How to Deal with Unresolved PTSD???

Hello, I am new here, My name is LindaJo, I'm here for a variety of reasons, I hope to find some kind of support here, for I fear I might not be around much longer if I don't find some help. I'm 47, going on about 87, I stay in my bed, about 20 hrs a day. I have No Desire to do Anything. Just sleep. I have thyroid disease, hypo, very low, as well as suffer from yrs of depression & anxiety.
I want to speak a little about PTSD. Many years ago, I was married at 17 & we had a baby girl. I was married for only a few yrs & my husband was killed in a violent car crash, which I blame myself for to some degree, I Never got to say "goodbye or I love You". I still feel like All these yrs & yrs later, I still haven't gotten over this. I think about him just abt every single day. Since I lost "him", I have had nothing but a series of bad relationships. I get Exhausted talking about this, or even thinking about this. Just like Now, I usually have to stop the conversation b4 getting too far involved in it because I simply Don't have the energy to finish. But I'm "trying" to reach out.....

[drifter0213]

you came to the right web-site for support i think you should probably try talking about what bothers you like make a list of your stressors i was nearly killed in action in '94 there is not a day that goes by that i relieve what happened to me so keep talking ok

[brice1967]

I'm no doctor, but that totally sounds like PTSD and depression to me.  It is treatable.  You've come this far and its a great first step.  Find a mental health professionl that specializes in PTSD and work with that person.
You'll be required to go over your husbands death numerous times, and it will be exhausting, but you will have to get to the root of the problem in order to get proper treatment.

Good luck to you.

[Gio77Italy]

It does sound like a stress disorder. Meds can't help you, if u started taking sedatives it would work on some of the symptoms in the short term but in the long term they'd destroy you.

Are you sure that you didn't suffer from any more recent trauma? Old stress episodes always stay "under the skin", even from childhood, until they are brought to the surface by an event in adult age.

You need to realize something first: it is absolutely typical when you are "inside it" to think that you'll never come out of it, that it's over for you, there is nothing you can do. You could be absolutely convinced that there is nothing that can be done. All the people who recovered from stress disorders had the same feeling. and some actually never recovered at all, suicide risk is high especially for people who are on drugs or alcohol.

If you're in this type of stress disorder you should notice two symptoms in particular:

# disconnection from your surroundings: the emotions you once felt are now dim. imagine that emotions and feelings were sounds, you're now like half-deaf. this is a defense of your organism so that external inputs can't do any more harm to you.

# preoccupation for minor issues and family tasks. you could spill a bit of milk on the floor and feel sorry like you'd just triggered an atomic device. this goes along with indecision, lack of concentration.

don't think of depression as a cause, rather as a symptom of all that.

You need to find a therapist to talk to WEEKLY. not only it would help you to talk, but it would help you to have a fixed schedule every week, a new goal.

You need to start slowly to reconnect with people. especially with men. absolutely avoid contrasts and discussions. do not judge, it will only do you harm. if you're religious join a prayer community, you need to be in a community, a group of people it will help you greatly to come out of it.

Good Luck!

[Gio77Italy]

ps

start a daily diary of all the things you do, people you meet, symptoms etc