Surgery on Friday and feeling uneasy

[anc86]

Hi All,

I posted on here last week because I  was diagnosed with a 6 cm complex cyst. Fortunately my doctor quickly scheduled my surgery for me (one week later) this Friday. I am feeling uneasy because there has been some health insurance problems (I'm HMO) and my doctor said he doesn't get paid to do this type of surgery but he will anyway since I'm an exsisting patient and that he wants to take care of me as soon as he can. What I am also worried about is that my mom has been coming to me on all my appt. and asking him questions (about insurance). Then my doctor called me this morning to say that "he doesn't care for my mom" and that he "is uncomfortable with her in the room, but he likes me and wants to take care of me". I am all worried now that he won't do a good job and no other doctor can get me in for like another 2 months (because of holidays!) As far as I know I am still going in on Friday but am worried out of my mind! Not only am I uneasy that this is cancerous and about having surgery, now I am uneasy about this! I would appriciate any feedback!

[anc86]

Hi again,

Well it's the day before my surgery and I'm so nervous! Not to mention I'm dehydrated and hungry as heck because of the pre surgery stuff I've been drinking all day. I can't seem to stop worrying no matter what I do, I just want everything to be okay. I am not having any symptoms what-so-ever regarding my cyst, just an occasional dull ache. Is that normal? Most things I've read on here people seem to be doubled over in pain and can't even stand it. I feel fine except for the worry and stress.

[ireneo]

Because of HIPAA laws, technically your Mom doesn't have a right to be in the room with you and the doctor doesn't have to share your health information with her. Obviously you've given permission for her to come in and that's the only reason she's there.

It wasn't very professional for him to say he doesn't "care for" your Mom but OK to say she makes him uncomfortable. My Dad's doctor ran into the same problem with my Mom. She was very outspoken and rude to the doc at times. He would do the bare minimum and then ask her to step outside for a few minutes so he could examine my Dad. That's when the doc felt he had the freedom to talk to my Dad openly about his health. There are ways to handle these sensitive situations.

I agree, your doctor isn't going to do a bad surgery on you as some kind of pay-back. That's unethical and mean. He doesn't sound like he wants to hurt you in any way. He wants to help. If he's been good to you all these years, I think he's earned your trust.

[anc86]

The funny thing is, I'm not really having any symptoms of my cyst. I mean I have occasional discomfort, but nothing major. I think I feel more of the stress I'm going through, not wanting to eat, losing weight, my brain is just totally zoned out...

[babypooh]

Well, at least the doctor already knows you, that's always better.  I know you're going to worry, but try not to, honey.  Seriously, cysts are almost always benign and especially in young girls like yourself.  The doctors have to be honest with you and they have to tell you if there's a chance however miniscule it is.  Don't worry, you'll be fine.

[anc86]

They said they will not have a gyn/onc on site (once again because of insurance reasons) and that if they cyst looks suspicious they are just going to remove my entire ovary. I think the cyst is pretty much on top of my ovary so chances are it's too involved to just remove the cyst. My doctor is a gynecologist and he has removed a cyst before on me when I was 16, but in the meantime (I'm 22 now) his surgical contract with my insurance has changed. I'm glad he is doing all he can do to help me, but it just took me by surprise when he said that. The most I am worried about is the surgery itself (hate it) and whether or not this damn thing is going to be cancer! :o(

[babypooh]

I'm sure your mother doesn't want to make anyone uncomfortable.  I understand all your worries, but the worst you can do to yourself right now is worry too much.  Just remember that most cysts are benign and if it makes you feel better, why not ask your mom to just remain silent and tell her that it's because she makes you more nervous or something like that?  Good luck this Friday.  I will pray that everything goes well for you.  Get lots of rest after, okay?  Let us know how everything goes. Everything will turn out fine, try not to worry.

[TrudieC]

If the doctor has committed to doing the surgery then I can't imagine he would risk his reputation and medical license by not doing a good job because of insurance or your Mom.  It was unprofessional for him to say what he did about your Mom but it is good that he cares about you and is ensuring you will be taken care of.  Can I assume he is a gynecologist at least?  Will they have a gyn/onc on call to do a frozen section should the cyst appear suspicious?  Those are the things you should be worrying about.  Take care, Trudie