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Hello - I had my ovaries removed when I had my baby 4 months ago. I am 32 years old and chose to have them removed because my 34 year old sister has ovarian cancer and my risk is very high. My sister's survival rate is very low and everyday is a blessing to spend with her.
However, I am not sure that I made the correct choice. No one told me that I would be going through menopausal stages after the surgery. No one told me that I would be so dry that I would not be able to have sex with my husband. No one told me that I would have absolutely no sex drive. No one told me that I would have discharge coming from somewhere and that no one knows what it is, so I just have to live with it.
Right now my biggest issue is my relationship. I do not want to have sex, but I will for my husband. How can I make it more comfortable? Righ now, it is SO painful that I need to to stop. FYI: I have tried lubricants.
However, I am not sure that I made the correct choice. No one told me that I would be going through menopausal stages after the surgery. No one told me that I would be so dry that I would not be able to have sex with my husband. No one told me that I would have absolutely no sex drive. No one told me that I would have discharge coming from somewhere and that no one knows what it is, so I just have to live with it.
Right now my biggest issue is my relationship. I do not want to have sex, but I will for my husband. How can I make it more comfortable? Righ now, it is SO painful that I need to to stop. FYI: I have tried lubricants.
The thing about bio-identical hormones is that they are real hormones and not synthetic and made in a lab. Here are a few web sites that you can do some research.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bioidentical_hormone_replacement_therapy
http://www.womentowomen.com/bioidentical-hrt/default.aspx
Theses are just a few of many sites you can do some research on. It is the best (In my opinion) because it is the same as YOUR hormones. Let me know what you think after reading these sites.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bioidentical_hormone_replacement_therapy
http://www.womentowomen.com/bioidentical-hrt/default.aspx
Theses are just a few of many sites you can do some research on. It is the best (In my opinion) because it is the same as YOUR hormones. Let me know what you think after reading these sites.
Thank you for the suggestion of bio-identical hormones. I will check into that. I am suppose to take a hormone supplement called prempro. However, the side effects have cancer written all over them. I had my ovaries out to avoid cancer and therefore I do not feel comfortable taking them.
Thanks Again!
Thanks Again!
Im so sorry to here your story tinatbone, What a time you have had. Im not in the same situation as you , i became post menopause naturally at the age of 43, but i do understand your probs with your sex life as i have experienced similar probs. Is your pain due to the dryness, if so i hope you dont mind me being quite personal but, we did not get on with any creams and stuff , but just plain water. kept a bowl by the bed when we were to have sex and a lot of foreplay, my husband kept the water being put on, this enabled me to keep moist and then when we did have sex it was not half as bad as before. Also Tina as for your sex drive, you are only 4 months after giving birth and major surgery, dont be so hard on yourself ,Not alot of women want it for a long time after giving birth without having the added surgery. Take care and we are always here to help x
I don't have much to add except there are lubricants that you can insert in the form of a capsule and that might make the moisture seem more 'natural'.. but you may have tried that. Sorry to hear about your sister and your problems now, but staying healthy is the most important thing. Perhaps you could talk to both your medical doctor and a couples councilor. I'm sure that your symptoms are physical, don't get me wrong, but addressing the problem in therapy may also help.
Hi Tina and welcome to the forum. I too am very sorry about your sister. I can understand why you chose to remove your ovaries. I am very surprised that your doctor didn't talk to you about surgical menopause. What a horrible shock that must have been to you. Are you able to do hormone replacement therapy? If so, that may help with the dryness. I would recommend bio-identical hormones as they are made specifically for your needs. You can talk to your about this. Only certain pharmacies do this kind of hormones. It is so worth it though. KY doesn't help with the dryness? I can understand how this is affecting your relationship. It sounds like you have a caring husband though. You could call your doctor and see if there is any lubricant you can get that is prescription strength (just pulling that out of this air, so don't even know if that is possible LOL). I will try doing some research tonight to see if I can find some information for you. Please come here as often as you need to to vent or just to get support. We are all here for you. Best of luck!
hi tina i am sorry to read about your sister,i feel for you tina you have alot going on ,i am glad you joined our forum you will get good advice and support here from very sincere woman , i lost one ovary so i wouldent have the menopausal thing going on ,you did make the right choice with your ovarys tina ,with your sisters illness you were very strong to make that choice some times in life things happen for a reason please keep posted let us know how you are keeping god bless x
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