEDIATELY.  THe nurse really thought it was the end...turns out she is fine for the moment.  My aunt told me she thought she was gonna have a heart attack, the nurse scared her so bad.
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Thanks for posting - I have been wondering about her.  Hang in there!
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117289 tn?1391712825
Stay with her.  I held my dad's hand as he died and he looked right into my eyes and held the look until he passed.  It is a moment that only he and I have and I will never, never forget it.  Your mom is lucky to have you by her side as you are so fortunate that she is your mom.  Treasure these times and all others.  We do not know what our time on earth is, but we do know that we are reunited in heaven for eternity.  I am praying for you and your mom, may peace be with you both.  Godspeed
~Tascha
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I can write as many words as I need to....still it is me attempting to satisfy my need to do something.  This is not about me....This is about you.
Your mom is just one step ahead of you on this journey we call life...she is not "gone".....her suffering, if she did suffer, is not in vain...she survived...she is a remarkable woman who is not fearful of the next step and will take it when she is ready....her allowing you to be there with her when she decides to take that step is the ultimate way for her to tell you how much she loves and trusts you.....a greater gift she could not bestow.
I was with my dad when he passed...that was a profound and life changing experience for me.....my understanding of 'death' changed for all time....it continues to be a sad thing, but it is not earth shattering...
I was not with my mom when she passed, but I think somehow she was with me....I don't believe any of us cease to exist....it's just hard on those of us left behind....
Our turn to take that same step will come...hopefully we will show the same courage, trust and love to those who grieve our passing.
I wish you Peace.
dian
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I am so sorry... I pray for you and your families strength.  Be with your mother and hold her close.  Please keep in touch
~N
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So sorry to hear that.  Your family will be in my prayers.
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I am so sorry!  I will tell you the whole diagnosing ovarian cancer really sucks.  There should be more.  testing available that allows for it to be found a little sooner so treatments can be given and lives extended a little longer. i am sorry for what you are losing but I am sure the end to your mother's suffering will be a welcome to you.  I will keep you and your family in my prayers.
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Christine, I am praying for you and your entire family.  I am so sorry to hear things have taken a turn for the worse.  I wish there was something I could say to bring you comfort, but just know we are all thinking about you and offering you our support.  God bless you all.

Gail
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Oh gosh I am so sorry - I will be thinking of you and praying for all of you.  Hang in there and try to be at peace with her right now.  God bless you all.
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I'm sorry to hear about your Mother. Spend as much time possible as you can with her. We are all thinking of you and your Mum.

Kate xxx
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Im so sorry about your moms condition.  I pray for you and your moms health to strengthen and improve.  I will pray for you.
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I am so sorry to hear about your mom...I will keep you and you mom and family in my prayers. and you just stay strong for your mom..she really needs you right now...hugs and prayers lou
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