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Hi everyone I am a 22 year old female and I am heart broken. I started talking to Mike,(29 years old) on Facebook early April, he is in the military and is currently on active duty. Anyway, we instantly hit it off, we would talk on the phone for hours every night before bed and text all day long. A week after only talking he told me he loved me and cared for me so much and someday wanted me to be his wife. Well a few days later we arranged to meet and it was literally love at first sight, he got teary eyed when he saw me and hugged me so tight and said how much he loved me. Well everyday was the same, he would text me all day even at his unit he would log into the computers and message me on Facebook, compliment me, send me pictures, and would ask if he can come over and see me. I started having feelings for him and my love for him grew but recently about a month ago he started texting me less and less, cancel plans to come see me, and just not text me at all. I felt hurt and immediately thought that he had lost interest in me. He never asked me to be his girlfriend but assured me that someday we would be together. Well after not hearing from him for over a week I sent him a long text message saying how hurt I felt that he wasnt communicating with me and how fast he had pushed me away and if he wasn't interested in me at all to tell me so I can stop having these false hopes that maybe he was just busy and didnt have the time.
Later that evening he called me and apologized and said that he was planning a training in a different base and was very busy but was slightly depressed with everything bad that was happening to him. He assured me that he loved me and cared for me and that it wasnt always going to be this way and take it day by day but didnt want me out of his life. He also stated that he felt that he has PTSD but has never officially been diagnosed and doesn't feel like he needs to see a doctor. I forgot to mention that when he was texting me less often, the messages werent very interesting, while I would say "Hi love how are you?" His replied would always be "really" or "ok" or sometimes he wouldnt text back. I felt maybe I was moving too fast and needed to tone it down a bit but he said no it wasnt me it was him. Well, I texted him today after not hearing from him for three days and I let him know that I think of him and I love him very much and I will wait for him and that if he does has ptsd that he needed to seek help for it. I sent that in the morning and haven't hear back from him. I feel really depressed, I have a 15 month old and he has an 9 year old son, he has been cheated on with both of his previous spouses and I dont know how to help him, this silent treatment is killing me inside and Idont know what to do other than tell him that I will wait. Any advice would be appreciated thank you.
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