vomitting blood

[annetti]

My mother has been suffering from ovarian cancer for the last 8 years.  Over these 8 years she has been having chemotherapies every few months.  The last 3 years the chemos have become more often and her condition worsened.  She is becoming weaker.  She finished the last course of chemo three months ago and her doctor said she needs to have another course, starting next week.  She is very weak now, vomitting every day.  The last two days her vomit was dark brown.  It looked to me like blood.  Is this common with ovarian cancer, or could it be something else?  Her doctor hasn't said anything about a metastasis.  

[Knotmeg]

Anna,
I'm so sorry.
Meg

[butterflytc]

Thank you for responding, I know this is a rough time for you right now,and I appreciate your checking in. I hope you are feeling better day by day, and moment by moment.

((hugs))
butterflytc

[annetti]

thank you so much for the lovely poem.

God bless you
Anna
xxx

[annetti]

thank you for the kind words.  They touched my heart at a time that I needed it so much.  Keep well.

lots of love
Anna
xxx

[butterflytc]

When I read this thread, it brings me back two yrs. My mom lost her fight with cancer after a 12 yr. battle (CLL and non hodkins). The last days of her life were very hard. I spent the night shifts with her and my sister the days. Hospice had mom on morphine and said she was not in pain (I am on morphine myself, and experience horrid nightmares at times, that is why I wanted the night shifts.) It was nice to sit with her, and when she became restless, I felt I was able to bring her comfort, just by holding her hand and telling her it was o.k. She was a trooper. Her brothers and sisters flew out from Ireland to be with her in the end. She knew they were coming, and I think it gave her great ease, even though she was no longer able to talk to them in the end, I believe she knew they were with her.
   When my mom took her last breathe, I said Thank you God. I knew her suffering was finally over. She didnt quit, Cancer just won. She is at peace, and that filled me with great peace, and I know she is looking down, and helping me fight this disease too.
   I hope you both find that same peace.
God Bless
butterflytc
  

[kimmywah]

My deepest sympathy to you and your family for the passing of your dear Mum.  i haven't been on the forum very long, and don't answer many posts, but wanted to say that you have been a wonderful caring daughter and your Mum would have felt your love around her.
For your Mum..

May the blessing of the rain be on you—
the soft sweet rain.
May it fall upon your spirit
so that all the little flowers may spring up,
and shed their sweetness on the air.
May the blessing of the great rains be on you,
may they beat upon your spirit
and wash it fair and clean,
and leave there many a shining pool
where the blue of heaven shines,
and sometimes a star.
May the good earth be soft under you
when you rest upon it,
and may it rest easy over you when,
at the last, you lay out under it,
And may it rest so lightly over you
that your soul may be out
from under it quickly,
and up, and off,
And be on its way to God.

Peace...Kim

[annetti]

Dear Sam

My mum passed last Wednesday morning, after 8 days in a comma.  Thankfully she didn't seem to be in pain, I don't know how we would have coped if she had been suffering during her last days.  I thought of you a lot since, and especially what you said about missing your mum, but not missing seeing her suffer.  That's exactly how I feel, although every day since her passing seems a little bit more difficult to get through. I hope it will get better as time goes by.  I am very thankful for my two sisters, my husband and my daughters.  We have helped each other during my mum's 8 years of suffering and we continue to do so during this difficult time of mourning.  

I do hope that you have people that you can count on.  If you feel like sharing your thoughts I will be here for you.  I can't tell you how much I appreciate your responces through the hedhelp forum during the last couple of months.  

God bless you,

Take care

Anna
xxx

[annetti]

My mum was doing very well the last 3-4 days.  She was getting stronger by the day.  That was until yesterday afternoon when suddenly she got a high temperature and we had to rush her to the oncology center.  They kept her in for treatment.  It seems that she has some sort of infection.  There must be something wrong with her kidneys.  Hopefully she will get over this one as well.  

All this has brought home the fact that we should expect this kind of emergencies that seem to come suddenly, out of the blue.

If any of these sound familiar, please let me know.  I find it better to know what lies ahead so that I am better prepared but at the same time always hope for the best.

I know exactly what you mean by saying you have done a lot of grieving when your mother was still alive.  I do that a lot and it makes me feel guilty, because I fell I should be possitive but sadly I manage that less and less.

love
anna xxx

[SAm_in_the_UK]

I wondered how your mum is doing ? And you also ? I know what you mean when you talk about being at breaking point. I done a lot of grieving before my mum actually passed away.
I will try your hotmail address too, but wanted to post just incase I have problems in e:mailing you.
Love, Sam x

[annetti]

Dear Sam,

Thank you for your support. It means so much to me.  I have tried to email on the address you mentioned, but for some reason I couldn't.  My email is "anna12665'at'hotmail.com

I think that, what we are going through with my mum, seeing her suffering is the worst.  I think that when the inevitable happens it won't be as bad as this is.  But I have no way of knowing for sure and that terrifies me.

The truth is she is slightly better the last couple of days, although very weak still.  She has been through all this, many times before. Especially the last 2-3 years, every time she was bad, we thought that was the end.  But somehow she always managed to get through ok, till the next time.  

Personally though, I am at breaking point, breaking down when I don't expect it (never in front of her though), when I think I have my feelings "under control".

I can only imagine what goes through someone's mind when they are diagnosed with this terrible desease, but I know for sure how hard it is on the person's family.  I hope all this doesn't bring bad memories for you.  I hope you are coping well after your mother passed.   You seem to me like a very sensitive and caring person.

All the best

xxx

[SAm_in_the_UK]

try again ! samben26 'at' hotmail.co.uk

[SAm_in_the_UK]

My mum was comfortable and free of pain when she passed. She was under hospice care and they were fantastic. I know its not something you want to think of, I was the same. If ever you do need to chat please don't hesitate to post. You can always email me on ***@****. I hope your mum is having some good days. Love Sam x

[annetti]

I was very sad to read that your mum has passed away.  It is something that i dread but try to be prepared for, as my mum has been suffering for many years and is getting weaker.  I hope your mum didn't suffer at the end.  

annetti xx

[SAm_in_the_UK]

Hi annetti, Im glad your mum is receiving treatment and hope that it is successful. Thanks for thinking of my mum but sadly she passed away 6 months ago. Please keep us posted on how your mum is doing. Much love, Sam x

[annetti]

thanx for your responce.  Yes a bowel blockage does sound possible.  She is now in hospital, receiving treatment and not allowed to eat anything because she vomits as soon as she eats something, just as you mentioned.  The doctor said that she has an infection as well (possibly kidney infection) and a slight temperature as well.  We just hope she will be well enough by 8th of May because she is scheduled for a chemo.

I hope your mum is feeling better.

xxx

[SAm_in_the_UK]

Im sorry your mum is suffering so much. In my mums case she did start to vomit dark brown and dark green, this was when she had a bowel blockage, as soon as she eat she would vomit. Could your mum have a blockage ? Much love to you and your mum. Sam x